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writes:To cut things short, I was dating this guy I met at my uni.. We weren't seeing each other for long, we met, he got my number, we spoke on whatsapp for a week or so and then decided to meet up.We saw each other three times. We went out to dinner, then he came to my house once and I went to his house.We live about 15 mins away from each other (by walking).Dates went well, we kissed on all occasions, and he seemed to show interest in me.After the third date, he walked me back home, we spoke the next day, he seemed quite off-ish so I left it.And ever since then, he's been ignoring me.It has now been two weeks and I'm over it but it felt like such a big slap in the face that he ignored me completely! A few days after I saw him I wrote "Is something wrong because everything seemed fine when I saw you" and he ignored that, so I left it for 2 weeks and this morning I wrote "Hello stranger, how have you been?" (not because I want him back but just to see if he would carry on ignoring or actually reply back) and he ignored that too.Now, Im 20 and hes 21, we are very social on networking sites. He has whatsapp, instagram and twitter. We have added each other on all 3, so I know he's available and not busy, he's always online on whatsapp throughout the day, so I know for a fact hes ignoring and not because he's busy.My question is, why do guys do this? What are the possible reasons for them to ignore the girl out of the blue and stop contact with her?I didn't do anything to him, I gave him space, I left it for a few days to ask if something was wrong, I then left it another 2 weeks to contact him again. So I wasn't smothering him.It's such a big slap in the fact, because he didn't even have the courtesy to tell me what happened or even bullshit me with some excuses, he just completely ignores me as if I don't even exist.I have tried asking him but obviously I'm not getting answers, because hes ignoring me... Which is why I'm trying to get an insight on what could've happened? Reply to this Question
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reader, hotmommanell  +, writes (11 February 2013):
NEXT! This is a classic sign of "he's just not that into you" or he's a homicide victim, either way, you need to move on. Don't spend one more second worrying about this guy or what happened. He hasn't spoken to you for two freaking weeks!!!
Why do guys do this? They're cowards. Think of it as a gift. Better to find out a guy is a flake that doesn't want you than to wake up months or God forbid, years later to learn the same thing.
Let it go, book a massage appointment and mani-pedi and get back out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2013): come on! you guys were just dating casually, not like you were in a relationship. obviously after he got to know you better he didnt't feel you are right for him. he's not obliged to offer you any explanation, he's not boyfriend. Him plainly ignoring you is a good enough answer. get over with it girl.
just because you don't think you didnt do anything wrong, doesnt mean he found all of your actions and words attractive. it's ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2013): I don't want to upset or worry you, but i once went on a couple of dates with a guy, and they seemed to go well, but then he started to ignore me for a few weeks whenever i texted him, until eventually, he said he didn't think it was going to work out between us. He said it was because he was "too busy" with work. He did work a lot of hours, but i didn't believe that was the reason. That was back in 2007. I added him on facebook in 2010 and i ended up finding out the truth. On his facebook page, it said he was in a relationship with someone, and it said the anniversary of the date they got together, which was a few days before he told me that it wasn't going to work out between us !. So obviously, he had decided to choose her over me. He is still on my friends list ( i'm over what happened between us, and i'm in another relationship myself now ) . He has a baby with his girlfriend now. That might not necessarily be what is happening with the guy you went out with, but it's possible. He should have the decency to tell you what has happened, even if he is afraid that the truth could hurt you. You deserve to know the truth. I thought the same when the guy i went out with did that to me at the time.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (11 February 2013):
 HI
I agree with so very confused completely erase him from your online accounts it will help to move forward. There are plenty of guy's out there who would treat you with respect. And if for any reason it turns out he did infact have a valid reason then you can go from there.
Mandy x
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (11 February 2013):
 If a man can't man up and tell you what exactly he feels and leave you out there just like that,wouldn't be man enough to care for you even!
I think you should stop wasting time on this dweeb,whose enjoying the attention your giving him by texting even if its after a gap of few days!
Let him go,don't text don't call,if it hurts his ego ur not calling him anymore,he may be random and text you out of the blue but then you need to ignoree,give him a taste of his own medicine;) this guy lost you!he's the unlucky one..so don't break ur head over him..good luck ..
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 February 2013):
 NOT all guys do this..
why did HE do it? who knows we can only guess.
but clearly it was just a case of he didn't feel it and he's not mature enough or does not have the social skills to say "hey you're great just not for me"
I guess he figures saying nothing is better than being uncomfortable.
It's not a reflection on you and there is nothing you can do to make him talk.
what i would do for your peace of mind and to get on with your life is to unfriend him on all social media. delete his phone number and his email and just get on with life.
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