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writes:After a year, my break up , i couldn't find anyone to be with.I'm alone , 27 . and i showed my intention to girls but there is no respond.my big problem is i have no company to go with friends. because i'm working hard on my thesis , and always on work or busy.complicated situation. loneliness. Libido...who knows what should i do?is there any experience like mine?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 February 2013):
 It can take time to heal from a big break up....
You have a lot on your plate working on your thesis and I'm sure that takes most of your time... focus on that as it's a temporary thing.
YOU said "I couldn't find anyone to be with" IF you are looking very hard to find someone you will probably not find them.... usually you have to be OPEN and receptive to meeting someone without trying too hard an that's when it happens. People can SENSE desperation and NEED and it's a turn off.... even if they don't know WHY they are not interested, that's a subtle subconscious vibe they get.
What do you do for fun? DO you have hobbies that you might meet suitable women at? I know I met my husband at a board gaming convention.... and I was not looking for anyone...
as for your libido... I suggest masturbation in private as a way to release tension and stress as well as reduce the raging libido issues.
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reader, mts9290 +, writes (12 February 2013):
As cliche as this may sound, I firmly believe that you will find love when you are least expecting it. When you are constantly thinking about being alone and being single, you definitely feel those things and are almost forcing yourself to find a relationship. However, I think when you are least expecting it and aren't looking so hard for it, love or a relationship will find you. Try focusing on your thesis and enjoying life. Eventually, whether it be sooner or later, you will find the perfect girl for you. Stay positive! Good luck!
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reader, hotmommanell +, writes (12 February 2013):
Breaking up S-U-C-K-S, I know. But you’re writing a thesis? That’s AWESOME and important work and frankly, you really don’t have time for chicks right now. Plus, you need time to heal from that hussy you broke up with. So what if you don’t have “company” when you go out. If it’s that important to you hire an escort, I don’t know. You’re writing a thesis, dude. You ARE busy. I think your friends probably get that. The best cure for broken-hearted loneliness is to dive into your work. Take care of your business now, and then your mind and time will be free late to concentrate on finding that special someone. I know it’s tough. I’ve been there, but grab your cajones and man up.
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reader, Nik9 +, writes (11 February 2013):
I went through a terrible breakup from a man I was with for 3 years. It took me a long time to get over him but when I did I felt renewed, and fresh. I felt like all the pain I went through mourning my loss had not been in vain because I was starting with a clean slate. I began to enjoy being single after being tied down for so long. I recommend that you try to find meaning in this time in your life. Being alone means you have time to get to know yourself better and to work on your life in other areas. Believe me, being single is NOT the end of the world. This time is for YOU to reflect on bad decisions from your past, move on and grow into a stronger person. Love will eventually find you. You are still very young. If love is what you seek I would not go looking for it too hard. Let her come to you.
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reader, Itxi  +, writes (11 February 2013):
 You have to question yourself why you want a relationship. Is it because you miss what you had with your ex? You shouldn't go after something you had with someone else, all relationships are different.
You shouldn't date just to avoid being alone.
You need to be comfortable as yourself without anyone before you'll find someone who makes you truly happy.
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