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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How do I speak to this guy without being too forward?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4322 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - The guy I like has just broken up with his girlfriend. We don't speak, only ever see each other around college however I want to start speaking to him, I don't want to straight away as he has just come out of a relationship and I'm not the sort to be full on and try and get ... (124 words)

What should I do about the mutual attraction between my friend and I?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4322 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - just a quick one.. I'm sexually attracted to my best friend who is ofcourse, a guy. When we're together, he often gets hard when we hug and such. Theres a mutual attraction between us that won't budge. What do I do? thanks... (50 words)

After a month of dating he's still into porn and doesn't like it that I complained

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4323 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I was moaning at my boyfriend for not appreciating me sexually more than he did, and he said what after a month of dating? Does he have a fair point? I was moaning at him for still being interested in porn.... (41 words)

I feel like we are best friends and nothing more

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's my best friend and I enjoy spending time with him but lately I am starting to feel like we are just best friends, nothing more. I don't have any sexual feeling towards him and sex often makes me cry. I have broached the subject with ... (104 words)

Why are men so confusing?! HELP!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, hope someone can tell me why men are so confusing?!! I went on a date two weeks ago with a co-worker. I've liked him for a while, but was badly hurt last year so this is the first person I've actually wanted to date. We had an amazing date, literally laughed all the way ... (282 words)

Looking for words of encouragement with this break up

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi folks. This is my first post here in about five years ago, when I split up with my ex. Here I am again in a similar situation although now I have three beautiful children to add to the equation . I'm absolutely gutted! We have been together for over 4 years and ha... (397 words)

How can I tell him that I love him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together just over 3 months and Im in love with him. The problem is that I've held back in telling him so because of commiment issues from my last relationship. I'm scared of his reaction. He tells me when he is drunk that he loves me but i usu... (149 words)

Boyfriend keeps saying he'll come over but he never shows up. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Saturday. My boyfriend went home after lunch at my place, saying he had to change his clothes. He never came back. Sunday morning. He texts saying he had to work. Which is acceptable. He said he was very, very tired and that he was going to take a nap. I reminded him tha... (305 words)

I met my ex after our break up and found his behavior rather strange. Am I just overthinking?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4216 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up with my ex about a year and a half ago, and I hadn't seen him again until last week when we were both staying for the weekend with the same friend. I thought about him for a very long time after our break up and even though I think I'm fine now I was still nervous ... (304 words)

How do I find out if this girl is up for fun?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - hi probably not the best site to post this, and imagine ill get some abuse, basicly my mate works at a shop and has started bringing a few friends out with him for me and our other friends to meet, we all smoke weed (his new buddys included) we go to my mates house about 3 ... (313 words)

My wife is 7 months pregnant. Is it normal for me to feel aroused around her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4323 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been married to my wife for two years, now she is 7months pregnant,Is it normal for me to feel horny and aroused wheneva I look at her or touches her?... (32 words)

My husband as an actor has to simulate sexual scenes onstage and I don't like it at all! How do I cope?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4297 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm going through a really tough time just now. My husband of 19 years is an actor- 8 years into our marriage( we married very young) he trained in acting and has done lots of fairly small screen/stage productions. He's a good-looking guy and regularly gets cast as the love ... (171 words)

Why does she not wish to be involved with me? What is she thinking?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 51-59 - I'm 40 years old and my love interest (I'll call her "Ann") is 3 years younger. We were together many years ago when we were teenagers. She gave birth to our daughter who is now in her 20s. Ann and I broke up and she eventually went on to get married and had 2 more children. ... (566 words)

I want to talk to this guy but don't want to seem too forward

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4322 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I just recently moved to a new town. It's a little beach town, and in the summer I know it will be easy to make friends but being winter, it's pretty dead. Im currently between jobs so the only people I'm around are those in my community college classes. Most of them I have no ... (252 words)

Should I wait awhile before contacting her again so I don't give her the wrong impression?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone. So a couple days ago I reconnected with an old friend on Facebook. She is a year older than me and we haven't spoke since she graduated 12 years ago. We have both moved away from our home state but are still only a short distance away from each other. The thing ... (275 words)

Isn't there supposed to be a hymen?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi i'm a virgin and i try to finger my self but there was nothing that stops me i even use marker(coz my fingers are little) and it doesn't even hurt.wasn't there suppose to be my hymen?... (37 words)

Should I keep him in my life as a friend knowing he'll never love me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3889 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm seventeen and I've been in love with a guy for over two years. When I was in the 9th grade, we dated for pretty much the entire year...until he broke up with me. Even though we were young, we knew that we loved each other. He moved away just a couple months before we broke ... (959 words)

Why does a guy keep coming back into my life now and then when sex isn't a part of the relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Why would a man keep coming back into my life periodically...when he's not getting sex? I dated this guy who began ignoring me, and then came back after a month...everyone online is telling me he doesn't like me. If that's the case...why did he come back at all? Sex off the... (56 words)

I want to be reborn again and save my life. Do I have to leave my boyfriend then?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - okay Help please!! hi everyone, i am a girl and i am 21. I wan't to change my life i wan't to be born again so what are the do's and dont's. i am in a relationship with a guy i love. so do i leave him after being saved or what????... (52 words)

Will my boyfriend judge my family if I tell him about my abusive father?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4323 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, I'l get straight to the point,I'v never had a daughter-father relationship with my dad,we never shared,talked about problems,I always soo scared of him cuz he was an abusive father and as a child I heard him shout and raise his hands on my mom,and this happened every da... (210 words)

Was I wrong to finally snap and publicly humiliate and insult someone who had been talking trash about me for over a year?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4323 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi. I am looking for advice on whether I did the right thing or not. My boyfriend has this girl friend, who I have only met a handful of times, who has a lot of animosity toward me. I had always been really nice to her the times I ran into her. When I first met her and her ... (857 words)

I don't want to be his fallback girl while he looks for his fantasy woman!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Where to begin? My issues with this relationship have been ongoing. The guy and I were friends and coworkers when we first got together, a rebound relationship after his devastating divorce and subsequent lay-off left him crushed. I was needy too, overweight and loveless, and ... (785 words)

My fiance keeps asking me if I love him. Whats really going on?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4321 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age - My fiance keeps asking if I love him. He will ask, Do you "really" love me? Then he asks if I am living with him because I have no other place to go. Btw-I've got the means to go anywhere. I am here because I want to be with him. Then he will ask me if I am here only ... (181 words)

Mixed Signals From A Guy I REALLY Like

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am seriously conflicted about something and really need some guidance from those that personally don't know me because I know you all will be honest! I will do the best I can to keep this as the condensed version, but I do apologize in advance if this becomes too wordy. And ... (928 words)

My boyfriend's family hates me and are constantly putting me down. I don't know what to do...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend's family are very judgmental and take any benign and often positive information they can dig about me and put a negative spin on it. They twist reality in such a way so that nothing I say or do is good enough. If they hear anything positive about me, they pretend ... (393 words)

I have proof that my boyfriend cheated but how do I get him to admit it?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4322 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - i had a suspision that my boyfriend was cheating so i set up a recorder one nite and sure enough i got my evidence but he stil denies it. How to i get him to tell the truth?... (40 words)

My wife confessed that she cheated and our 4 year old daughter isn't mine. How do we proceed from here?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4323 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm 32, and my wife's 31; been together for 9 years now. We have a 5-year-old son and 4-year-old daughter. Last night she told me she had something to confess; I asked her what it was, and she admitted to me: "Our 4-year-old daughter isn't mine, someone else is the father". ... (611 words)

There's a thief in my house and my parents won't help me pin them down

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay, so i have a paper round every weekend i get paid £18, and i have been saving my money for ages, basically on Friday i had 5 £20 notes for sure positive certain and a £5 note i counted it all and i definitely did not spend it. So i had £100 in £20 notes. Fact. But then ... (195 words)

I told a lie and now its going to come back and bite me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age - Hello. I told my partner a lie and now its come back to haunt. I basically I told that I did not slept with the gu y when I di He said he believes me . The guy said he's going to tell him. Am really scared that I might lost him. Should I tell him the true or keep denying ... (84 words)

What does it mean if I am attracted to a girl but don't immediately want to sleep with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3888 days ago

18 February 2013 (M) age 30-35 - I was having an argument with a guy about attraction and I was saying that physical attraction does not always equate to sexual attraction and wanting to bed a girl. When I crush/like a girl it's not her panties that I am after her body is not what I appreciate most ... (249 words)

Why is my ex calling me and hurting me when he doesn't want us to be together?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid My bf broke up with me few days back, he called me today, i thought he is gonna give this relationship another chance took his call, stupid of me. He said as far as he is concerned i dont exist and cut the call. Why does he have to call me again and hurt me lik... (109 words)

He said we were more like friends and we haven't spoken in 3 days. Is it over?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4325 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - We've only been together for 2 months, I know it's really short but we like each other so much. Me and my boyfriend were completely fine, then all of a sudden our conversations have gotten shorter and shorter, then finally I asked him whats going on. I asked him if he still ... (167 words)

He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4289 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age - I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after 6 long yrs of being ... (260 words)

Have I spoiled my last child to the point where he doesn't want to grow up?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid ,I have raised my children from babies to adults my daughter has graduated and has a job and moved on with her life. Now my son is the last one with me at home he will be 18 in nine months I told him his gravy train will end on his eighteenth birthday no more sho... (149 words)

Can there be ONLY friendship between men and women?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4322 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a bf and he is very outgoing, talkative, and humorous... I'm attracted to him because I'm not that out-going, at times shy, so I find him very charming. But what I don't understand is, he seems to have a lot of female friends, and would talk to them on Whatsapp, on pho... (665 words)

I want my baby's daddy back but he has a new girl

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4322 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my Baby Dad still love each other. he has a new girl he is dealing with and thats fine because i know i ran him away in some sense. I'm women enough to admit my faults i keep giving him baby mama drama and i cant seem to stop even when i try! smh its like a damn cur... (196 words)

Boyfriend is ditching me for work and I'm having a hard time dealing with it

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - To start, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. From the beginning he's been the type who's needed his space, and isn't much for daily communication. I could accept that, in the beginning. Recently he's come in to more work, and I've been very happy and proud of... (503 words)

I ended the affair and now my ex won't leave me alone. He's even contacting my friends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4325 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, everyone. I asked a question before about an affair that ended very badly and painfully (which you can see here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/an-affair-that-i-never-wanted-to-begin.html). Since this happened, the man in question made a pretty impassioned plea for me ... (182 words)

Why don't people like to share their feelings?? are they normal?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - i am getting a little crazy after spending few years with my bf who thinks it's a bad thing to tell the world what you feel, who you are... etc... it makes me think i'm wrong to tell friends about what's going on in our relationship, like when i'm sad or unhappy or angry etc... ... (351 words)

I don't want my ex to call me but can't change my number right now. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid My bf who broke up with me few days called me yesterday. He was abusive towards me for the past 6 months. I wanted to attend his call but got scared that if i hear his voice i might crawl back again. Also scared that if i didnt attend his call, he might send me ab... (235 words)

How can I get my girlfriend to communicate better with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. She's always had a little bit of an issue with communication but it's getting worse lately. When we do see each other, she is actually a great communicator, when we talk in person or on the phone she always has somethi... (527 words)

I need to buy some pills that help me last longer sexually. I don't know what to buy!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - hey i need help..everytime i have sex i only last 3min! sometimes even less! i always had this problem there been a couple of times i really last 30 minutes but that was a long time ago. im thinking of buying some pills but i dont know which one to buy,,i dnt wanna buy one ... (67 words)

I'd like to lose my virginity before I turn 30 but I've never even dated yet!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4310 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey, I am in a bit of a dilemma at the moment. With that said, let me tell you a little about myself. I am a 24-year-old guy. I don't do drugs, never smoke, still a virgin, and only drink socially. I eat somewhat healthy, and try to hit the gym to get a work-out wheneve... (502 words)

How do you go about being a stepmother?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone, for the past year I have been in a discreet relationship with a divorced father. We are serious about each other and have decided that it is time to be open about our relationship. I have never met his children, but based on how fondly he speaks of them, I know ... (161 words)

Sexless relationship please help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4325 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years. We have been living with eachother for almost that entire time. She is a kind soul, and a perfect match for me in almost every way - a soul mate. I honestly wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Through our relationship, ... (535 words)

What is the right age to get engaged?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I know my question seems a little bland and broad, so let me try to rephrase... How old should a couple be when they get engaged for the first time? I am 18, currently and proudly dating a soon-to-be Marine. He hasn't been home for a few months. He's 21. We've been dating for a ... (178 words)

I haven't given my b/f oral sex. Is that a bad thing?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - The guy I am seeing is really great and patient because I have only ever had sex with one other guy so I am still a bit new to all of this. My best friend was so shocked because he has gone down on me and I haven't on him. She made it sound like a big problem but I've always ... (107 words)

I thought we had a good time, he said he'd call but he didn't. Why?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4324 days ago

18 February 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been casually dating this guy for a couple of weeks, we met on a dating site so I know he wants a relationship. Our dates have been great (at least I think so) consisting of dinner, drinks, and cuddling or making out while watching movies. I asked if he was seeing anyone ... (196 words)

What did my ex mean "sorry means nothing to me" ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4325 days ago

18 February 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - My best friend said he saw my ex out last night and we didn't end it in the best way to say the least, i feel terrible about how i ended it. Point is, he went and spoke to her and he said apparently she said she didn't want to talk about me. And then he said to her that i am ... (132 words)