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writes:I've been going out with my boyfriend for a few months now but we've known each other for years and everything is great except there is one small thing that's annoying me... He likes a lot of his female Facebook friend's photos.They vary in content, some are just normal smiley photos and then a lot of them are girls on a night out with short dresses and cleavage. I'm trying really hard to just ignore it and pass it off as just something that people do on social networking sites but (and I'm not going to beat around the bush here, I'm going to be honest) they're making me a little jealous and paranoid.Also I don't know if he's looking at them thinking all sorts of nasty thoughts or if he's just liking them because they look nice and then what if one of the girl's takes it the wrong way and tries it on with him... what would he do?!So, am I overreacting? Or should I just have a little chat with him about it and see where he's coming from? Thank you!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (12 February 2013):
 have you asked him why he likes them?
for me I like pictures and posts as a way to acknowledge to the poster that I have seen it....
only if I comment does it mean more than an acknowledgment.
you say you don't know what he's thinking... you need to ask him to put your fears to rest...
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reader, CMMP +, writes (12 February 2013):
"Be true to yourself" is always good advice.
I do think you're overreacting, but if it bothers you you have every right to say something. Give him the chance to knock it off. If he doesn't, then choose between dealing with it or finding someone else.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 February 2013):
 He doesn't have to cheat on you or the girls taking it the wrong way for you to find it annoying. It is a habit that most mature adults grow out of. There are many hobbies to choose from. Ideally a boyfriend would pick something that both of you would like so you can connect. A less harmful thing to do would be to play video games. He just picked a habit that is disrespectul to the relationship. If a girl does take it the wrong way just say to her, here you go you can have my boyfriend. Let her worry about him 'liking' other girls on facebook.
You have to be true to your feelings. You don't have to mold yourself to fit into what 'normal' people do on social networking sites. I do feel like excess facebook usage is as bad as substance addiction and I will treat such as a dealbreaker.
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