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writes:Personally I think we are just being friendly, which is fine with me! He is married and like twice my age, so I'd never do anything with him I'm not stupid. Anyways I meet with him every once in a while and at first we were both awkward, but we are getting more comfy with each other now. We both catch little attitudes with each other and call each other out on it which is always fun. We used to just do this in private but now we do it in public too. He catches lil attitudes with others, but they don't give him a reaction like I do. He told a few other students that I'm mean to him sometimes haha. He laughs kinda hard at some of the things I say. On some days if I'm laughing or he caused me to laugh I'll catch him looking at me laugh. Has complimented me on being a good student multiple times. I'll catch him staring at me and smiling and I'll ask what he needs and we start a lil convo. We have little running jokes that we mention to each other. He will say something and I'll giggle look at him and he's already staring at me smiling! He almost slipped up and called me cute when he was listing some things about me. He winked at me and I have never seen him full on wink at anyone. Before class he seems to always try to talk to me or at least have us wave to each other. I feel his eyes on me when I'm talking during partner work, kinda more than any other students til they need his help.My mom says he and I are flirting and sometimes I think we are too but the more I think about it, the more I'm 99% sure it's friendly and not sexual. What do you all think?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 October 2012):
 I think you should focus on your studies and not on charming, or being charmed by, the teacher.
Who, btw, is acting in a very unprofessuonal way. Supposing that it's all innocent, jolly camaraderie, he is still singling you out from the other students , and giving you much more personalized attention than to others , and for non - academical reasons..
A friend of mine got badly rapped on his knuckles by the school board where he was teaching, and got pretty close to lose his job. And rightly so. It was all just playful banter, but still inappropriate, and he should have known better.
Flirting is for parties, not for classrooms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012): Look your dicing with fire here, he has his job and you are his student.. It is never safe practice to encourage flirtious behaviour from a lecturer at any time..I've been there myself and another girl were the only blondes in the room and of course we got the ooe lecturer ? Loves blondes .. I'm married and was then and never once did I encourage it, he was extremely flirty but I wanted my work to be marked on merit of what I did not what I did for him..My work that I submitted took time away from my family, and i wanted it marked on my ability and knowledge not how how flirty I was..All it takes is someone to notice and then you'll both be out on your bottoms.. I pity the man's wife.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (7 October 2012):
 Do you want us to tell you that he's interested in you? Well, even if he is, nothing can come out of this as long as he's your teacher. If he's married, forget it. Just forget it. And if he's not, wait till you're no longer his student. Stay out of trouble and make sure he doesn't lose his job over this...because if things go any further, this would become a real possibility. Good luck.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 October 2012):
 Sure, you could be flirting, and it's harmless now. Flirting feels good as long as the two of you don't cross a line.
A good rule to follow here when you're thinking about how you two interact is this: Would you feel comfortable interacting the way you do with him if his wife were standing there? More importantly, would HE feel comfortable?
That's the real test to go on. If the answer is yes, and it's simple platonic rapport, then you have nothing to worry about. If it's not, and you're feeling a crush on him developing, maybe a step back and a good clear head on your shoulders will keep you self-aware and would be best for both of you.
I hope that helps! So far, you both are harmless, but stay way on your guard and always be honest with yourself!
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