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writes:Hi My best friend and I are in a situation and need help!! we are Friends with Benefits but I'm in love with the her! it's making things complicated and jeopardising our friendship. she's just come out of a long term relationship and doesn't want anything serious (FWB was meant to just a bit of fun for both of us). Now we argue all the time because she wants to be able to do her own thing and be able to move on with her life, but it hurts me to much, and it pushes her away! We don't want this to come between our friendship but we still want to be able to do our own thing and still be FWB but i don't know what to do or how to free myself from these feelings please help :)! Thanks
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 October 2012):
 You two need to find a way to go back to "just" being friends or this will blow up in both your faces.
She did a what she thought was a "safe" rebound with you, unfortunately you have feelings for her, so it's not exactly "safe" as YOUR feelings are getting hurt here.
You two might even consider taking a wee break from hanging out as well.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 October 2012):
 There is no way that you are going to be able to carry on this relationship and free your feelings you are just hurting yourself more. She started this FWB relationship as a rebound for herself and yes fun for you both, but that is the thing with these types of friendships, they never work as usually someone always ends up getting hurt, and it looks in this case like that person is going to be you.
I can see what is happening here, she is wanting to start getting over her ex now and enjoying single life and you are trying to be with her as you want a relationship, but honey that is not what she wants I am afraid. You need to accept that. Also it is wise if you be honest with her and tell her that you are in love with her, at least then she knows where she stands with you. Continuing this FWB friendship is only going to keep hurting you and destroying your confidence.
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