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*h1bunny
writes:Hi. I cant satisfy my husband. It has always been hit and miss and I have tried to leave him too, this was one of the reasons. He says that I don't 'join' with him referring to his sick ways. It has put me under a lot of pressure and guilt. If I do stimulate him it isn't for long enough for him to organism. I feel a failure and know he is falling out of love with me over it. Does this mean that I am crap in bed and should stay alone and single? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (7 October 2012):
 So your sex-life is ALL about him getting pleasure and only in one certain way?
Where the heck is the fun in that?
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reader, wh1bunny +, writes (7 October 2012):
wh1bunny is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all of those who have cared to respond. There was a typo in my question as my husband wants to be touched in a certain way only not sick as for some reason it came out. He moves the goal posts to pleasure him constantly, I am beginning to think he does this to have some sort of power over our sex life...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 October 2012):
 What sick ways are you referring to? Also why is sex all about how you can stimulate him, rather than something you do together?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 October 2012):
What "sick ways" are you referring to?
And are YOU satisfied at all too? You only mention HIS satisfaction, but sex should be an "exchange" of pleasure, intimacy and love. It's not JUST about the orgasm.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (7 October 2012):
 HI
No it means your Husband is selfish and it's either his way or the high way. If you are being made to feel pressured into something you are NOT comfortable with what does that say about him? I think maybe its time to sit him down and tell him EXACTLY how his making you feel about all this and yourself. If he wont listen or even understand where your coming from , then I would suggest a trial seperation so you can gather your thoughts as to weather you want to spend the rest of your life with an emotional bully!!!.
Mandy x
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