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writes:Can anyone help me on this topic please. My ex who I broke up with 9 Months ago is constantly writing derogatory remarks and twisted round versions about me on Facebook. There is no mention of name but it is written so everyone knows who it is she is talking about. I am not on Facebook but several people have told me what she`s writing on her statuses. I know if I ask her to stop she`ll only get more worse. Is there a way of getting it removed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012): chances are, no one believes any of it and she is just making a show of herself. ignore it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012): This type of drama on Facebook is usually by those who need to be the centre of attention. In the same way an insecure child shows off. You may find that anyone who encourages her by liking her status is bored stiff and needs entertaining. Most will just think here we go again. I think she still loves you and she doesnt realize she's actually an immature jerk.
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reader, bronzed adonis +, writes (7 October 2012):
 It should remind you that you are far better off having broken up with her. I think this type of behavior is usually done by people who still love their ex and know they wont be getting back together. She is probably only doing it to get a reaction from you.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (7 October 2012):
 Yeah, I'd agree with deleting and blocking your ex for starters. Also, the fact that she's so negative and keep on posting crap about a 9 month breakup reflects more on her than you, and I'm sure that she does lose friends here and there because no one can stand that amount of verbal diarrhea for too long before either telling her to get over it or cutting her off.
You have to move on. She isn't over you, and she wants to keep trying to torment you until she feels better. She's not realizing that it's one thing to lean on your friends right after a breakup, and that's what friends are for, but to go on and on about it after 9 months is an exhausting drain on everyone around her.
You have to go your own way. You don't need to know what she's saying about you. You can find someone else, but not if she's still on your friend list dominating your news feed. Make the final cut from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012): people who update their statuses with ex relationship drama are immature losers who can't handle being dumped or just trying to get attention. the next time someone tells you about what she-s wrote, just tell them you've already heard and you don't even want to know about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012): Totally agree w bim bim. Try to go on about your life, if its been 9mos and shes still posting rude remarks that to me says something. Either you actually did terrible things to her that emotionally damaged her or she has nothing better to do with her life than concentrate on you. Do exactly what bim bim said and good luck with this situation.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 October 2012):
 Block her, unfriend her and ignore her.. Do no feed to "troll" aka the ex.
You can't control what other people think, feel or write. IF she does put YOUR full name on it, FB can remove it but I doubt she will do that.
Maybe this is her passive-aggressive way of dealing with the break up.
If the friends don't like her newsfeeds/status rants they can "hide" them as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012): it means she isnt really over you. absolutely everyone who reads it will know that. dont let it get to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2012): People who put drama on their statuses are attention seekers. The people who read it will know what she is like and generally are getting a laugh out of her desperation. Someone who has improved their life would not be thinking about their ex, let alone writing on facebook. Dont worry too much because its her they will be laughing at really. Just think yourself lucky you dont have to deal with being with her personaly anymore.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 October 2012):
 There is no way to get it removed unless she names you and they are legally libellous or slanderous, and you would need to put together a water tight case and be prepared to take her to court.
You need to tell these 'kind' people who are repeating what they read that you are not interested in hearing any of it, and you would appreciate it if they stopped. Tell them they are not helping by repeating the comments. Let them know if they are unable to stop themselves repeating it you are quite prepared to make it easier for them by removing yourself from their lives.
Ask yourself why they are doing it. My guess is they need some excitement and drama in their lives, and want to see your reaction.
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