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writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for 8 months and i cheated on him. Our relationship has changed alot since this happened. What can i do to make our relationship work out and get it back to the way it use to be? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012): Why did you cheat if you love him? That is the question you need to truly answer. Personally, you should probably just leave him alone and spare him as much pain as possible. If you cheated for no good reason then I would go work on your karma...cause it's going to come back to you ten-fold.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012): If you do love your partner,you should double the effort and make him feel you're sincere. Though he will be very suspicious or uncomfortable because you cheated, you need to understand him and make him believe that you are really sorry for hurting him. Trust is very important in every relationship, you have to work hard and take time to earn it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012): It will take time for him to trust you again. You need to sit down and have a long and honest heart to heart talk with him, and be patient with him.
Have you identified the reason or issue that drove you to cheat? Or was it just an irresponsible drunken one night thing?
Whatever it was, you need to resolve it, and make sure nothing else drives you to it again.
If you're unhappy in the relationship or something within it, rather than run away, you need to talk and get it out in the open, running to the arms of another guy won't solve things as you know, and will only make things ten times worse.
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 You have to be as honest as possible about everything and show him that you are truly remorseful for what you did. Also, tell him how you feel and how you'd like to do anything that's needed to salvage the relationship. Ask him about how he feels about you and what he expects you to do to change things for the better. With time and patience, you might be able to restore his faith in you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 October 2012):
 I don't think it will ever really get back to how it was. What you did "broke" something in how he sees you and how the dynamics work in the relationship.
I really think you need to talk to HIM about what YOU can do to help him get past this. It's really up to him and you.
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reader, bronzed adonis  +, writes (7 October 2012):
 You may be able to salvage it but after cheating, it is not ever going to be exactly what and how it was.
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reader, ulick  +, writes (7 October 2012):
 Has he found out?
Cheating after only 8 months its rediculous. Its bad after 20 years still, but if this happens when you guys are supposed to be still in the love and hands on part I think its very unlikely to last as a relationship.
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