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*andra louis
writes:Hi I am 25yrs of age and has never had an orgasm.I've been with my boyfriend for 6yrs now and I'm clueless as to how to make it happen. Please I need some help cause my sex life is falling apart?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 October 2012):
 Do you have a vibrator? Do you have sexual fantasies? It's time you start practicing. If you don't want to go for a vibrator, try a hand held shower. Breathing techinques also work. But in my experience, you just really need to focus on the one fantasy is that making you as horny as you can possibly get. Then enjoy the feeling and let whatever happens happen.
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reader, Htsn47 +, writes (12 October 2012):
 What person12345 says is exactly correct: learn to masturbate. It's not fair to expect your BF to know how to bring to you orgasm if you don't know yourself!I think you should get a vibrator. There are websites you can order them from, if you are embarrassed (we got ours from goodvibes.com). Also get a nice lubricant, like Astroglide. Experiment with the vibrator alone, when you are relaxed and have plenty of time. Maybe later, your BF will be willing to use it with you. My wife and I usually use hers before we have sex. Sometimes I control it, or do other things so I feel 'involved' and enhance her feelings. Either she'll have an orgasm or get very close, and then we'll have intercourse. I feel like it's a pretty good balance; it ensures we both feel like we got some loving attention. :) Hopefully your BF would be willing!Remember, most women will not have an orgasm from intercourse alone. It's normal to need extra stimulation, so there is nothing wrong or even unusual about you! Don't despair yet - I bet you'll be just fine!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2012): person12345 is right OP. Time to do a bit of research and self exploration.
Just so you know OP most women have never and can never orgasm through intercourse alone. So if you're wondering why when you have sex it doesn't happen then that's most likely the reason. Most women are clit stim, so focus your energies on figuring out what works in that regard, orally and manually.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 October 2012):
 You need to masturbate. You can't expect him to get you there if you can't even get yourself there. There are lots of websites that can give you tips, like clitical.com. Then once you know what you like, teach him how to do it, or do it to yourself with him. You can also get a toy and have him use it on you (after you've experimented with it yourself).
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2012): Well first off I would have to say if your waiting for him to give you one then you'll be waiting along time. I'm still shocked when I hear that there adults that can't please themselves. If you want to orgasm find what makes you hot and play with yourself. I've been masterbating since I was about 7 and found out that riding my beanbag chair made me feel good down there! You need to find what you like, porn, stories, photos, sexy talk, toys try it all til you are cumming like crazy then you can find out how he can do it for you. You can't expect him to find something you don't know what is!
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