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writes:What does it mean when your boyfriend texts you "I will always love you _____ (my name)"? We had an argument on the phone last night about his hot and cold behavior with me which has been pretty consistent throughout our entire relationship (problems with communication).I sent him a text apologizing for getting upset on the phone because I have been feeling stressed about other matters (family, finances, life!, etc) and sometimes I need him as a support system to talk to (when he shuts me out, it hurts my feelings).He texted me back hours later with "I will always love you _____ (my name)".I am confused. I am not sure if he means that in a good way, (ex: I'm there for you no matter what and I love you) or in a bad way meaning he wants to end things with me. When I think of that expression, I think of an ex-boyfriend/ex-girlfriend saying that to someone to make them feel better because they no longer wish to be together.I haven't written back because 1) I don't know what to say - I want to ask "what does that mean?!!!" and 2) I'm not emotionally prepared for him potentially ending things like that. Or should I call him or maybe I shouldn't even respond.I need some advice! Please help
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reader, Heartlove +, writes (20 April 2017):
Take it face value ... he loves you .. trying
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2011): if a guy said that to me then id assume it means he wants out :s its like the male verison of its not me its you speech.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (7 October 2011):
 This guy sounds immature and dramatic and not in control of his emotions, one possible reason why you two arent communicating well cause you may possibly feel he's not confident in that way in dealing with business. Now, his words could mean anything. Best thing to do is to ask him face to face what his intentions are with the those words and the relationship.
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reader, bebe87 +, writes (7 October 2011):
 I think that he is realizing that really no matter what (the meaningless minute arguments you guys have) he still truly loves you. I wouldn’t take it as he is saying he doesn’t want to continue the relation. All couples have and go thru fights, we are all human and all have life’s stress on our shoulders. Its no fun being an adult sometimes. But as long as you both can be there for each other rather than make things worse for one another it will be a lot better. And by the way, you emphasize the fact that he doesn’t communicate very well and hasn’t always, hunny they all don’t! We just have to find ways to get thru to them otherwise its dead water! Good luck
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reader, Kirstyteenauntireland  +, writes (7 October 2011):
 I think you should call him and ask him what it means
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reader, Koala Bear  +, writes (7 October 2011):
 Call and schedule a chance to meet up with him. Then discuss your issues and why you are confused. (Honestly I don't think it means anything bad. I think he is trying to meet you on this but is having a hard time showing his emotions to you.)
Text messaging can be so easily misunderstood so don't have this conversation with him via text message. See him face to face. Have coffee or lunch with him but do not attack him on the issue. No more arguing. Just sitting somewhere relaxing and let him know the way you have per sieved his messages. He'll correct you if you have mistaken what he's said. Arguing with him didn't work so now try and coax the truth out of him. :)
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2011): I would text back, "I love you too." Then wait. That way he knows you got the message and then see if a follow-up message comes. Wait a day and then if he doesn't contact you, then call and just say you want to spend some time together. I know it's hard, and yes it could be either of those.
My guess, from having a husband who isn't great with sharing how he feels ever, is that he means he's sorry and he will always love you even if he's distant. But that is just a guess and I could be totally wrong. :(
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 October 2011):
 Talk about more hot and cold behavior. Text him back and ask what he means, I wouldn't call yet.
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