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writes:About 3 months ago, I met this really great guy. I'm not just saying this either, he was very genuine and sensitive. The problem was that I had recently gotten out of a 4 year relationship (7 months prior) and still had my "guard" up. I never really told him about my past, and when he would try, I would brush off the question. Things took off and were going great. He told me he "loved" me after 5 weeks. All i said back was "are you sure?". He tried 2 times after that to tell me that he loved me and each time I never said anything back, just proceeded on with the conversation other than one occasion when I was intoxicated which he took offense to. He broke up with me the following weekend. To explain again, he told me he loved me, then a week later, he broke up with me saying he didn't have enough time for me. This left me totally confused and heart broken since I would have loved to say it back, I was just hesitant of things moving so quickly. I had forgotten how easy it is to fall in love with someone. It's been a month since we broke up and neither of us has contacted each other (except once after the initial break up he wanted to see how school was)I'm not sure what to do, how he feels, or if he just lost interest.Help Me!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 October 2011):
 He fell for you very quickly, 5 weeks is quite a short period for somebody to tell you that they love you, maybe he just falls for girls very fast and thinks he is in love. Who knows. But it may have genuinely hurt him that you couldn't say it back to him. But at the end of the day you done the right thing because it is not a word that should just be throwing around for the sake of it. You should have sat down and explained to him how you felt about him and explained that you didn't want to rush in to anything. If you miss him and you want him back well then you need to contact him and tell him that. Set some ground rules though so you both know where you stand with each other. But if you do want him back tell him there is no point holding it off or else you may miss your chance.
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