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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:We were amazing friends then stuff happened and she rejected me, and now I'm totally over it. She still wants to be friends, I don't really need her in my life anymore and i just don't really care anymore. Shes a difficult person to be friends with and I only put up with it because I liked her, now I don't want to put up with it. Problem is I see her about once a week and hear about her all the time because of mutual friends.Theres been tension between us lately and we're meeting up to clear the air. Would you recommend for me to:A)Tell her a friendship won't work because when she gets a boyfriend I could became jealous, and because our definitions of friendship are so very different. Tell her that we can be acquaintances with no tension for the next little while until I go away for school and then we can both just forget and move on.B)Tell her nothing, apologize for being a dick lately and try to make the friendship work somehow (although it will never be the same because I have no motivation to be friends now).C) Any other plan you may suggest...What you think, what should be my game plan?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (7 October 2011):
 How about:
D. Tell her that your feelings for her and the pain at her response to your feelings makes it impossible for you to be just friends with her. Tell her that that might change in the future, but you don't know. For now, you need time to yourself. Wish her well, and then go on your way.
This is the most honest response, and the best one for both of you.
I'm really sorry things didn't work out the way you were hoping. I hate it when someone takes the risk of baring their heart, only to have it not go the way they wanted. You can stand tall though...you took the risk. It will get easier, and you deserve to be happy. This way I suggested is the best way.
Incidentally, I shot down a guy friend of mine when he said that he had feelings for me, which I didn't reciprocate.
He's now my husband. :)
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