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*unfoosed
writes:Ive been dating this girl for about 6 months, I lost my virginity to her about 5 months ago. Anyway, she has been really into me and we have a good time together but she has been really weird lately.Every time we have had sex she is always very wet. She may dry up a bit after 4 or 5 position changes but its rare that she drys up at all.This time we hadn't had sex for almost a week. When it goes for longer than 3 days she is soaked but tonight she was completely dry. I played for like 20 minutes before sex and the only wetness was my saliva. Afterward I asked why she stayed dry.She shyd away. Shes knows why but wont tell me. I dont care about anything else so long as she is honest and open with like I have been from day 1. I know she is on the shot, and thats never made her dry up before. She said it wasn't girl problems or a problem with me. She just said I didnt need to know.What else could cause her to be dry tonight after 3 days no sex? The only thing I could think of is either masterbating which she would tell me or having sex prior to tonight with me.Sorry for the long post and I appreciate any and all feedback.
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reader, kunfoosed +, writes (28 April 2007):
kunfoosed is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate the replies. We spend a lot of time outside of the bedroom and have always been very open about things in our past and present. I was just a little baffled because I have never been with her physically when she either wasn't wet already or even the slightest bit of foreplay would get her going. We actually spend more of our time on foreplay than actual sex as we did last night.When she told me that it wasn't me and it wasn't girl problems and flat out told me "You don't need to know" is when my thinker started spitting out conclusions. I know I am putting way too much thought and energy into this and like I said, we have just been "dating" pretty heavily for about 6 months. I don't really mind if she sleeps with someone else, up until now we both have not done that. It was more a thing of honesty and trust and thinking that I might have gone down on seconds. I really do value your remarks and I realize that no matter happened last night, I owe an apology for not letting it go right away. Thanx a ton.
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reader, rammsteinfan +, writes (28 April 2007):
 It could be from a number of things like medication, an irritation, not drinking enough water..ect. There are numberous reasons for vaginal dryness. Be kind and be patient with your gf....and don't get upset with her, because that might make her feel bad. It could make her nervous, and she could start thinking that she's not pleasing you. Feeling that way isn't good for any woman!
In times of dryness, there are several lubes on the market for combating vaginal dryness. One that is Very good is Astroglide!! It works wonders! And you can get a free sample of it on www.astroglide.com. Even Jeff Foxworthy talks about it on comedy show (He said, "With Astroglide, you can park a Greyhound Bus in a doll house!" And he ain't kidding either!!!)
Just be patient, kind and loving to your gf. Also you could do some research online...there are some very good informative sites on dryness.
I hope this helped you out some! Good luck!!
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reader, maverick  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 I can understand your predicament. However I have a question for you. How does your girlfriend feel about this?
No - I'm not asking "Does your girlfriend know what the problems is?". In this situation aim to be more comforting and passive towards the issue. In time she should hopefully open to you and let you know what she is going through. Forcing this won't help.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (28 April 2007):
 Hi sweetness,
Maybe she's just got a lady problem that she's embarressed to tell you about. Now, I'm not sure what that problem is... but I assure you, masturbation or sex with another won't make her dry up. As Floraltempotations said, that will only make you want more!!
Or maybe she's got her mind elsewhere.... sometimes these things just don't really work out. I know sometimes when Im not into it, I can't get wet. It's not a big deal, I just bust out the lube, and we're happy.
Who knows what the issue is? But, I'd let it go. It seems like she's embarressed, and I think at this point, you would be doing her a favor by letting it go. Not letting it go will only cause more embarressment, probably leading to humiliation. You don't want to make your girlfriend feel bad about being dry. Sometimes it happens, and it's natural. If in a few days she's nice and wet again, I think it's all good.
Good luck, sweetness.
xxIndia
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reader, floraltemptaions  +, writes (28 April 2007):
Sometimes girls emotions get in the way with their excitement or lack thereof. If she's got things on her mind, or if you havent' spent much time together outside of the bedroom, things tend to dry up. And masturbation is not a reason for her to be dry...... if anything the more you have it, the more you want it. All sorts of things affect this... could even be something as small as her being dehydrated! Whatever it is, she may be embarrassed... so broach the subject carefully. Good luck!
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