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writes:Last week, my boyfriend broke up with me (for the third time but this time I don't want to get back together)because he had enough with all the stress from me, school, and family (his parents are breaking up and he would had to get a part-time job when they do. He's only 15.)Before we started dating, we talked almost everyday for around two months so he been a good friend to me.I tried talking to him a couple days after and he told me that he miss holding me in his arms and kissing me Later on, we discussed about being friends with benefits which we agreed to. Then he seem like he didn't care about me and then we stopped talking.So should I try to be friends with my ex?It's just in general, I don't understand how someone can forget about someone that they care about.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (18 January 2010):
When you agree to be friends with benefits with an ex, they tend to lose respect for you. Meaning that he now knows you'll be there when he needs you and he can come and go and talk to you when he feels like it. Basically, FWB usually benefits the guy; not you. He'll call you on the phone one day and sweet talk you and want to go out maybe, and then have your "benefits." Then you start to think that things went so well and it's like old times, he for sure wants to get back together! Then the following day comes...he doesn't call or the next or the next; a week goes by and then he does the same thing again. Don't fall into that trap. Be friends with him when you're completely over him and don't care to give him any benefits. He hasn't forgotten about you, just his feelings have changed about you. Let him go for now.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 January 2010):
 The fact that this is the third time you've broken up tells me this isn't just because of the stress. The stress sounds like it's just an excuse. He's just unsure of how to break up with someone because it's scary. Because he was scared and in order to make his stress excuse valid, he just agreed to be friends with benefits because it was easier. But I don't think he meant it. You're probably just not a very good match. There are plenty of other great guys out there. I'd move on and stop contacting him. You'll find someone better soon. Good luck!
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reader, chelay +, writes (18 January 2010):
 he's prolly not forgetting about you he probably just has alot on his mind now? just give him some space. time will work things out for the way there supposed to be. and maybe you to are just meant to be friends. but who knows you to may be soul mates but you need to let life take its course. see what happens..
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