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writes:Well me and my bf had been dating for a week and i really love him and i don't know how to tell him right every time i do tell him he looks at me like what a child it hurts i just want to tell him.What do i do and say!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, lme76 +, writes (30 January 2010):
Woooaaahhh! Slow down hun. A week is a very very short time! It is very likely that you care about your boyfriend, but it's also very likely that what your feeling is infatuation, not love. You are young, and have many years ahead. Appreciate that you have someone that you admire so much in your life. Just enjoy and you will know when it's the right time to express your feelings for him. Be patient.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (30 January 2010):
 Yeah, ... a week is a bit sudden.
Maybe try expressing feeling with some slightly different words instead. Compliment him as a person honestly, ... make flattering but truthful comments on him physically,... tell him you love the way he does such and such (insert whatever).
If you must, .... maybe extend in to how you feel when with him - and you wont feel 'I love you', that is not an adjective/descriptive phrase, ...you will feel things like happy, content, butterflies in your tummy, melting at his kisses, etc, ..but I would even be cautious on those at this stage. That shit seems to have to grow in to being acceptable to verbalize as the length and strength of a connection grows imo.
Save the 'I love you's' tho! Think it if you like, but no need to share after a week. It actually may give the impression of cheapening the meaning if one can spout them so easily and so soon, and may be why he is not returning your sentiments. Most likely tho, he is freaking out and thinking stuff like 'bunny boiler'.
Slow down!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (30 January 2010):
 There is no right way to say it. If you're saying it and he's not saying it back, it means he doesn't feel the same. At least not yet. A week is way too fast to know you love someone. You can feel totally infatuated with someone, and you should when you first start dating. It's easy to get the two confused, it's a REALLY strong feeling (the infatuation). The fact that you've said it and he hasn't gone running means he feels very strongly about you. For now cool it, and don't say it again. Wait for him to say it first. He knows how you feel and trust me, he won't have forgotten. It might takes a few months, so be patient. But the ball is in his court now so to speak.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (30 January 2010):
 Nothing.. it's only been seven days, if you fall in love so quickly, he'll believe you'll fall out of love just as quickly and in a couple of months be saying "I love you" to someone else.... wait at least 2 months before you say such things. It's only been a week, you don't know him so how can you love him, it takes longer than this to really get to know someone. If you keep saying such things, you'll frighten him away.
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