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writes:Okay so last night I went to the local bar in the area of the city that i live in. Afterwards my friend and I went back to the guy I like's (he likes me in return)house with his friends as well. Needless to say i was quite drunk and flirty with the guy. But after sharing a bowl of cereal i decided to call it at night, and i passed out on the couch... My drunken slumber was disrupted 10 mins later by one of his friends, who was feeling me up and being totally creepy!! after realizing what was happening to me i removed myself from the situation. but what i am worried about is that i think my crush saw what was happening and took it the wrong way, as if it was mutal. He was very upset and i didnt even know what to do or say, i just went to sleep and left in the morning without saying goodbye. So what do you guys think our chances are now of getting together or continuing what we had already started? i feel awful and i dont even know what to say to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): Ring your crush, tell him you're upset about being felt up whilst sleeping and need someone to talk with.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 Hmm well you could just tell the guy you like him, and explain what happened. That's really creepy that the guy was feeling you up without your permission, that's borderline sexual assault. I think that could legally actually BE sexual assault.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 January 2010):
The thing about crushes is unless you tell the person you have a crush on that you like them, so much can be misunderstood. So my advice would be to tell your crush that you like him, and start from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2010): Best thing to do is be upfront with the guy you like. Tell it like you wrote it here. Say you were sleeping and one of his friends came over and started feeling you up. Or you could bring it up like I can't believe one of your friends would take advantage of a woman like that!
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reader, grey_eyed_phoenix +, writes (31 January 2010):
Well, you need to talk to him and tell him what happened. All of it. From you falling asleep on the couch, being creeped out and feeling vulnerable by someone feeling you up when you were asleep, and tell him why you didn't talk to him in the morning. Honesty is always the best policy. If he has the sense god gave a grapefruit, he will probably make sure that friend isn't around you again and make sure you are always comfortable. Not to mention that he is most likely going to want to date you. Be honest. Tell him you feel awkward about talking about it but that (at the very least his friendship)/he means something to you so you are talking to him. It takes guts. You will probably be nervous. Go for it. If anything else he might be awed by the fact that you had the guts to talk to him about it and be honest even when you were uncomfortable. Guys who are worth it do admire that. If he still is being weird in the end, he is completely not worth it.
I will say this. It has worked for me multiple times in multiple situations.
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