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writes:What does it mean when a former teacher asks you if you're a senior yet?My 9th grade art teacher saw me for the first time since he left the school for another teaching job. He recently came back and When he saw me he seemed happy to see me. anyway, he asked " are you a senior yet?" and when i said "no, I'm a junior" he said, " oh, yeah, thats right you were a freshman." He said it under his breath, as if he's been keeping track or something. What does this mean? Does he like me? Why would he care if i was a senior or not. my mom says he was asking if i was 18 yet. If it helps he was very tender with me while he was my teacher even though my work sucked. He even stood behind me and guided my hands when I was cutting a carving picture.It was so sensual, I knew it wasn't a platonic motion. He was always asking me, "what's wrong" and "How was I doing". I drew a broken heart in class and he came up and said " wow, you have a lot of scars on your heart, did the break heal?" I never answered him but I always felt he wanted to get close emotionally. He even got a little annoyed once when he asked what was bothering me and I told him I was okay, he sneered," Obviously there is." Am I reading into to this stuff to much or not enough. I've been driving myself crazy for 3 years because I'm in love with him and I don't know how to deal with it. My mother says once I graduate I can do whatever I please with him since I'm not under the jurisdiction of the school anymore and I should just tell him. I'm really scared, though. Any advice? please help!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (19 January 2010):
 I know this is hard for you, I didn't mean to sound callous about it. It's true that teachers can feel attracted to their students. Probably pretty frequently. Some teachers also like to abuse their power by flirting with girls and savoring the attention they get. In any case, he wouldn't act on anything with you. He'd get fired first off, second off the papers would be ALL over this story even after high school (leading to him getting fired), third off, most people would consider it totally inappropriate. Now to me, it doesn't sound at all like he really was flirting, but in any case I think you need to distance yourself from him. Even if you were to start dating after high school was over, you'd realize he's a very different person from who you thought you were getting involved with. Try to hang out with friends more, go on dates with guys your own age, join clubs and organizations. Do things just to take your mind off this. Once you're out of high school he'll just be a faint memory.
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reader, Kitten1927 +, writes (18 January 2010):
Kitten1927 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for answering. I just wanted to say that if any of you care to help me a little more(since this is an extremely difficult experience for me) you can instant message me. I didnt add some details to prevent the question from being too long. Like my teacher called me cynical and jaded on two seprate occasions and my mom freaked out because of it. Anyway,I appreciate the help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 January 2010):
No, he's just a teacher and you're just a student who's crushing. I don't think he's interested at all.
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reader, Faraday +, writes (17 January 2010):
 Hmmm, not sure. From your words, it isn't clear, but from your thoughts and my interpretation, there could be interest.
But "person12345" is right in that you should do nothing until you are of full age and away from school. I think that was the true reason for his question, as you already suspect.
Wait, and ask - you need to know and if you don't find out you will be forever wondering.
Good luck.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 January 2010):
I think you're reading too much into it. He probably was just wondering if you were a junior or senior and lost track. I think the fact that you say you're in love with him is making you overanalyze everything into thinking it means he likes you. Nothing you've said makes me think he reciprocates the feelings. The gap between post high school and in high school is enormous. It's very common to develop crushes (very strong ones) on teachers. Do NOT act on it or tell him. It will just make things awkward for both of you, since he cannot be involved with one of his students. I know it's really hard to do, but you just have to figure out a way to move on from him. I promise you don't like him for him, but because he's your teacher. If you knew him outside classes as an equal, your feelings for him would be totally different.
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