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writes:hey guys.well i will start with the basics.i'm going out with a boy who is fifteen (the same age as me) and we've been basically going out since year eight (seventh grade) so over the years we have obviously become very close, but we have been through lots together and i mean LOTS. i got depression last year when i was fourteen, when my best friend commited suicide and the depression over it hasn't really gone away - but it's gotten much better and less complex. my boyfriend had anger issues (but he did go to see a councillor) and he is pretty much sorted now, he hit me twice, but i got over it, because he did go to get himself sorted.he cheated on me three times, it hurt equally as much each time - but i did break up with him for about a month and a half - but then i got back with him because the truth is my depression got tonnes worse without him so i took him back (which my councillor suggested too), because well i do really love him, and he says he loves me too.but i don't know if it's best if we stay together, what do you think? :/
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (25 February 2010):
 Dear, Kaytie-BabeyDefinitely leave him.He is not worth your LIFE. When someone convinces you you are worthless, hits you, cheats on you, and makes you depressed they are selfish bastards that take away exactly that, your life.My parents were the same way. My mom says, "I love you" in hopes i will respond. No fucking way. When I was a child she and my father would beat the shit out of me. Is there really a point in letting people who abuse you, simply because they can, into your life?Take some time to talk to someone who has your best interests at heart. Finish school. Grow up to be happy with someone that treats you the way you treat them, which is WELL.If you have any questions or you need someone to talk to, talk to me.I am always quick to message back.-IHateWomanBeaters
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2010): Run for the hills so fast you leave skids marks. Leave him. You are so young & already you are in a 'miserable with him miserable without him' situation. Later when you're married to someone worth your time and their salt, you'll look back & be so glad you left. Leave him. If he loves you and respects himself and can truly change, he will let you go, sort himself out asap and properly and beg you to come back! Leave him & get on with your life. I'm a bit worried about a counsellor advising you to get back with him?? Have you spoken with another responsible, competent adult about this? Someone who you trust? Your education is important and you have your whole life ahead of you. All the best to you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): You need to leave him. There's no reason why you should stay wit him. Yes, you love him. But if he really loved you back, he wouldnt put his hands on you or cheat on you. By you breaking up and getting back with him, he knows he has that control over you, where he knows no matter what youre gonna go back to him. It sounds like he still needs help getting his anger and control. Dont stay with him while he gets the help he needs. yo both need time apart. Ive been in an abusive relationship for 5 yrs so i know whats going on. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): one day youll realize how young you are and how not worth it he is. its hard for me to give you advice because i dont know you or him. it sounds like the sooner you leave him and NEVER associate with him again, the better. you are special and need to feel that way. like someone else said, time heals. its so true. i would also say that you should talk to God. and listen to him. he will comfort you and clear your mind so you know whats best for you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 January 2010):
Very simple. Go.. Never be treated this way by anyone. It's not love. And sack your counsellor too.
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reader, Luvr Buoy  +, writes (14 January 2010):
Oh Boy! I've been married for 6yrs, and gone through similar issues... My wife was a cheater and a hitter...
When u keep 4giving them, they feel as though u cant do without them. Staying with him, doesn't help him but make him worse. If u love him, then u need to walk away so that he cud get help. Its hard, but u kno wat? Time heals! If u dont walk away, soon ur life will be so battered and bruised that u'll be no good 2 urself or anybody else! When I applied for a divorce, it helped my ex-wife to realise that she needed help! Time will heal ur wounds, if u allow it to!
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (14 January 2010):
 Run away, and don't look back. You are too good for him.
Jeff
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reader, Lillia +, writes (14 January 2010):
 Ive suffered from depression and also been hit by a boy and cheated on many times, i can relate to how you are feeling... it sucks!i know you obvously dont want to leave him but this guy is doing you nooo good! you should get out with the girlies and have fun! take up a new hobby? exercise? they produces endorphines which are happy hormones bassically! loooltry take your mind off of himhe is not worth it hunnny xx
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reader, person12345 +, writes (14 January 2010):
 He seems pretty bad to me. He's hit you, which right there is enough to break it off. Even though he's gotten it sorted, he's cheated on you three times! Most people wouldn't stick with it even with one time, let alone two. Three times really REALLY needs to be the end. If he did it again after the first time, I can almost guarantee you he'll do it again. He obviously sees absolutely no problems with cheating and clearly feels no remorse whatsoever.
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reader, Freedomatlast +, writes (14 January 2010):
RUN AWAY as fast as you can. You are 15 years old and far to young to be even thinking about a serious relationship. He has anger issues and has hit you. NO WAY!!!!!! This behavior will only get worst and you may be seriously injured or killed. Counseling???? Your 15!!!! Leave that guy alone and more on.
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (14 January 2010):
 Just as I dont believe in long distance relationships, dont ever stay with anyone who's hit you, ever!
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