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Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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Help! Who does my crush like?!? Me or my Bff?!?
Q. I like this guy... And so does my best friend. He gives us mix signals . She came up to him and ask if he could say happy birthday to me. He said that he was just about to do that and after the day he came up to me a said happy birthday. My friend ...
A. 24 June 2010: He said he likes her, and then told you he doesn't like you that way (basically). He likes your friend, sorry. No mixed messages here. He's just being nice to you, especially because you're friends with the girl he likes and he has to be on your ... (read in full...)
Is it the right time to propose to him? Last time he said it was too early.
Q. I've been with him just over a year and one month. So far the main problem has been that his first ex (whom he loved like mad) wants him back. But he says he never go back to her and loves me alot. I want to propose to him but not sure how? Cause ...
A. 24 June 2010: Don't propose again. He's already said no once, chances are he'll say no if you ask again. Wait until you guys are in a better arrangement (i.e. not long distance). He knows you want to get married, ball is in his court now so to speak. You've only ... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 24 June 2010: I guess really the intimacy is lost when one partner has a problem with it and the other views. It kills one partner's view of the other. It especially takes away the intimacy (I'd think from both sides) when one partner lies about it. You're right, ... (read in full...)
I want to be at my best for a wedding, but this birth control pill is making me nauseous!
Q. Hi :) I recently started taking the pill, and by recently I mean i've taken it twice! And right now i'm feeling very nauseous. I knew this was a side effect, and I knew i'd be likely to get it as I usually get nauseous from antibiotics and strong p...
A. 23 June 2010: The nausea would go away almost immediately. You might get a small period within a week of stopping. But no, it won't cause damage. If you're feeling miserable, just stop taking it. Or try a different pill. You can switch in the middle of a pack ... (read in full...)
Addicted to a vibrator or sex toy?
Q. Is it possible to get addicted to a vibrator or sex toy?! I want to get one but I heard you can get obsessed with them and they consume all of your alone time...
A. 23 June 2010: Only to the extent that you can get addicted to masturbation. It happens, but getting a vibrator won't cause the addiction. Porn, that's addictive stuff. Vibrators? Not so much. Just don't go TOO crazy with it. You'll be fine. Have fun.... (read in full...)
A "break" after 3 years... what to do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 3 years... I am 22 and he is 24. Before you say anything about it being "young love," let me assure you, we've both been through a lot together... it hasn't been a juvenile relationship. He a...
A. 23 June 2010: I don't think he's lying either, and 22 is not too young to be in love! I think you're probably dead-on about the stress and life changes. After college everything is VERY different, and it can tear couples apart, just like the transition from high ... (read in full...)
HPV in and out and sex life
Q. I have a relationship 6 years now. There was a time period, when we were separated, and I had a very short one night stand and since then it is 3 years. Then after a few months time (3 years ago), I had pap test and it was normal. Afte...
A. 23 June 2010: You can have the virus for years without symptoms. Your boyfriend could have given it to you even when you got together, as men who are carriers almost never show symptoms and therefore have no idea they got it. HPV spreads through skin on skin ... (read in full...)
We have a sex swing...why can't I have I have a vibrator?
Q. ok well here is the deal................. I want a him and her vibrator for example ( cock ring and the jack rabit) but my husband is digusted by the fact of me wanting sum. I have oferd to buy him sum sex toys as well, but he refuses he says ...
A. 23 June 2010: A lot of men feel threatened by a vibrator, like it's going to replace him. If he doesn't want to add one, he doesn't want to add one, and for his sake you might want to drop the issue. Two things though. Do you NEED the vibrator to orgasm? If not ... (read in full...)
I haven't had a serious relationship since I was fifteen and feel like I'm going to be this way forever.
Q. hey, im getin fed up ov being alone. when i go out dont get me wrong i do "pull" bt it never leads to a realtionship. all my friends have no problems in getin one but i havent had a serious boyfriend since i was 15. i feel alone and feel as i am ...
A. 23 June 2010: You're incredibly young, so stop worrying. I'm 22 and I've only ever had one serious relationship, and it's not because I'm not pretty or smart or whatever. My one relationship is still going and is great, because I was very picky. My friends who ... (read in full...)
Anyone been married to a serial cheater, what did you do??
Q. How many times can one person forgive another for cheating? I have been with my husband for 5 years now and in that time he has cheated on me 4 times that I know of. Twice before we were married and now twice after. I have raised his daughter as ...
A. 23 June 2010: No you're not stupid. As human beings we want to fix everything. Unfortunately he will never stop cheating. I dated a serial cheater for about a month, but left because he was planning to cheat. He cheated on every single one of his girlfriends, ... (read in full...)
Will he change once the baby is here?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months and in the first few months of being together i got pregnant we love each other and are really happy most of the time, but he does like a drink alot and he says he is drinking now before the babys ...
A. 23 June 2010: No, a baby will probably only make it worse. Babies add stress, a lot of people drink to deal with stress. If he drinks a lot and makes excuses for it, he might be an alcoholic. The only thing a baby ever solved or got rid of is the pregnancy.... (read in full...)
Am I a bad girlfriend for not wanting him to have long hair?
Q. I really, really don't want my boyfriend to grow his hair long. I don't think I can explain how awful it looks. lol Even his old facebook photos have comments by his friends that his hair looked terrible. I didn't say much when he told me he had p...
A. 23 June 2010: Nah, most women try to change something about their guy. It's not wrong of you to want him to keep it short. It is wrong to try to MAKE him keep it short. So long as you don't try to demand he keep it short for you, you're perfectly entitled to the ... (read in full...)
How do I go about breaking up with him when he doesn't want a relationship?
Q. I've been seeing this man for almost four months and I really, really like him. But, I'm not his girlfriend-he claims not to want one. He does the sweetest things for me, always ready to help and/or soothe me. He always misses me and I miss him too ...
A. 23 June 2010: If he doesn't want to commit to a relationship you don't have to break up with him at all. Just distance yourself and slowly drift away.... (read in full...)
Why do guys not show feelings?
Q. I was wondering why is it that guys do not show feelings. They act cold and like they could care less. Me and my boyfriend recently broke up 2 months ago. We spent a lot of time together and got close. We had a lot of good times together. I know I ...
A. 23 June 2010: Guys feel a broken heart the same way a girl does. Guys have lots of feelings too. But it's not acceptable to show them in our society, so they have learned to hide it better. I'm sure he's sad too, he just doesn't show it as much.... (read in full...)
How do I stop period cramps?
Q. Wot can one do to stop period cramps....
A. 23 June 2010: A good orgasm is a great remedy. Also a hot bath.... (read in full...)
My b/f's been exchanging dirty texts with other guys
Q. hey, i really need advice. a couple of months ago i looked through my boyfriends phone and i found that he was sending credit to his old number. so the next time i was in his house, i had a snoop and found the second phone with his old sim in it. i ...
A. 23 June 2010: In my opinion it doesn't matter what gender he's cheating with, cheating it cheating. You don't get one of each! How would you react if he was doing this with another woman? You need to confront him about it and do not let him try to turn the tables ... (read in full...)
Why do I get emotional when we fool around?
Q. This is a bit strange but whenever I fool around with my boyfriend I get really emotional and I don't know why. I cry for some reason!! . embarassing but true...it just seems like i'm crying of sadness after we just lay there but i'm not sad. I ...
A. 23 June 2010: I've heard of crymaxing, when you cry after orgasm or sex because you're just so overwhelmed with happiness. Nothing wrong with it, but you may have to put up with a bit of teasing from him.... (read in full...)
Do women worry about their parts the way men worry about theirs?
Q. I love the female form. There are so many variations of the female genitalia. What is the reason some women's labia majoria is hidden and others are larger and seem to hang out. Secondly, do women get hung up on there vaginas like men do with ...
A. 23 June 2010: First question: Well what is the reason some men have super round testicles while others have danglier ones? Why do some people have noses that point up while others have noses that point down? Same with the labia. It's all just norma natural ... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 23 June 2010: Oh and the porn industry is NOT a reliable source. They can't give any real numbers, they just sort of spread rumors about it and vaguely speculate in interviews to make it seem like porn is now cool among women. But polls of real women show a very ... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me for porn, when I'm perfectly willing?
Q. Hello, I seem to be having problems with my boyfriend and have no clue what to do. We have been dating for nearly a year now. Deep down, I know he's a good man, but for reasons I cannot understand, he prefers watching porn instead of doing anythin...
A. 23 June 2010: Porn can be very addicting, and it sounds like he has an addiction. You can't make him see that there's something wrong, he has to see it for himself. In this case you may have to give him an ultimatum, you or the porn. Then follow through on it if ... (read in full...)
Divorcee, having a terrible time meeting a boyfriend. Please advise.
Q. I am hitting rock bottom once again. After a brutal divorce, I am having a terrible time meeting a boyfriend, that is the right match for me,. I am sad as I try to do everything right. I take great care of myself, I am fit, have a great job and ...
A. 22 June 2010: You'll find someone, believe me you will. It can be difficult after a divorce. Have you thought about looking at online dating sites? They're getting really popular and a lot of couples are meeting on them.... (read in full...)
She says she's against abortion, but has already had one in the past!
Q. Hi. I have a question with which I desperately need some help. I love my wife very much, but I have found out some information recently that troubles me. I found out, totally by accident, that my wife had an abortion before we met. The thing that ...
A. 22 June 2010: I agree, that's really bad of her to lie. She was probably scared though, that you wouldn't stay with her if you knew. You said yourself you feel like she killed a baby, and it must hurt her to know that even though she made a good decision at the ... (read in full...)
Being with him is killing my self-esteem, with an excuse for everything I don't know what's going on here?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years. I'm 21 and he is 27. For the past year he hasn't been wanting sex as much as usual. I know that sounds common but he is a very sexually active person and we went from having sex almost every day to once ...
A. 22 June 2010: Sounds pretty sketchy. I personally would consider webcams cheating. And I don't buy the whole, "well I wanted to see if it worked" thing. He went there on his own will. What does he mean if it worked? If what worked, meeting girls on the internet ... (read in full...)
I hate him looking at porn, how do I get him to stop?
Q. ok so i've been reading some of the posts in the pornography section and i have a question to ask myself. I am a 17 year old girl. I have been with my partner for 2 years now and we have a 10 month old baby together. I haven't got the best bod...
A. 22 June 2010: He clearly has no regard for your feelings at all. I know you have a baby, but I don't think he's going to stop. He's not making an effort to think about you at all. Sounds like the relationship is with him and porn, not him and you. I can't believe ... (read in full...)
I am 15, want to be a porn star, any suggestions?
Q. i am 15 and i want to be a pornstar so bad any tips?...
A. 22 June 2010: Yeah. Stay in school and don't even think about it until you're 18. You're still practically a kid! A 15 year old shouldn't be wanting that. Do you want to be having really rough anal sex? Do you enjoy being fake gang raped? Only the famous ... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 21 June 2010: Recently. Some in 2005, most this year or last year though. It seems the numbers haven't changed much since around 2004. The only number that's changing is numbers of addictions, which is rising. It's now estimated that 15% of men who use ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hides how he feels from me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and everytime there is something or something bothering him or when he is in bad mood he never tells me what is wrong. This causes me to constantly worry about him. It really concerns me that ...
A. 21 June 2010: Most guys are like this. Even the super sensitive caring emotional ones. I hate when people say this, but I'm gonna say it. It's a guy thing. When they're sad most guys need to be alone and go to their little "man caves" where they can play violent ... (read in full...)
Could this be cancer or am I pregnant? Help!
Q. Hello all! I need YOUR help and adivce desperately...Okay, so a little over two weeks ago, I noticed a small bump on my cervix and ignored it. The next day, I had sex with my boyfriend and about two days later, noticed the bump was gone. At that ...
A. 21 June 2010: On a TV show they made a joke about how someone was googling for symptoms and all you have to do is type them in and wait for cancer to show up on the screen. You're very young, the chances of you having cancer are incredibly small. The pain in your ... (read in full...)
I've come to have feelings for my wife's older sister!
Q. Hi, i'm a married man for 6 months and my problem is i came to like my wife elder sister very much and sometimes lost interest in my wife. My wife elder sister is a simple person with a soft heart, she seem 2 like me as well but as i'm married to ...
A. 21 June 2010: Absolutely don't act on it, that's for sure. FA covered it all really well, so I second everything he says.... (read in full...)
Is trying to make me jealous a "dump-able" offense?
Q. He tries to make me jealous, Is this a dump able offense? The guy I've been seeing for a month or so constantly comments on other women, be it the girl from running club, a co-worker or even the newsreader. He's very complementary of me too and ha...
A. 21 June 2010: Why are you dating someone who's 45 when you're in the age range 18-21? That and he sounds like a player and a jerk. Yes, it's a dumpable offense. Not because of the specific thing, just because it shows he has a pretty weird sense of what's ... (read in full...)
Is he gay if he likes anal massages?
Q. i was just curious about something. been with my partner 2 years, we are really happy together and have high sex drives (we are at it everyday most of the time) the other night he guided my finger up his bum, while he led there masturbating and he c...
A. 21 June 2010: Lots of guys love this. It's like the male G-spot. Most just aren't willing to experiment because they're worried people will think they're gay. But it's not at all. I've never met a guy who tried it and didn't like it.... (read in full...)
Is it safe to skip the condom while on the pill?
Q. I'm taking birth control, I've been on it for about 3 months now, never missed a day. I haven't been active, but I'm curious that if I have sex, is my boyfriend able to finish in me, without the chance of getting pregnant. We don't want to use a ...
A. 21 June 2010: The pill is more effective than a condom. You're good to go without condoms and he can finish inside you. Nothing's 100% but doubling up seems excessive. I've been on the pill for a few years as have pretty much all my friends and none of us use a ... (read in full...)
Took emergency contraception, but feel like I'm pregnant
Q. I had my period last week for five days,finished on thursday.However,im feeling a lot of nausea everyday,and i puked 3days ago right after having breakfast...Which is a similar thing to morning sickness.I had unprotected sex 2weeks ago and i took ...
A. 21 June 2010: It's more likely a stomach bug than pregnancy. Since you had your period that means you're probably not pregnant. EC is very effective when taken with 72 hours. If you're really worried though you can take a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
The condom broke
Q. Hello, ok so today my girlfriend and i had sex for the first time. We were both virgins and I had protection during intercourse. Before i came i pulled out and the condom wasnt broken or anything. So she said to put another one on. So i rinsed t...
A. 21 June 2010: There is definitely a chance. Have her take the plan B emergency contraception AKA morning after pill just to be safe. It doesn't have many side effects, is cheap, and makes everything just a lot easier and worry free. You can get it much cheaper ... (read in full...)
He's cheating on me with porn!
Q. a few days ago i found out that my boyfriend, who i've been with for 6 months, has been watching porn on a regular basis, it hurt alot. mostly because he made a point for 5 months of telling me he was proud because he hadn't watched porn or ...
A. 20 June 2010: "also he told me he imagines having sex with other women while i'm asleep"
That's incredibly tactless and shows how little respect he has for you. That along with the lying (I assume that's the big reason it hurts so much) doesn't point to a pers... (read in full...)
Does he find normal sex boring?
Q. my boyfriend and i are having issues with sex. I want sex alot but he says that he hates it to often as it gets borin! Im gettin frustrated as im always the 1 givin oral and bring in toys etc to spice things up but i get hardly any input on his ...
A. 20 June 2010: Yeah I think you're right, guys who watch a LOT of porn can become addicted. The way you describe it I'm sure you're right about the porn. And you wouldn't have mentioned it unless you knew that was why. The slope starts exactly like you're ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me with a prostitute! Will I ever be able to trust him again?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been now dating for 3 years, he cheated on me with a prostitute but told me everything that happened straight after and asked me for forgivness. Ive been trying so far to forgive him and move on but i just feel our ...
A. 20 June 2010: I'd guess you're feeling jealous and insecure because deep down you know he's up to no good. He had sex with a prostitute? Get out. In order to have sex with a prostitute he has to think about it beforehand, arrange it ahead of time, and PAY HER. ... (read in full...)
Will I get pregnant if I stop taking bc?
Q. I dont understand why i cant find my question. So i will try it again. I need some emergency answer if that is possible. I start pills 2 days after my period. But now i think the pills is not fit to me. I feel always angry and easy to get bad mood. ...
A. 20 June 2010: Yes. As soon as you stop, you can get pregnant. Your pill won't affect your mood in two days, you should remain with it until the end of the month. If you decide to stop taking the pill you MUST use a back-up like a condom at all times.... (read in full...)
I can't fall in love?
Q. Hi! I want to have a boyfriend but why I can't fall in love. How to fall in love with a person?...
A. 20 June 2010: How would you know you can't fall in love if you don't have a boyfriend/partner? It takes months to TRULY fall in love (and not just be infatuated).... (read in full...)
The test was negative, but my period is nine days late!
Q. i am 9 days late and have took a pregnancy test last week that was negative but it feels like iv been having period pains for the past few weeks, could the test be wrong or is there something wrong with me, i also feel tired a lot and exhausted i ...
A. 20 June 2010: Yes stress can make a period late, but not usually THAT late. You should make an appointment with your gyno to rule out hormonal problems or like the below post said, an ectopic pregnancy.... (read in full...)
Won't have sex with me, but I catch him watching porn??!!!??
Q. I see a lot of this "boyfriend/husband watches porn" topic on on here. So what's the deal when he says he's never been interested in porn, you've been together 3 years, living together for 2, and maybe had sex a total of 10 times--no, it wasn't ...
A. 20 June 2010: This definitely sounds like a classic addiction and it sounds like he was addicted long before you were together by the fact that you've never had a good sex life together and that he hasn't had much experience besides you and one other ... (read in full...)
I looked at porn and my wife thinks I cheated!
Q. How can I prove to my wife I am not, and have never cheated on her? Recently my wife found out I had been looking at porn, it is something we had agreed not to do in the past, argued about in the past, and for some reason I looked at it again (I am ...
A. 17 June 2010: I agree, it's tricky. I think for her it all boils down to the fact that to her porn is cheating. I think it's tremendous of you to be so willing to try not to use porn because you know it hurts her and she should be happy with how much you try. ... (read in full...)
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