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writes:I've been seeing this man for almost four months and I really, really like him. But, I'm not his girlfriend-he claims not to want one. He does the sweetest things for me, always ready to help and/or soothe me. He always misses me and I miss him too at times. But, I want a relationship. I want to end whatever it is we have before I do something stupid and fall in love. Besides, my mom and best friend feel hes hiding something from me going so far as to say hes probably married or something (hes 34, i am 19) . I dont know...i havent met his parents or close friends. But, he stays out late with me and we spend entire days together...24hrs. So anyway, how do I go about "breaking up" with him? I'd still like a friendship I think...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHank you for the advise, guys :) but the moment I try distancing myself, he got upset. We usually see each the same days every week and I turned him down, he didn't sound happy and later said that he missed me via text...
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 If you'd like to stay friends, you need time apart so both of you can get over the romantic feelings you have for each other. Once things cool down, give friendship a try.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 June 2010):
 If he doesn't want to commit to a relationship you don't have to break up with him at all. Just distance yourself and slowly drift away.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 Hi. I dont think it will be possible to "break up" if you are only friends and still stay friends with him! Even if you see less of him it wont help because you will still want to be his girlfriend. I think you have two options. Either accept he doesnt want a girlfriend at the moment and cut him out of your life now, before you really fall for him. Or start to get "busy". Spend less time with him. Start showing interest in other guys. If he really doesnt like that and he doesnt want to lose you, he might stir his bones and make things more official between you. As for being married. He could be i guess. Ask him and say you would like to know more about him. Because he seems a little mysterious! All the best.
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