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12 October 2011: While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
Is Pornography cheating?
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1 May 2011: The age old question on this site seems to be "is pornography use cheating?" My response to that first depends on how you define cheating. A relationship is basically a sexual contract, an agreement between two (sometimes more) people. These people ...
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No memory of being naked in bed with my ex after the party!
Q. Last night I went to a party that my ex was at and got so badly drunk that i remember very little of what happened. This morning my friend was helping me fill in some of the gaps, and she said that she came into a bedroom to find me naked in bed ...
A. 12 July 2010: That fits the legal definition of rape you know. Taking advantage of a person while they are intoxicated falls well into the rape category. It's not so much that it was stupid, he's in the wrong here. I'm sure there's someplace you could get ... (read in full...)
Do guys judge a woman's body?
Q. right. i know my question is going to make me sound like every other teenager and you're all going to say "you're not ready for sex!" but i want to ask some questions about relationships and sex. i want to have sex with my boyfriend but i ...
A. 12 July 2010: From every guy I've talked to they basically think this the first time they see a woman naked, "omg boobs boobs boobs sex sex sex boobs sex boobs sex *drool*" Then when I ran it by my boyfriend and asked anything to add he went, "boobs. vagina. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know it... but I heard my friend jerking off!!!
Q. Ok so I (a girl) have a really close guy friend, who i secretly really like. We talk about anything. One night, I stayed at his house (just because) and we ended up sleeping in the same bed for warmth. So we talked for ages and I tried to get to ...
A. 12 July 2010: That's incredibly inappropriate to do while in bed with ANYONE, let alone a 13-15 year old you are just friends with. Even if he did like you and you turned him on that much, he could have gone into the bathroom and done something privately. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Can I not orgasm because I used to masturbate alot?
Q. Hi guys, i need ur help please.. Im Asian, my bf is European. We have a normal sex life (4/5times a week). The problem is that i have difficulty to get my orgasm. We've tried evrything we know, fingering, oral, etc. I really want to get it. As im an...
A. 12 July 2010: Some women simply cannot orgasm without a very specific type of stimulation. If you've been using a vibrator, it's possible that's really the only way for you to orgasm. Try having him use it on you. If you've been using your hands, sit him down and ... (read in full...)
Is it better to be wanted or needed?
Q. Here's a bit of a hypothetical question which has been bugging me... In a relationship do you think its better to be wanted or needed? Why? ...
A. 12 July 2010: Wanted, but eventually needed I think. You never want to only be needed by a lover and it shouldn't start out like that.... (read in full...)
Crying after masturbation?
Q. Hey, well im a virgen but i do masterbate and when ever im almost done or am done i feel like i wanna cry and some times i do. I like get really sad out of no where is that normal? Il be thinking of my boyfreind and stuff then when im done doing it ...
A. 12 July 2010: On a TV show I once heard it referred to as crymaxing. The feelings of orgasm are so overwhelming it makes you cry. And Chigirl is right, masturbation and sex are not very similar other than they stimulate the same area. Even the feeling of arousal ... (read in full...)
I feel uncomfortable giving oral sex
Q. Me and my boyfriend have a pretty healthy sex life but I'm afraid to give him oral sex. He doesn't seem to mind very much that I don't but I feel bad when he gives me oral and the best that I'm comfortable doing is giving him a hand job. He doesn't ...
A. 12 July 2010: What about it makes you uncomfortable? Obviously you shouldn't force yourself to do something you really don't want to. It's good he's not pushing you into it, but the only way to get over a fear is to face it. Talk to him about it, and let him know ... (read in full...)
He keeps checking out other girls when I'm with him!
Q. I've been living with my boyfriend for about five years. My problem is when we are out together I always catch him checking other women out and I know guys and women will check a good looking person out but it bothers me that he does this when I'm ...
A. 11 July 2010: Don't worry, he won't cheat just because he checks out other women. All people check out other people. It's just human nature, neither male nor female. However, it sounds like he's just being a little less discreet about it. It's not disrespectful ... (read in full...)
Is this bleeding from a broken hymen?
Q. Hi , just a really quick question I need some advice on. Basicly I lost my virginity with my boyfriend last tuesday , its sunday now since then we've had sex 2 other times and the last time I had sex was on friday. Although today I went to ...
A. 11 July 2010: It's normal to bleed the first few times you have sex. However if it persists and hurts for awhile you should go see a doctor. Though this sounds pretty normal. You don't bleed entirely from the hymen breaking it's also from little tears from being ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend take pictures with other women and hides them from me?
Q. I just moved in permanetly with my fiance and one day my fiance was showing me some photos he had in his phone, but wouldnt let me hold his phone, so i insisted and basically fought him for it n took his phone away from him and discovered that he ...
A. 11 July 2010: You should be worried that he would hide the pictures from you. He's doing things behind your back, hiding them, and then lying. That doesn't seem like a boyfriend material type of guy. I'm sorry this happened, but you can do way way better. And he ... (read in full...)
22 year old and 16 year old. What's legal?
Q. "OP Own Title" So, I am sixteen (will be seventeenth December) and I am really good friends with a twenty-two year old guy. We have talked every single day, for hours, for the past six months and we've really started to like each other. The other ...
A. 11 July 2010: If he's your coach, then that's illegal. And you might want to reconsider any kind of relationship, as he could be fired, not to mention ruin his reputation.... (read in full...)
Should I keep my weird sexual fantasy to myself?
Q. I have a really wierd sexual fantasy and I'm pretty sure any guy who ever heard it would run a mile! So should I just keep it to myself unless someone who I judge to be open minded enough comes along? If you're thinking what could be so wierd I ha...
A. 10 July 2010: I'd keep it to yourself until you've been dating awhile. But as far as weird goes, this isn't all that weird. Have you seen what's on the internet nowadays? But yeah, you shouldn't tell him on the first date or anything.... (read in full...)
Was it a weird vaginal exam?
Q. Hi All I got a strange question, but looking at this site i dont think it will be too strange lol,,,, ok My Wife is pregnant and she is due next week, she was at the hospital yesterday to register herself, they did a few tests as usual, and one ...
A. 10 July 2010: Nah, they're just checking the baby.... (read in full...)
What can I expect to happen when I lose my virginity?
Q. what are the signs one sees when she looses her virginity?...
A. 10 July 2010: You might bleed, it might hurt. You'll know because, as Chigirl said, there will be a penis in your vagina. It's the only way to know.... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight for vacation?
Q. So summers here and I go on holiday in just over 4 week. I'm 16 years old, 4ft 11" and weigh 9 stone (which I know is overweight) I really want to lose weight and tone up because just over a year ago I weighed 7 stone and was really slim and could ...
A. 10 July 2010: Other than eating healthy and exercising, there's not much you can do. You can jog outside for exercise so you won't run into people at the gym. As for eating, a good way to make sure you eat less is to eat slowly and never eat in front of the TV. ... (read in full...)
Help! I stumbled across his porn!
Q. Hi, so I was sending an email from my boyfriends laptop and went to attach my CV to it and the last thing he had been accessing on his laptop came up first - this happened to be a folder containing photos of naked celebrity women. I was quite shoc...
A. 10 July 2010: Why does it bother you now but not before? Is it just the shock of it being right there, in physical form? It's understandable for it to be a shock, but remind yourself that absolutely nothing has changed from before. If it wasn't bothering you ... (read in full...)
Are growth enhancers safe?
Q. Well according to my friends im a little on the short side. 15 and about 5'2..they joke about it and all that and tell me i should get those growth enhancers? i was just wondering if they're safe? if they work and are reliable? and what are some of ...
A. 10 July 2010: No, they don't work, they're not safe, they're not FDA approved, and lastly they just do not in any way work. At all. 5'2" isn't that short anyways. Lots of people think it's cute. Don't mess with your health for no reason.... (read in full...)
She's had bigger
Q. just wondering how others feel, wife was quite open about past lovers , no problems there, from the time she started having sex she said she had some big ones, 8, to 9 inches, 5in around, said they hurt but had a gleem in her eye talking about em, ...
A. 10 July 2010: You should believe her about it hurting. 8 or 9 inches is definitely into the cervix boxing category of pain. Plus pleasurable sex has very little to do with penetration. It mostly has to do with what you can do with your pubic bone and hands, and ... (read in full...)
Is this a yeast infection or something entirely different?
Q. Hi, this is really embarrassing but i have a "feminine problem!". i rlly hope this isnt too graphic and im trying to make it as clean as possible! well yesterday i slept over a friends house and i felt fine alll day. then that night, around 2:30am ...
A. 10 July 2010: We can give some great advice on here, but this sounds like something you'd need to ask your doctor. We couldn't possibly know. Better safe than sorry when it comes to your body! No harm can come from seeing a doctor, but harm can come from ignoring ... (read in full...)
22 year old and 16 year old. What's legal?
Q. "OP Own Title" So, I am sixteen (will be seventeenth December) and I am really good friends with a twenty-two year old guy. We have talked every single day, for hours, for the past six months and we've really started to like each other. The other ...
A. 10 July 2010: Everything is legal up until sex. It is legal for a 16 year old to have sex so long as the older person isn't in some kind of authority position over the minor. So basically you could legally have sex.
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After intercourse I get what feels like urinary infection what is causing this?
Q. Thanks in advance for any answers! Recently, after intercourse, I get what feels like cystitis or a urinary infection. Sometimes it's a day after sex and other times only a few hours. It stings and my bladder feels uncomfortably full yet I only ...
A. 10 July 2010: You could have the beginnings of a UTI. Try taking cranberry pills to clear it up. Also always use the bathroom as soon as possible after sex. Don't wait hours and hours. Also keep things clean down there. Cranberry has a compound in it that has ... (read in full...)
Do birth control pills provide enough protection?
Q. I've been on birth control pills for over a year now and have been having sex with my boyfriend for the same amount of time. We used to always use condoms as a back-up with the birth control pills but for the past few months we haven't. Everytime we ...
A. 10 July 2010: Birth control pills are more effective than condoms. You don't need to use another form of birth control when on the pill. Pulling out counts as another form of birth control. If you are on the pill he can cum inside you without a condom and you ... (read in full...)
Does "best friend' mean "just friends"?
Q. Dear Cupid, if a guy you like calls you his "best friend" does that mean you have no chance of being with him or could there still be hope. Thanks so much =)...
A. 10 July 2010: Doesn't mean there's no chance, just that for now he considers you a really good friend. Some of the best relationships start out as great friendships. Keep an eye out for things that put you above best friend to best girl, like just seeming really ... (read in full...)
I don't get wet when turned on!
Q. I have been dating my current boyfriend for awhile now and at first the sex was great! However lately, I can't seem to get wet at all even if I am super turned on. We have started using lubricants but is something wrong with me? why can't I get wet ...
A. 10 July 2010: You could be dehydrated. Make sure you're drinking plenty of WATER (not soda, beer, etc...). And no, nothing's wrong with you. Totally normal to go trough a "dry spell" once in awhile.... (read in full...)
Married but fantasising about sex with a woman.....
Q. im happily married but there one thing on my mind when im alone i watch lesbian porn it really turns me on and i masterbate when i watch it i dont watch it that often but does this mean im a lesbian? i have always wonder what it be like to have sex ...
A. 10 July 2010: Nah, it's totally normal. It's one of the most common female fantasies out there. I bet your husband would love that fantasy if you shared it with him!... (read in full...)
My boobs haven't grown any more!
Q. hi. i started my pireod when i was 13 and a half and im now 15 and a half but ever since i started i've stayed the same boob size( a :( ) and 4 months after i started my boobs never hurt again. what is going on with them? thanks for any reply...
A. 10 July 2010: Your boobs don't stop growing until your early twenties. Your boobs won't just continuously grow, they'll come in little spurts. And soreness doesn't mean they're growing, just means they're swollen from fluid retention. And don't worry too much ... (read in full...)
Is giving him a marriage ultimatum without communicating with him okay?
Q. [OP's original title] I have a boyfriend of 1 year. We have plans of getting married, but whenever we try to discuss, it becomes a hot topic and he is defensive. I have stopped bringing up the issue or contributing when he beings it up cos it make...
A. 8 July 2010: 32 is not old enough to be terribly worried about a biological clock. One year is a very short amount of time! It's not giving someone an ultimatum if you don't tell them. It's giving YOURSELF an ultimatum for when to leave. If he skirts around the ... (read in full...)
Unsure about masturbation.
Q. I'm a fourteen year old girl, and well...a lot of my friends "masterbate". I suppose at first I was a bit shocked when they told me that. I had heard the term before, but had never taken part in trying to. I am very curious about my body now, but ...
A. 8 July 2010: First you have to get over that guilt about masturbating for it to feel good. Find a place where you can be totally alone, like the bathtub. Somewhere no one will disturb you. Masturbation is very beneficial and healthy. It is a better sleep aid ... (read in full...)
What is so special to women about having a baby?
Q. [OP's original title] You're all not going to like this...But I am a guy and I don't think there is anything special about having kids. I had a vasectomy years ago, and there's some lunatic woman I've met, who I'm having it off with, who wants a baby...
A. 8 July 2010: Some men feel this too, though I'd imagine it's stronger in women. That's really what humans are built for. Having babies. You know, men are built for it too. Your bits are specially designed to deliver maximum pregnancy potency as well as to ... (read in full...)
He copies moves and words from porn movies! It's not romantic and it's not helping my insecurities!
Q. hey there, i know you probably read these questins all the time but here we go. im 17 and my boyfriend of 21 have been together for a year, and recently i have become very insecure in my relationship. every day i dont think i am good enough or ...
A. 5 July 2010: When porn interferes with your sex life, then it is without a doubt a problem. 2 hours every single day seems excessive. I promise you, you're not second best. He's not settling for you. You definitely need to find some way to talk about this with ... (read in full...)
His want for sex is exhausting me!!!
Q. I just moved in with my boyfriend several weeks ago. I had been holding off having sex for a long time and we finally started having it a little while before I moved in. Now that we're living together, he wants to have sex all of the time. It's ...
A. 4 July 2010: You sit him down in a non-threatening way and talk to him about it. Good ways to be non-threatening are to not face him (like while sitting in a car or walking together) and/or sit a little lower than him (like he's in a chair you're on the floor).... (read in full...)
Do all men fantasize of other women than their girlfriend?
Q. Do all men fanatisize of women other than their girlfriends while masturbating all of the time? Is this a red flag? Does it mean they'd probably cheat too? Is it ok to do this?...
A. 2 July 2010: No not all men. Most men, and most women. But no not all. And no it doesn't mean anything and it doesn't mean they want to cheat.... (read in full...)
I've lost so much respect for him because of his porn use
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating 1 year and a half, I love him but I've lost so much respect for him because of his porn use. I find his internet history full of porn videos, with titles like illegal teens, incest, and other disgusting things ...
A. 2 July 2010: If he won't stop even though he knows how much it hurts you and that you can't stay with him, he's never going to stop and you need to leave if it's something you can't deal with. Maybe leaving him will be the incentive for him to stop to hold on to ... (read in full...)
My man doesn't want to watch porn WITH me, only behind my back. Should I be worried?
Q. My man watches porn online while im sleeping or not home. I have asked him nicely to only watch it with me as a couple, but he still does it behind my back. Should i be concerned? Is he loosing interest in me?...
A. 2 July 2010: No he's not losing interest at all. Are you bothered because you don't want him to do it or because you're worried he's not attracted to you? He's still interested, don't worry.... (read in full...)
I know that men look at porn so why does he claim not to? I'm not the jealous type.
Q. Why do guys lie about watching porn? My boyfriend and I have been together for several years and at the beginning of our relationship would look at it together quite a lot, usually just for fun (i.e. trying to find the weirdest stuff we could) but ...
A. 2 July 2010: Why are you so convinced he does watch? Maybe he really does masturbate to pictures of you. For most men porn is just a visual aid, not because they're not attracted to you. If you give him a visual aid (pictures etc...) then he has one and doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to use Nair to remove pubic or armpit hair??
Q. Can you use hair removal cream like nair for your pubic hair?? Armpit hair??? Anyone know!!...
A. 2 July 2010: Yes, it's safe to use on armpits. As for pubic hair, it's safe so long as you don't let it get anywhere near any sensitive bits, as that can actually burn you.... (read in full...)
How do guys treat their close female friends over a romantic interest?
Q. Dilema!!! I have a great guy friend and as of late I've been thinking we may be more.....He's bought me gifts, we text A LOT and even until recently he never hugged me when we said goodbye, but the last few times I left he either made the first ...
A. 26 June 2010: Tough to say if he likes you as more than a close friend. You could try flirting with him and see if he responds? Extra touching is never a bad sign though.... (read in full...)
How do I let my teacher know I like him before school ends?
Q. there is but one day of school left, and that will be the last time I see my crush. I would have enjoyed telling him my feelings, but he happens to be my teacher. We have always had amazing conversations, and he always tells me about his day. He ...
A. 26 June 2010: I agree with the below posters. No teacher would be offended by a nice card at the end of the year, and you could just write in it "keep in touch" and put your email and/or phone number. Then the ball is in his court and you don't have to worry ... (read in full...)
I'm losing my wife to her "work" family
Q. my wife is a CNA and works for a sick man with a family and she is emotionaly attached to his family to the point of going to the movies,dinner, shopping she is in denial im loosing her please help ...
A. 26 June 2010: The only thing you can do is talk to her and let her know how much it hurts. I've been in your situation before only with a close family member, it's hard to deal with. You just have to keep trying to get through to her and remind her YOU'RE her ... (read in full...)
Could I have lost my virginity and gotten pregnant at the same time?
Q. okay so i am 17 and i lost my virginity thursday like 3 in the morning in the pool and it didnt hurt at all, but, it was only in me for like 3 minutes and when he pushed me away i looked down , and he had nutted. im sooo scared idk anything about ...
A. 25 June 2010: Yeah you could, but if you take the morning after pill the chances go down to practically zero. Get yourself to a planned parenthood or feminist clinic ASAP.... (read in full...)
Excessive masturbation?
Q. [Mod note: OP's title] Hello, I have a problem with masturbation. I do it really often and I get turned on pretty easily. I am not sure of this healthy. Could you please tell me how many times per week is fine, health-wise? Any doctors...
A. 25 June 2010: Some people do it multiple times a day some people never do and there are all people in between. Unless it's interfering with your daily life or relationships, then no it's not too much. Since you asked how often per week rather than how often per ... (read in full...)
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