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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now and everytime there is something or something bothering him or when he is in bad mood he never tells me what is wrong. This causes me to constantly worry about him. It really concerns me that he never tells me how he feels and makes me feel bad when I tell him problems I'm having. It feels like I'm a burden to him. I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried talking to him about it and all he says is "don't worry about it"...well I worry about it and I can't really help it. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the answers everyone :)
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Most guys are like this. Even the super sensitive caring emotional ones. I hate when people say this, but I'm gonna say it. It's a guy thing. When they're sad most guys need to be alone and go to their little "man caves" where they can play violent video games or whatever it is they do there. If you bug him about it he'll just shut down more. Guys hate talking about their feelings, especially when it's negative. They think it's a reflection on them and it's unmanly to complain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): My husband is just like this. On one hand he wants to protect me. One the other hand....he has difficulty showing his feelings. His parents divorced when he was 3...and he told me one time in a rare moment of candidness that he had spent his whole life guarding, hiding, and protecting his feelings. its just not that easy to open your self up to potential hurt. He avoids conficts and doesnt like to talk about any issue that causes him distress. thru the years he was worked on it and has made some progress. but the truth is he only opened up and told me that about 8 months ago. after 27 years of marriage ...at 47 years of age he finally felt safe enough to say it to me.
and i finally stopped pushing him to do something he really just cant. try to understand that sometimes it is the human way of coping with the circumstances that we find ourselves in. give him some slack. if he is caring and honest, dependable and kind...then allow him his protection from discomfort. mal
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reader, Tt-7 +, writes (21 June 2010):
 I kno how u feel because I have a boyfriend jus like that...If I were you I woulnd't really think about it as much..I mean it bothered me too but I got used to it.. Like you said you tell him alot on your part..So I'm thinking your open minded in your relationship...There could b alot reasons why doesn't tell you things..One that hes probably jus not the typ that puts it out like that..Well thats jus one but if you two are together all the time..There's nothing you should worry about...But sooner or later he will come to the point where he will tell you..Hopefully...Until then jus go on as nothing is wrong...Don't pressure him into saying things he doesn't want to..It could come to the point where he could get tired of you bothering him about it and leave...His time will come jus hold in....
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reader, ladiesman11 +, writes (21 June 2010):
some guys dont like worrying other ppl with there problems or maybe he is depressed.i dont know the guy so i cant really tell u but all of us guys r different
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOops I made a typo I didn't mean to put 2 somethings in the first sentence _
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