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I threatened to ruin my fiance's life during an argument and now he doesn't want to talk to me or see me!
Q. My fiance and I just had a fight recently and I'm quite confused about what I feel now and I don't know what to do. It started with a small argument with me kicking a fuss about some small issue. But then I threatened to tell his colleagues and b...
A. 3 April 2010: Hahaha.. thank you for your update, you've just made my day... I'm happy and excited for you as well.. :)
Now, if you feel the need to apologise, just once will do.. you and him are going out to have fun, be happy and smile a lot and tell him that... (read in full...)
I threatened to ruin my fiance's life during an argument and now he doesn't want to talk to me or see me!
Q. My fiance and I just had a fight recently and I'm quite confused about what I feel now and I don't know what to do. It started with a small argument with me kicking a fuss about some small issue. But then I threatened to tell his colleagues and b...
A. 3 April 2010: Sigh...just saw your update, and now I'm upset that I got angry with you. I guess we both got to change our ways.. :)
I know you miss him, I know you want to see him to apologise and make everything alright again, but it really isn't the right ti... (read in full...)
Do girls just not search for guys online unless they are really desperate?
Q. Something doesn't make sense to me. I can't figure it out. My friends were joking about signing up for the online dating site plentyoffish. Anyways, I signed up for it with a fake picture and just looked at and read a lot of the profiles of the ...
A. 3 April 2010: (slams door) I'm off to catch some fish........... (read in full...)
Never too old for heartache and being foolish
Q. at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...
A. 2 April 2010: Now we both got homework, what did Q put up to make us women think.. ... (read in full...)
Never too old for heartache and being foolish
Q. at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...
A. 2 April 2010: ah... sorry, hate the crying stuff not good at that...
mmm... found out the best way is to just cry and suffer the nightmares, after a while they go away..
My friends helped me with the nightmares, told me to stop running in my dreams and to as... (read in full...)
Never too old for heartache and being foolish
Q. at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...
A. 2 April 2010: Burning bra's.. ppff... don't wear one anyway..
Hey, I'm doing this list on my own.. you got any suggestions on how to take up time when your feeling down and crappy...
Baking cakes and bread, making ice-cream.. done, but they weren't eatable ... (read in full...)
Never too old for heartache and being foolish
Q. at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...
A. 2 April 2010: Hey, 66 is the new 40.. before me mum got sick she was picking up younger guys than me...
My 30th birthday, my mum's 60 and I'm having to fight off all them 20year old guys who think a woman in a red dress with grey hair is sexy... grrrrr..... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to have a baby and have even saved up the money for it!
Q. helloo please could you help me! i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it. i have told my boyfriend and he agrees with me 100% he wants a baby and he has s...
A. 2 April 2010: About this "hole thing"... I've never had a sister, I would have loved one. Maybe your sister is unhappy too. She has to get all the good grades, the parents keep on bothering her. Maybe sometimes she like to have fun and relax and switch places ... (read in full...)
I just want to know how long before I feel whole again?
Q. I have written here in the past because my husband was going through some very troubled times. I thought I had been living with an alcoholic only to recently find out he has borderline personality disorder which caused his erratic impulsive ...
A. 2 April 2010: Yea!!! Exactly what Trisha just said... I'm not great with comforting words, but that's exactly what you should do...
Embrace life, they are people out there who love you or can understand your pain and they will help and support you.. :)... (read in full...)
I just want to know how long before I feel whole again?
Q. I have written here in the past because my husband was going through some very troubled times. I thought I had been living with an alcoholic only to recently find out he has borderline personality disorder which caused his erratic impulsive ...
A. 2 April 2010: You loved and had to loose your man many times.. first to alcohol, then to mental illness, and lastly to death...
Life is too short, grab happiness when you can. Your husband loved you, but he was trapped by his illness and his own daemons ... (read in full...)
Men & affairs--what's it really all about?
Q. Do men who have affairs really enjoy having another woman or does it all become a bit of a chore keeping everything secret? Plus do these men just latch on to anyone who'll have them - or is there always an attraction there?...
A. 2 April 2010: oppps.. here's the link I promised...
http://www.dearcupid.org/category/cheating... (read in full...)
Men & affairs--what's it really all about?
Q. Do men who have affairs really enjoy having another woman or does it all become a bit of a chore keeping everything secret? Plus do these men just latch on to anyone who'll have them - or is there always an attraction there?...
A. 2 April 2010: Do WOMEN who have affairs really enjoy having another MAN or does it all become a bit of a chore keeping everything secret? Plus do these WOMEN just latch on to anyone who'll have them - or is there always an attraction there?
The clue is in my ed... (read in full...)
Why do some (most) men want soo much to have sex with many different women when they already have one beautiful, loving, sexually adventuress woman who loves them?
Q. Why do some (most) men want soo much to have sex with many different women when they already have one beautiful, loving, sexually adventuress woman who loves them? My (now ex) boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me with several women. All just ...
A. 2 April 2010: In my experience, most men are faithful, and it's often the woman that cheats..
Care to explain how that one works for me?... (read in full...)
Why do some (most) men want soo much to have sex with many different women when they already have one beautiful, loving, sexually adventuress woman who loves them?
Q. Why do some (most) men want soo much to have sex with many different women when they already have one beautiful, loving, sexually adventuress woman who loves them? My (now ex) boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me with several women. All just ...
A. 2 April 2010: I have a feeling that some men cheated long before we even had television....
Stop thinking about him, what he dose is beyond our comprehension, and it's probably beyond his own. You need to concentrate on what you want.
Some men cheat, some ... (read in full...)
What do women want? I don't know!
Q. A while ago, I came across a blog entry from a male musician on MySpace. It was about how men should be treating women with more respect and courtesy, and how women are not objects, and so should not be treated as such. I was liking the whole idea ...
A. 2 April 2010: Or old men.. it's just nice to meet guys who got some manners..... (read in full...)
What do women want? I don't know!
Q. A while ago, I came across a blog entry from a male musician on MySpace. It was about how men should be treating women with more respect and courtesy, and how women are not objects, and so should not be treated as such. I was liking the whole idea ...
A. 2 April 2010: Strange guys come up to me all the time and tell me I'm beautiful... it's nice to hear and always makes me laugh... guess they are right when they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
And yes, if a guy is downright handsome or pretty, ... (read in full...)
I told him I want to sleep with him, but then he tells me he is a virgin! What should I do?
Q. So there's this guy who goes to my school and we've fancied each other for years, and we dirty text quite a bit, and last night I slipped out that I really wanna f**k him, and that I'm not the type of girl to sleep with just anyone but I'd make a ...
A. 2 April 2010: You made the offer... he'll feel rejected if you turn him down. But it sounds like you were thinking sex, sometimes virgins can mistake lust for love. Be clear about what your offering and what it is that you can give.
Unfortunately with vir... (read in full...)
Am I just his rebound?
Q. Is he on the rebound, I need a wake-up call if that's what I need... I am 31 yrs old and have been seeing this guy since mid-Jan. We met on New Years eve. I was out with friends and he was a friend of a friend, who was staring at me all night and...
A. 2 April 2010: Sorry for all the insults, but you did ask me to give you a wake up call... unfortunately your too far away to slap and violence is forbidden nowadays..
Please listen to your heart, it's not deceiving you, he is exactly what he appears to be.. :)... (read in full...)
Am I just his rebound?
Q. Is he on the rebound, I need a wake-up call if that's what I need... I am 31 yrs old and have been seeing this guy since mid-Jan. We met on New Years eve. I was out with friends and he was a friend of a friend, who was staring at me all night and...
A. 2 April 2010: Your a clever woman, this rang warning bells for me as well...
"My personal opinion is that if she gave him a warning that she was bored then why didn't he take heed and do something to put the spark back?"
hahahaha... I like you even more no... (read in full...)
Should I confront her and let destiny run its course?
Q. I'm in-love with my wife, she is my soul mate, the love of my life! We been married for 16 yrs and 13 yrs ago I caught her cheating on me, it broke my heart. She promise me that she would end the affair and begged me to stay I forgave her and took ...
A. 2 April 2010: Sorry, missed your update..
So she choose the lover...
She's not out of your life completely I'm afraid, she still is the mother of your children.
Think deeply and act slowly, your making life time decisions for yourself and your childr... (read in full...)
Should I confront her and let destiny run its course?
Q. I'm in-love with my wife, she is my soul mate, the love of my life! We been married for 16 yrs and 13 yrs ago I caught her cheating on me, it broke my heart. She promise me that she would end the affair and begged me to stay I forgave her and took ...
A. 2 April 2010: Oh I'm so sorry, of course we won't call you names, we are strangers remember, and many of us have also been in pain.
She says she loves this guy, she might not, she might be bored, fed up or just excited by a new relationship. But this is not r... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has strict conditins on my involvement with my daughter and her mum
Q. Hi There, It's come to this as I honestly don't know what else to try, and I need to know if I am in the wrong here or if it's my current gf. I met my current gf 4 years ago, at this point she was lovely and wanted to be totally involved in...
A. 2 April 2010: Missed your FOLLOW UP...
Thanks,
I kind of guessed it was time to get rid, I have tried talking to her, but she will not listen to me. I have already lost my friends due to her, I moved 150 miles from them. She banned me going to one of their ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has strict conditins on my involvement with my daughter and her mum
Q. Hi There, It's come to this as I honestly don't know what else to try, and I need to know if I am in the wrong here or if it's my current gf. I met my current gf 4 years ago, at this point she was lovely and wanted to be totally involved in...
A. 2 April 2010: Poor daughter, she must miss her dad very much...
It won't get better once your girlfriend has a child, instead it'll be 1000% worse. Your girlfriend wants your ex and her child out of your life, she intends her and her new baby to be the only... (read in full...)
What's the best way to contact an ex?
Q. i want to contact my ex after 6 months of no contact. whats the best way to do it?...
A. 2 April 2010: Telephone or facebook is best... keep it light and simple and make sure it's only friendship your looking for otherwise forget it.... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to fake virginity when she marries?
Q. I just want to know if it is possible for a girl to hide her premarital sexual relations form her husband (she's been having regular sexual relations with other males for 5 years before marriage). She is going to marry after 6 months ...
A. 2 April 2010: Sigh.. just realised, operations are common in Saudi Arabia, Turkey and other Muslim countries, not sure if you can get one in India.. contact your nearest woman's group or NGO for help.... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a woman to fake virginity when she marries?
Q. I just want to know if it is possible for a girl to hide her premarital sexual relations form her husband (she's been having regular sexual relations with other males for 5 years before marriage). She is going to marry after 6 months ...
A. 2 April 2010: There are doctors that perform operations if you are very frightened that your new husband will be abusive if he finds out. Best to talk to other women in your culture who you know you can trust.
Why can't she marry the guy she's already had sex ... (read in full...)
Do girls just not search for guys online unless they are really desperate?
Q. Something doesn't make sense to me. I can't figure it out. My friends were joking about signing up for the online dating site plentyoffish. Anyways, I signed up for it with a fake picture and just looked at and read a lot of the profiles of the ...
A. 2 April 2010: mmmm.. stuff, you wanted help..
Gok Wan (how to look good naked) that chinese tv guy, swears by just asking out as many women as you can. Dosen't matter if they reject you or not, after the first 30 your feeling of shyness will go. Then aft... (read in full...)
Do girls just not search for guys online unless they are really desperate?
Q. Something doesn't make sense to me. I can't figure it out. My friends were joking about signing up for the online dating site plentyoffish. Anyways, I signed up for it with a fake picture and just looked at and read a lot of the profiles of the ...
A. 2 April 2010: I'm looking for a Johnny Depp with IT skills. Thanks.
Hands off Askoldersis, I bite hard and protect my interests... grrrrrrr
Don't think much of them date sites, specially not that fish one.. I did try, wanted to see what it was about.. got ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between 2 men and my marriage is falling apart!
Q. Hi i am a 27 year old female, i have been married for 6 months to my husband. When we first got married everything was fine and dandy , he treated me like gold and was romantic, now after just 2 months after the wedding he changes. stops being ...
A. 2 April 2010: Dump them both.. you don't love either man, and I doubt you'll be faithful to your lover.
Your young, don't tie yourself down right now. You need freedom, your not ready to be a wife.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 9 years cheats and talks down to me!
Q. I been in a 9 year relationship with this guy and we have 2 kids together and he has hurt me so many times. Is it even worth it trying to make it work? He has cheated on me numerous of time and I constantly forgave him and try to make it for my ...
A. 2 April 2010: Leave him... and I don't say that lightly.. I prefer for families to stay together..
This man is abusive and you deserve better.. make sure he pays towards the kids, and remember, if he treats you bad, it dosen't mean that they should be punished... (read in full...)
How can I hang out with my secret boyfriend?
Q. so i have a secret boyfriend, not going to tell my parents, and we reeeally like each other. but we don't know how to hang out over summer vacation, any suggestions?...
A. 2 April 2010: No sorry honeypie.. can't tell you to lie to your folks... there are a lot of parents here and they get angry when I tell kids to do wrong things..
How about you tell your parents about your new "friend" and how much you like spending time wit... (read in full...)
Never too old for heartache and being foolish
Q. at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...
A. 2 April 2010: Sigh.. like the rest of us honeypie.. you put on a brave face, dress your best for work, put on some make up, and paint a bright smile on your face... Then you fake it untill you make it.. You force yourself to be happy in public, show him that your ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forces me to have sex with him!
Q. i've got problems with my new boyfriend.first time when we meet..everything was consider okey between us.but,one day...he start to talk about sexs.everytime he text me..he always said.."i want you baby"...plss....sometimes i feel fedup with ...
A. 2 April 2010: Leave this boy, he is a child and he shows you no respect. He dosen't listen when you say no, and wants to force you into sex. Leave him, he is not a good man.... (read in full...)
After his ex called, he just dropped me! Will he go back to her?
Q. I have been in love with my coworker the past year. He had a girlfriend his first love the past 3 years. She left him because she found out he had feelings for me. Well to make a long story short we got drunk together and went out a couple tim...
A. 2 April 2010: First love, three years.. that's a whole pile of loving and commitment right there..
Then you come along.. after three years he gets bored, you seem new and different and he thinks it could be love.
But of course he misses her, and he thinks ma... (read in full...)
I threatened to ruin my fiance's life during an argument and now he doesn't want to talk to me or see me!
Q. My fiance and I just had a fight recently and I'm quite confused about what I feel now and I don't know what to do. It started with a small argument with me kicking a fuss about some small issue. But then I threatened to tell his colleagues and b...
A. 2 April 2010: Over a small argument, you threaten to ruin this man's life by getting him sacked, leaving him in a position with no money and probably no references....
WOW!!!!!!!! What happens when it's a big argument and you get really, really angry?
... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to have a baby and have even saved up the money for it!
Q. helloo please could you help me! i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it. i have told my boyfriend and he agrees with me 100% he wants a baby and he has s...
A. 2 April 2010: "i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it."
If they are sick tired of you talking about babies now, when you don't have one, they definitely won't stick around t... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to have a baby and have even saved up the money for it!
Q. helloo please could you help me! i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it. i have told my boyfriend and he agrees with me 100% he wants a baby and he has s...
A. 2 April 2010: 1. How old is your boyfriend
2. How much money do you have saved
3. How do you intend to finish school
4. Where are you and your baby going to live
5. Are you and your boyfriend already having unprotected sex
6. What can you offer a baby, what s... (read in full...)
BF and I broke up but still slept together but he also slept with his ex!
Q. so my boyfriend and i dated for 9 months and broke up because he wanted to sleep with other women. but after we broke up, we were still sleeping together because we were having a hard time getting over each other. we got back together about 2 ...
A. 2 April 2010: You agreed to break up and allow him to "sleep with other people", you then agreed to sleep with him even though you were not in a committed relationship.
As far as I can understand, he's done nothing wrong. You had no proper relation... (read in full...)
Why do men only want fun?
Q. Why do men just want fun?? - Is there anyway to go further or are they all just destined to only want fun? - Why is it only when they want fun? - why do they want to catch up but never make time available?...
A. 2 April 2010: Why do SOME men only want fun?
Why do SOME WOMEN only want fun?
Dear lady, I think it's a problem with the guys your choosing to be with. There are plenty of gentleman who love to spend time pleasing a lady and treating her right... same goes fo... (read in full...)
I've been offered to appear in an adult film. Any advice as to what goes on behind the scenes?
Q. I have been with my partner for 8 years and we have a solid relationship, in the past we have had threesomes with single men/woman and couples, it's never been something we do all of the time, just on the odd occasion, I have recently been offered ...
A. 31 March 2010: mmmm... research and then research again... you have to be 100% comfortable with your body, have few insecurities and your relationship with people have to be good. Adult films are very different from swingers sex, you'll be at work, the guys are ... (read in full...)
Why do men need porn?
Q. If women get off without porn why can't men get off on the feeling alone also? Why is porn needed??...
A. 31 March 2010: "I have been told it will not stop and the ball is in my court now because it is who he is and its just pictures and he will always do it. So Now I must decide to feel the pain, or find a way for it to not hurt or feel more pain and leave."
These... (read in full...)
I don't want kids at our wedding, my fiance does... how can we resolve this?
Q. Hi, I'm getting married next year and me and my fiancé keep disagreeing over 1 particular issue - having children at our wedding. Now I'm sure i'm going to get a lot of "hate" responses but I'm not trying to be nasty. I don't want children...
A. 30 March 2010: If you don't allow children at your wedding, you may find many family memebers and friends stay away. Babysitters are expensive and they might not be able to afford one on top of a decent dress, suit and a present for the both of you.
It's ... (read in full...)
Why are my teachers saying I'm anorexic??
Q. Hi again, I know I have already put a question up about teachers and boyfriends! But can someone help me.... All my teachers (and I really do mean ALL my teachers) are telling me I'm anorexic! Ok I may not be helping this situation by calling mys...
A. 28 March 2010: Good luck mish mash, we and everyone else are worried about you.. take care of you... Blessings... (read in full...)
Why do men need porn?
Q. If women get off without porn why can't men get off on the feeling alone also? Why is porn needed??...
A. 28 March 2010: Mrs Anonymous from 27th March 2010, please ask your husband to go to marriage counselling with you, or go see a counsellor yourself.... (read in full...)
Why are my teachers saying I'm anorexic??
Q. Hi again, I know I have already put a question up about teachers and boyfriends! But can someone help me.... All my teachers (and I really do mean ALL my teachers) are telling me I'm anorexic! Ok I may not be helping this situation by calling mys...
A. 28 March 2010: If you can't eat one big meal, then break it down, try to eat 6 small meals... Nuts are high in protein, so are eggs and they are easy to swallow. Don't forget your fruit and carbohydrates, mash potatoes are easy to swallow.
Ask to see a counsell... (read in full...)
Why are my teachers saying I'm anorexic??
Q. Hi again, I know I have already put a question up about teachers and boyfriends! But can someone help me.... All my teachers (and I really do mean ALL my teachers) are telling me I'm anorexic! Ok I may not be helping this situation by calling mys...
A. 28 March 2010: Yes marieclaire, my comment should have been posed to the original poster.. :)
Mish Mash, how can we know what is normal for your age.. it depends on your height and your weight.. surely you know what that is, you calorie count and you've been see... (read in full...)
My fiance wants me to make out with another woman while he watches!!!
Q. hi my boyfriend, now my fiance, soon to be my husband wants me to make out with another woman and for him to watch.. he said he wont get close or get involve or get near her, he said to even tie him up to the bed or a chair and for him to just sit ...
A. 27 March 2010: should i go for it and that means i have to find a girl cuz he said whoever i want. or should i tell him no?
What do you want to do? Do you fancy women?... (read in full...)
Why are my teachers saying I'm anorexic??
Q. Hi again, I know I have already put a question up about teachers and boyfriends! But can someone help me.... All my teachers (and I really do mean ALL my teachers) are telling me I'm anorexic! Ok I may not be helping this situation by calling mys...
A. 27 March 2010: Marieclaire, part of the problem with anorexics is they want to stay in control, they also like the attention they are getting. She will not admit that she is sick, she will continue to overexercise and starve herself.. but she will loose control, ... (read in full...)
Why are my teachers saying I'm anorexic??
Q. Hi again, I know I have already put a question up about teachers and boyfriends! But can someone help me.... All my teachers (and I really do mean ALL my teachers) are telling me I'm anorexic! Ok I may not be helping this situation by calling mys...
A. 27 March 2010: I also noticed you haven't mentioned your height or your weight... you are probably well below a normal BMI, and have the body of a child.
http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/default.aspx?page=1428
You will either eat or you will be sectioned and fo... (read in full...)
Why are my teachers saying I'm anorexic??
Q. Hi again, I know I have already put a question up about teachers and boyfriends! But can someone help me.... All my teachers (and I really do mean ALL my teachers) are telling me I'm anorexic! Ok I may not be helping this situation by calling mys...
A. 27 March 2010: All the things you say are the symptoms of anorexia. A trained medical person (school nurse) has diagnoised you as anorexic. Soon your periods will stop, then you won't heal if you cut yourself. Before you drop into a coma, the medical team and ... (read in full...)
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