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writes:I have been with my partner for 8 years and we have a solid relationship, in the past we have had threesomes with single men/woman and couples, it's never been something we do all of the time, just on the odd occasion,I have recently been offered to be in an adult film,I and my partner have discussed it and are both fine as it would give us a good holiday,I would like to know if any other women have done any adult films and what exactly goes on?
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (22 April 2010):
 It's not a good idea. In ten or fifteen years time, you might see it as the biggest mistake of your life. But I guess you have to do what you think is right at the time. And it's a question of what you're willing to live with.
That's what I always say. What are you willing to live with?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (31 March 2010):
 mmmm... research and then research again... you have to be 100% comfortable with your body, have few insecurities and your relationship with people have to be good. Adult films are very different from swingers sex, you'll be at work, the guys are not there to please you, although from what I understand they will try hard not to hurt you.
I'd be a hypocrite if I said don't do it, as I watch pornography myself. Yes your right, they do ask you to get yourself tested for sexual diseases, and it's probably safer in this way than swinging. The industry only needs one disease carrier for everyone to get it...
It's not romantic, and it's often not fun, it's a job and there is probably a lot of waiting around. Like most film making, it's borring and you'll find you continuously have to reshoot a sex scene, so it might make you sore.
Frank is right, you will have no control over your image, and they can do anything with the film once you have finnished. Do you feel comfortable with your family, friends and strangers seeing this. They could use this film to advertise in the mainstream media.
I suggest you start of with some amature pornography first, just you and your partner. You can hide your face and you'll feel more comfortable in performing before a camera. The adult sex industry isn't for everyone, but it dose pay a good wage for people who are thick skinned enough to do such things.
Think more, research more, you can't go back or change your mind once they turn the camera on.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (27 March 2010):
I couldnt help noticing that your partner also wants you to do this as it would give you both a good holiday. Isnt that kind of like pimping you? But like another poster said, this video is yours for life you can't ever run away from it. What if your kids one day in the future see it? Or their friends? This is not the type of thing you can keep a secret. Is a 2 week holiday worth a lifetime of possible regret? Remember that herpes is incurable, HPV can cause cervical cancer and neither of these are tested for adequately. I hope you think carefully about your decision. If you do however decide to go for it, just make sure you have thorough follow up tests every 3 months for at least a year so that you can catch any problems early. Also have a PAP smear every 6 months.
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (27 March 2010):
Dear Vicky
I am not sure about your assumption that you enjoy a good relationship? The way you as a couple carry on will cause you to self destruct eventually. By all means earn your holiday, it may be your last?
Ask an expert and they will tell you that the way you conduct your relationship is altrady in trouble?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 Just so you know...once you make such a video, there is no turning back. It will follow you the rest of your life.
Once they shoot it, they own it lock stock and barrel...you have no say who they show it to, where it is seen or distributed to. It could easily end up in the local area you live in, at peep shows, in your local video store, and even free on the internet.
If you already work in the sex industry (like a stripper), then you are already aware of the challenges for acceptance you face. If not, then consider your decision carefully.
Your image can be used in any way shape or form. For example, if they take a photo of you during the filming, they can use that photo of you in other products advertising anything and everything they want...labeling it, and you, with whatever caption they want...you have zero control.
I do not know what your situation is with family, children or the like, but are you sure that you are ready to deal with the potential consequences? Are you ready to have your family deal with those potential consequences?
Even if you are safe and exempt from disease (there is always a higher risk...ask Lara Roxx) you still have to deal with potential social consequences. Even under a fake name, these things have a habit of following you wherever you go, and resurface at the most inopportune times.
-Frank
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 You are risking a lot for little in return.
Again, I whole-heartedly am in support of legalized and regulated businesses, prostitution, all drugs, and all other vice sin businesses as well.
However, until they have the medical technology to do 100% accurate testing on stDISEASES as well as stINFECTIONS within a 24 hour period, it is unsafe.
Also, do they use condoms? If they don't then you can be GUARANTEED to get every disease that guy has had.
If you are fine with that risk go for it.
If you are not, which you reasonably shouldn't be, don't.
You are not guaranteed to be able to have the guy wear a condom anyway, no matter what you say. "rules are rules"
I am telling you, these people are shady, shitty people.
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reader, nlieu279 +, writes (27 March 2010):
 I don't know what to say but if you partner is, well, a good partner, he should not have agreed on it. I don't know but that is just me.
Like lilacfox said, you need to do a throughly research on whom you are going to be involved with. Involving in adult film is serious consideration.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 Sorry to go OT - but you crack me up IHateWomanBeaters with the way you never miss a chance to plug your superior sexual prowess.
ROFL :-)
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reader, vicky83 +, writes (27 March 2010):
vicky83 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have done research on the company and they have been doing it for 18 years, they make hardcore films and I have seen movies they have done,
As of yet I have not signed anything, I have just attended an audition and asked to take an sti test to make sure I am clean,
I don't normally read the 'small print' on things I sign but will do so with this.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (27 March 2010):
Plus, testing is not good enough, as antibodies take up to six months to become detected in tests, including HIV antibodies.
80% of people have HPV when 35 or 40 or so
60% have oral herpes (which is super common)
I've read 20% (double check that) have genital herpes.
These are regular people that do not fuck for a living.
Mind you, I love fucking, and fucking hard.
I am BORED by porn, because when I have sex, I have sex so much harder and better (more orgasms per hour for the woman) than all porn stars i've seen.
So I am not some prude or some anti-porn guy.
They do not have the same standards as you do with your swinger dates, is what I am saying.
trust me
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (27 March 2010):
Don't do it.
AS much as I hate to admit it, porn is not safe disease wise.
I was looking into becoming a male pornstar and am easily hung enough to be one.
However, the non-lethal diseases are not checked for.
The only testing they have to do is a few HIV tests a year.
That is the only security that people have, at least in the USA where the the porn empire exists.
Herpes, Chalmydia, Gonorrhea, ********HPV********, and other life changing, but mainly non-lethal ones exist and are common place in the industry.
I say that whatever they are paying you is not worth the risk.
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reader, lilacfox +, writes (27 March 2010):
 When you say "adult film" what do you mean? Is is Hardcore or soft porn? Have you done research on the makers/producers? Do you understand all the legalities involved when you sign your name on that dotted line?
Have you watched these films online or on TV? What kind of film are you being asked to paticipate in?
Will you be informed about whether or not the guy will wear protection? (They get paid less if they wear protection).
You need to do as much research as you can and get as much info as you can before you sign up to anything. Read every tiny bit of "small print". Ask every question you can think of, however silly or lame it may seem.
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