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Boyfriend's best friend assaulted me
Q. I started to tell the whole, long story. but it turned out to be about 20000 words.. so here is the short version: My boyfriend's best friend forced me to give him head. He was drunk, i was not that drunk. My boyfriend was sleeping on the couch ne...
A. 3 April 2010: Many people are not aware about how it feels to be sexual assaulted or how different people react in situations of danger.
It's easy to say, people should shout, fight back, run away when they are in fear. However not everyone works this way. Al... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's best friend assaulted me
Q. I started to tell the whole, long story. but it turned out to be about 20000 words.. so here is the short version: My boyfriend's best friend forced me to give him head. He was drunk, i was not that drunk. My boyfriend was sleeping on the couch ne...
A. 3 April 2010: Coercion by definition involves force or intimidation....
Intimidation definition from http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/intimidation
Etymology: Medieval Latin intimidatus, past participle of intimidare, from Latin in- + timidus ti... (read in full...)
3 months married, a football widow and I don't know if he loves me!
Q. I need advice... I got married 3 months ago to a guy I thought loved me. I have never been so wrong. It sounds completely stupid, and judging by the other emails on this site I have no reason to be complaining.... But I am the original football ...
A. 3 April 2010: sorry.. relate, is the marriage guidance counsellors
http://www.relate.org.uk/home/index.html... (read in full...)
3 months married, a football widow and I don't know if he loves me!
Q. I need advice... I got married 3 months ago to a guy I thought loved me. I have never been so wrong. It sounds completely stupid, and judging by the other emails on this site I have no reason to be complaining.... But I am the original football ...
A. 3 April 2010: I'm British.. I can totally understand your suffering.. that's why I've always refused to date a man who is in love with football. I find it a terrible addiction, and in mind much worse than pornography. If the guy isn't watching football, then ... (read in full...)
Can I get my son's father out of our lives? He's a jerk!
Q. I went out witht his guy for 5 months, he told me he couldnt have children because of his medication he takes for his epilepsy. Lo and behold I became pregnant, I decided to keep the baby and split with the father N, because to be honest the guy is ...
A. 3 April 2010: You must tell your child who his father is, and why you had to remove him from your life. I beg mothers to try as hard as they can to stay in contact with their child's father unless there are special circumstances.
Sexual, physical or child ab... (read in full...)
I am always suspicious of him, how do I trust him?
Q. I heard a rumor about my boyfriend cheating on me, I immediatley freaked out, smacked him in the chest and screamed at him without giving him a chance to explain, left our house and stayed at my friends for the next 3 days. After I left, he didn'...
A. 3 April 2010: "I am always suspicous of him."
No matter what he says or what he dose, you never trust him and you never believe in him. It dosen't matter if the rumours are a lie, you will always believe the worst because you don't know how to trust.
... (read in full...)
Does this sound like a one night stand?
Q. )OP's own title* I've never had anything like a one night stand before. I usually spend months dating a guy before sex comes into the equation, so I have no idea whether the way this guy was acting suggests it was a one night stand or something more...
A. 3 April 2010: He's invited you down to the seaside, call him up and see if the invitation still stands.... (read in full...)
Went out with my ex and its the same old rollercoaster ride
Q. Hello everyone, Yesterday I had a date with my ex-girlfriend, we date like a year ago, then she broke up and we did not speak for several months. Now she innitiated contact and I aggreed to go out with her. Everything went really wel, she ...
A. 3 April 2010: Since she is anorexic and has self-harmed, I suggest you go carefully. Tell her your not happy and things are not working out. Tell her you don't think you and her are helping one another. Tell her you can't do relationships at the moment because ... (read in full...)
Why does his family treat me so badly?
Q. i have been in this relation ship for seven years and things still havent changed see lets say mike is a great gye untill he is around his family he don't even act the same and he treats me different,for some reason now his family don't like me ...
A. 3 April 2010: The family are trying to shut you out, they don't want him dating anyone unless it's the mother of his children. He can't see or he dosen't care, he dosen't realise how he's been deliberately manipulated into showing rudeness towards you..
Seven... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's best friend assaulted me
Q. I started to tell the whole, long story. but it turned out to be about 20000 words.. so here is the short version: My boyfriend's best friend forced me to give him head. He was drunk, i was not that drunk. My boyfriend was sleeping on the couch ne...
A. 3 April 2010: Coercion is part of sexual abuse... exactly ms anonymous reader you are totally right...
Sorry babes, I can understand why you gave in and didn't fight. You think your boyfriend loves this guy, thinks of him as a brother or something. You didn... (read in full...)
I threatened to ruin my fiance's life during an argument and now he doesn't want to talk to me or see me!
Q. My fiance and I just had a fight recently and I'm quite confused about what I feel now and I don't know what to do. It started with a small argument with me kicking a fuss about some small issue. But then I threatened to tell his colleagues and b...
A. 3 April 2010: Hahaha.. thank you for your update, you've just made my day... I'm happy and excited for you as well.. :)
Now, if you feel the need to apologise, just once will do.. you and him are going out to have fun, be happy and smile a lot and tell him that... (read in full...)
Do you believe my wife's girlfriend claim that her Date sleeps in her bed - but no Sex ?
Q. My wife's girlfriend is in her thirties, and recently divorced. She's found a boyfriend online who has no car and lives with his sister. Yeah, he's poor. Lousy job, no education, no future. So she drives to his sister's house, picks him up, an...
A. 3 April 2010: Since she is 30years old and well over the age of consent, and neither your wife or yourself are her parents, I do not think it's any of your business where her and this guy happen to sleep.
Yes you can care for her, yes you can worry and advise h... (read in full...)
I threatened to ruin my fiance's life during an argument and now he doesn't want to talk to me or see me!
Q. My fiance and I just had a fight recently and I'm quite confused about what I feel now and I don't know what to do. It started with a small argument with me kicking a fuss about some small issue. But then I threatened to tell his colleagues and b...
A. 3 April 2010: Sigh...just saw your update, and now I'm upset that I got angry with you. I guess we both got to change our ways.. :)
I know you miss him, I know you want to see him to apologise and make everything alright again, but it really isn't the right ti... (read in full...)
I feel like I want to run away! Do I have a disorder?
Q. Someone please save me :( Deep down I know something is wrong with me. Mentally. I just can't take it anymore! For so long i've gone bottling EVERYTHING up because I don't want to bore people with my life story or for them to think i'm some c...
A. 3 April 2010: mmmm... hard to tell if your sick or if your normal..
Some of what you are feeling is perfectly normal. You are a teenager and at the moment your body is full of hormones, that make you emotional and cause you to think all kinds of strange ... (read in full...)
Do girls just not search for guys online unless they are really desperate?
Q. Something doesn't make sense to me. I can't figure it out. My friends were joking about signing up for the online dating site plentyoffish. Anyways, I signed up for it with a fake picture and just looked at and read a lot of the profiles of the ...
A. 3 April 2010: (slams door) I'm off to catch some fish........... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband comfortable with the idea of me having sex with other men?
Q. My husband and I have been married for ten years. I think that i have a healthy and realistic view of sex. I have told him that if he ever gets bored with our sex life that he is welcome to sleep with other women. He of course told me that he ...
A. 3 April 2010: Ah, glad you updated your post, I really wanted to answer this one..
You ever heard of grooming, softening somebody up with words and manipulation to make them commit a sexual act. That's what you've been doing to your husband. This is not an e... (read in full...)
Advice on the "Microgynon 30" type pill?
Q. My mum put me on the Microgynon 30 pill a few weeks ago, as told, I took my first one on the first day of my period which was 2weeks3days ago, and I'm still currently on my period, i should be off in a couple of days hopefully but then i have like ...
A. 3 April 2010: *pregnant too young...... (read in full...)
Advice on the "Microgynon 30" type pill?
Q. My mum put me on the Microgynon 30 pill a few weeks ago, as told, I took my first one on the first day of my period which was 2weeks3days ago, and I'm still currently on my period, i should be off in a couple of days hopefully but then i have like ...
A. 3 April 2010: If your having sex, then of course you can cope with this and more, to protect yourself from getting to young and spoiling your young life..
It's been too long for me to remember what it felt like on the pill. The first couple of months do throw... (read in full...)
Went out with my ex and its the same old rollercoaster ride
Q. Hello everyone, Yesterday I had a date with my ex-girlfriend, we date like a year ago, then she broke up and we did not speak for several months. Now she innitiated contact and I aggreed to go out with her. Everything went really wel, she ...
A. 3 April 2010: She's anorexic, she's not well, she has a very funny brain and her thinking is screwy. She feels bad about herself and instead of accepting that something is wrong she starves herself, she blames you for things that she see's in herself.
How m... (read in full...)
Do you believe my wife's girlfriend claim that her Date sleeps in her bed - but no Sex ?
Q. My wife's girlfriend is in her thirties, and recently divorced. She's found a boyfriend online who has no car and lives with his sister. Yeah, he's poor. Lousy job, no education, no future. So she drives to his sister's house, picks him up, an...
A. 3 April 2010: A week or two relationship... yep, perfect natural to sleep in a bed with no sex..
You ever heard of "bundling", ancient tradition, you lie in a bed with all your clothes on and no touching allowed. Allows you to get to know a person, whilst y... (read in full...)
I haven't forgiven my mother for grounding me when I was 12!
Q. I am a 23 year old, married, new mom. My mother contacted my husband after the baby was born and is wanting to get together. Now, he is pressing me to have my mom in our lives. I have not been on speaking terms with my mom for years. When I w...
A. 3 April 2010: She's scared and frightened, much more scared than you. Your her life, her precious baby, she lost you once and she dosen't want to spoil this last chance that she's got to make things up to you.
She talks to Scott, because he loves you and she ... (read in full...)
I haven't forgiven my mother for grounding me when I was 12!
Q. I am a 23 year old, married, new mom. My mother contacted my husband after the baby was born and is wanting to get together. Now, he is pressing me to have my mom in our lives. I have not been on speaking terms with my mom for years. When I w...
A. 3 April 2010: Damn you Q.. you win again.. pm me for your reward and it better be repeatable otherwise I'm gonna kick you in the head.
Good, good, good for you mrs.. now the healing begins and it will make you happy and whole again..
I'll be back after I dea... (read in full...)
My first anal, will it hurt much?
Q. *OP's own title* Hi. I got this fantastic boyfriend and we have been together for a little more than a year. He is very cute and is just perfect. But the problem I have is that we are talking about having sex for the first time. He is two years ...
A. 3 April 2010: Two finger if his dick is small.. lol... (read in full...)
My first anal, will it hurt much?
Q. *OP's own title* Hi. I got this fantastic boyfriend and we have been together for a little more than a year. He is very cute and is just perfect. But the problem I have is that we are talking about having sex for the first time. He is two years ...
A. 3 April 2010: SLOW SLOW AND EASY.. ANAL TAKES A HELL OF A LOT OF TIME..
And we're talking hours not minutes, if you feel uncomfortable then stop, get him to try again with fingers then when you are comfortable, then you start trying again.
You need to b... (read in full...)
My first anal, will it hurt much?
Q. *OP's own title* Hi. I got this fantastic boyfriend and we have been together for a little more than a year. He is very cute and is just perfect. But the problem I have is that we are talking about having sex for the first time. He is two years ...
A. 3 April 2010: Your partner is a man, and your from Sweden, I'm happy to give you advice on anal.
First you must love and trust this man, trust and love is important for helping you to relax.
Second, alcohol or another stimulant will help.. get him to roman... (read in full...)
Should I let him go out with his single male friends?
Q. I am happily married. I'm 17 years old and my husband is 20. We're very in love and supported by both of our families. Things have been great. I love it. We do everything together including cooking meals, and just sitting back watching TV. The ...
A. 3 April 2010: You can't keep a man, a dog, a bird or a child locked up in the house and expect them to be happy. They need space to spread their wings. If they love you, they'll come home and will be happy. Keep them trapped inside and they will hate you and ... (read in full...)
Never too old for heartache and being foolish
Q. at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...
A. 2 April 2010: Now we both got homework, what did Q put up to make us women think.. ... (read in full...)
Never too old for heartache and being foolish
Q. at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...
A. 2 April 2010: ah... sorry, hate the crying stuff not good at that...
mmm... found out the best way is to just cry and suffer the nightmares, after a while they go away..
My friends helped me with the nightmares, told me to stop running in my dreams and to as... (read in full...)
I haven't forgiven my mother for grounding me when I was 12!
Q. I am a 23 year old, married, new mom. My mother contacted my husband after the baby was born and is wanting to get together. Now, he is pressing me to have my mom in our lives. I have not been on speaking terms with my mom for years. When I w...
A. 2 April 2010: mmmm.. a poker call.. I'll play.. you got kings, but I am holding aces, we'll never hear from her again.... (read in full...)
Never too old for heartache and being foolish
Q. at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...
A. 2 April 2010: Burning bra's.. ppff... don't wear one anyway..
Hey, I'm doing this list on my own.. you got any suggestions on how to take up time when your feeling down and crappy...
Baking cakes and bread, making ice-cream.. done, but they weren't eatable ... (read in full...)
Never too old for heartache and being foolish
Q. at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...
A. 2 April 2010: Hey, 66 is the new 40.. before me mum got sick she was picking up younger guys than me...
My 30th birthday, my mum's 60 and I'm having to fight off all them 20year old guys who think a woman in a red dress with grey hair is sexy... grrrrr..... (read in full...)
Is it ok to cheat?
Q. I don't know if anyone else has noticed, but nowadays it seems like it has become completely acceptable (and inevitable) that if you are in a relationship your partner is deffinately going to cheat. You see all these poor humilliated women in the m...
A. 2 April 2010: It never became OK to cheat.. as far as I know Cheryl is looking for a divorce.
Some people cheat all the time, some people only cheat if they are unhappy with their relationship, some people cheat because they are drunk and make a mistake,... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone but I'm in a relationship! What should I do?
Q. Ok well i'm in love with another guy. but i'm in a relationship. my now boyfriend is an alcoholic and tends to treat me lik crap when he's buzz. but the sex is great. the other guy is romantic and sweet don't drink an very very sexy. what should i ...
A. 2 April 2010: Dump the guy who treats you like crap and go with the guy who treats you well.... (read in full...)
I haven't forgiven my mother for grounding me when I was 12!
Q. I am a 23 year old, married, new mom. My mother contacted my husband after the baby was born and is wanting to get together. Now, he is pressing me to have my mom in our lives. I have not been on speaking terms with my mom for years. When I w...
A. 2 April 2010: We are not going there.. we are not going to compare the worst parents in the world, because Q always cheats at competitions...
Many of us have been hurt and betrayed by parents, in ways that you can't even imagine.. but we forgive, and forgive,... (read in full...)
Why is my husband being so nasty?
Q. Hi there Agony Aunts and Uncles. My Agony is my husband who keeps telling me I have 'large saggy breasts' and also that my upper lip and face is looking 'old and haggard'. I am feeling so down and so I decided to get a boob job done. The doctor ...
A. 2 April 2010: Tell the plastic surgeon what is going on in your marriage... He will not do the operation if he thinks you are being forced. He will also be able to refer you to counselling where they can help you regain some of the confidence that your husband ... (read in full...)
Why is my husband being so nasty?
Q. Hi there Agony Aunts and Uncles. My Agony is my husband who keeps telling me I have 'large saggy breasts' and also that my upper lip and face is looking 'old and haggard'. I am feeling so down and so I decided to get a boob job done. The doctor ...
A. 2 April 2010: Has anyone else experienced this and what is the best thing to do??
Never experienced it, but have seen it often.. this is serious Domestic abuse... Abuse is not only punches and kicks, but shouting, criticising and destroying your self-con... (read in full...)
How I Got My Ex Boyfriend Back
Q. Have you been wondering how to get your ex boyfriend back? Regardless of whether he broke your heart or you just wish you never got rid of him, you are not alone. In fact, just a few months ago I was in the same position and now I'm happily reun...
A. 2 April 2010: Totally right girl, that's how to get the man back... (but I admit I also had a little help from some Tarot cards)
However, if you still have problems that broke you apart, then he will not stay if these are not fixed.
... (read in full...)
I haven't forgiven my mother for grounding me when I was 12!
Q. I am a 23 year old, married, new mom. My mother contacted my husband after the baby was born and is wanting to get together. Now, he is pressing me to have my mom in our lives. I have not been on speaking terms with my mom for years. When I w...
A. 2 April 2010: "The grounding was lifted, but all I got from my mom was a "sorry about that", but no real remorse, just sort of this win some, lose some attitude."
WOW!!!! She even said sorry, and still you didn't forgive her... mmmmm.... you lived with you... (read in full...)
I haven't forgiven my mother for grounding me when I was 12!
Q. I am a 23 year old, married, new mom. My mother contacted my husband after the baby was born and is wanting to get together. Now, he is pressing me to have my mom in our lives. I have not been on speaking terms with my mom for years. When I w...
A. 2 April 2010: Wow!! You don't believe in forgiveness do you? Your willing to deprive you child of a grandmother for something that happened to you 11years ago.
mmmmm... my mum called me a whore and slapped me in the face, (I went to the library) my dad accu... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to have a baby and have even saved up the money for it!
Q. helloo please could you help me! i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it. i have told my boyfriend and he agrees with me 100% he wants a baby and he has s...
A. 2 April 2010: About this "hole thing"... I've never had a sister, I would have loved one. Maybe your sister is unhappy too. She has to get all the good grades, the parents keep on bothering her. Maybe sometimes she like to have fun and relax and switch places ... (read in full...)
I just want to know how long before I feel whole again?
Q. I have written here in the past because my husband was going through some very troubled times. I thought I had been living with an alcoholic only to recently find out he has borderline personality disorder which caused his erratic impulsive ...
A. 2 April 2010: Yea!!! Exactly what Trisha just said... I'm not great with comforting words, but that's exactly what you should do...
Embrace life, they are people out there who love you or can understand your pain and they will help and support you.. :)... (read in full...)
6 months later ex deletes our myspace, what does this mean?
Q. Hi, My ex boyfriend and I broke up a around Nov of 09' which was about 6 months ago. A couple weeks after we broke up he had this friend who he vented to about us and they soon after were dating, im guessing it is a rebound after everything i've ...
A. 2 April 2010: My ex tracked me down on facebook... after bloody 4 years of constant contact, he still hasn't decide to get rid of me yet.. if he ever deletes me, then that means, I'm free...
Ex deletes you off my space, that's the end of things as far as they ... (read in full...)
I just want to know how long before I feel whole again?
Q. I have written here in the past because my husband was going through some very troubled times. I thought I had been living with an alcoholic only to recently find out he has borderline personality disorder which caused his erratic impulsive ...
A. 2 April 2010: You loved and had to loose your man many times.. first to alcohol, then to mental illness, and lastly to death...
Life is too short, grab happiness when you can. Your husband loved you, but he was trapped by his illness and his own daemons ... (read in full...)
Do girls just not search for guys online unless they are really desperate?
Q. Something doesn't make sense to me. I can't figure it out. My friends were joking about signing up for the online dating site plentyoffish. Anyways, I signed up for it with a fake picture and just looked at and read a lot of the profiles of the ...
A. 2 April 2010: mmmm.. stuff, you wanted help..
Gok Wan (how to look good naked) that chinese tv guy, swears by just asking out as many women as you can. Dosen't matter if they reject you or not, after the first 30 your feeling of shyness will go. Then aft... (read in full...)
Do girls just not search for guys online unless they are really desperate?
Q. Something doesn't make sense to me. I can't figure it out. My friends were joking about signing up for the online dating site plentyoffish. Anyways, I signed up for it with a fake picture and just looked at and read a lot of the profiles of the ...
A. 2 April 2010: I'm looking for a Johnny Depp with IT skills. Thanks.
Hands off Askoldersis, I bite hard and protect my interests... grrrrrrr
Don't think much of them date sites, specially not that fish one.. I did try, wanted to see what it was about.. got ... (read in full...)
Never too old for heartache and being foolish
Q. at age 66 I find myself alone again after a 4 1/2 yr relationship. Altho I ended it, it was because he treated me poorly. He was selfish, selfcentered and emotionally unavailable..and yet I stayed hoping if I loved him enough he would be more ...
A. 2 April 2010: Sigh.. like the rest of us honeypie.. you put on a brave face, dress your best for work, put on some make up, and paint a bright smile on your face... Then you fake it untill you make it.. You force yourself to be happy in public, show him that your ... (read in full...)
I threatened to ruin my fiance's life during an argument and now he doesn't want to talk to me or see me!
Q. My fiance and I just had a fight recently and I'm quite confused about what I feel now and I don't know what to do. It started with a small argument with me kicking a fuss about some small issue. But then I threatened to tell his colleagues and b...
A. 2 April 2010: Over a small argument, you threaten to ruin this man's life by getting him sacked, leaving him in a position with no money and probably no references....
WOW!!!!!!!! What happens when it's a big argument and you get really, really angry?
... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to have a baby and have even saved up the money for it!
Q. helloo please could you help me! i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it. i have told my boyfriend and he agrees with me 100% he wants a baby and he has s...
A. 2 April 2010: "i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it."
If they are sick tired of you talking about babies now, when you don't have one, they definitely won't stick around t... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want to have a baby and have even saved up the money for it!
Q. helloo please could you help me! i realy want a baby and i'm 13 but i will be 14 if i have a baby all my mates are sick and tired of me going on about it. i have told my boyfriend and he agrees with me 100% he wants a baby and he has s...
A. 2 April 2010: 1. How old is your boyfriend
2. How much money do you have saved
3. How do you intend to finish school
4. Where are you and your baby going to live
5. Are you and your boyfriend already having unprotected sex
6. What can you offer a baby, what s... (read in full...)
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