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writes:Something doesn't make sense to me. I can't figure it out. My friends were joking about signing up for the online dating site plentyoffish. Anyways, I signed up for it with a fake picture and just looked at and read a lot of the profiles of the girls in my area.I don't want to sound shallow or anything, but like 70% of the girls are overweight or look kind of crazy. There are a few out of tons that I looked at that I thought I would actually like to meet and could actually date. A few regular girls out of hundreds.The thing that bugs me is I can't figure out why it's like this. I then signed up as a girl. Looking at the available guys in my area I was astonished. I'm not gay, but like 60% of the guys were of Brad Pitt standard. There were surfer guys, bankers, army guys, bodybuilders, emo guys, basically anything you could ever be looking for if you were a girl.Why is it that when looking for people on the internet, there are tons of guys but no girls? I remember looking on gumtree at the personals. The girl ads had 100+ views on them and the guy ads had usually under 10 views. Do girls just not search for people online unless they are really desperate?If I was a girl, I would take advantage of the fact that there are so many potential dates out there.I guess as a guy the only real way to meet girls is to be social and get out. I'm not a social person at all. People I know say I'm an introvert. What is the best way to meet girls and friends? Where can I find nice girls? I don't want to meet girls in a club.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): Maybe the guys used fake pictures too like you! Girls like guys coming to them oeven online
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): like me, I put my pic on dating website and met a guy from the dating website and we are still together for 7 monhts but maybe it was my luckiness to find a good guy cause he respected me about some personal issues
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): hi friends, this is the anonymous poster. I wanted to clarify, I am not responding to the 20 somethings as what could they possibly want except sex. I am looking for a lifelong partner. I did respont to several and already went on two dates with one guy. Because of the short amount of time I have not communicated with to many others as I kinda liked the guy I went out with. I added in my story because I was shocked how many emails I got. Many, many more than eharmony. My intital gut feeling was there are many more men on POF. However, I am feel I am a kind , attractive , honest and caring women. So if I am on there looking it is worth it for guys to get on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): I recently signed up on POF . I am 47 year ols female. I literally received 200 emails in a week. I was shocked and did not know where to begin. Alot of young guys emailed from as young as 20. I know what they are loooking for so have not responded. I am actually really excited about it as there has to be one catch out there.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (3 April 2010):
 (slams door) I'm off to catch some fish........
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlright you say the guys are all pervs and stuff on these sites. I'm looking at the 30+ messages that I got in one day as a girl on plentyofish. None of the messages are pervy. 10 of them are guys trying to be clever or interesting. They sent me jokes and stuff. This guy said, "What's the difference between chopped beef and pea soup?
Everyone can chop beef, but not everyone can pea soup!"
Another guy said he's on team GB for judo, and would like to get to know me more on facebook and stuff. Most of them are compliments and legitimate people wanting to know me more. They just say things like how are you? Would you like to talk? What are you doing for Easter? Or they are compliments like I like your profile.
As a guy, I got no views or messages after 2 weeks with a photo of a good looking guy from google. These 30 messages as a girl I got within 2 hours. WTF is wrong with women??? I mean I realize you have it tough with childbirth, periods, and other stuff, but holy shit do you have it easy when it comes to dating. I never realized it was like this for girls. The picture I posted was of an average looking girl from the site too. If things were like this as a guy, if I was getting swamped with messages from women wanting to know me all the time, I would be in heaven.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (2 April 2010):
mmmm.. stuff, you wanted help..
Gok Wan (how to look good naked) that chinese tv guy, swears by just asking out as many women as you can. Dosen't matter if they reject you or not, after the first 30 your feeling of shyness will go. Then after 80, you won't care about rejection, because you won't remember who is who. Good tip for getting courage in the dating game... Aim to approach 100 women this month and ask all of them out for a coffee...
Gok Wan swears this works........ he's got to be right, he's had ton's of married women over 50 stripping off and going nude on television, and they all look happier afterwards.. :)
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reader, Miamine +, writes (2 April 2010):
I'm looking for a Johnny Depp with IT skills. Thanks.
Hands off Askoldersis, I bite hard and protect my interests... grrrrrrr
Don't think much of them date sites, specially not that fish one.. I did try, wanted to see what it was about.. got one nice guy talking to me (he was intresting, just talking interesting stuff) and some guy who wanted quick sex before his wife came home...
PPpfff.. waste of time personally.. I didn't even put me picture up, so whatever they was interested in, it sure wasn't me.
mmm.. when you find out how to do this dating thing, come back and tell us 40 something's who haven't got a bloody clue... (was so much more easier in the old days.. sigh)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 April 2010):
Chances are the men on the site are lying. Chances are he women on the site are low in confidence. It's not desperate, it's just that it's more convenient nowadays, and a lot of low self esteem leads to internet sites such as this. You're far better off meeting woman in person elsewhere.
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reader, Sweet_lia  +, writes (2 April 2010):
No it's not because they are desperate, a lot of the time it is for the convenience. There maybe less females than men on the sites but for all the men on these sites most just want to stare at pictures and want cyber sex. A huge majority just want to "have no strings attached fun" or aren't looking for a relationship. Most men will say things hiding behind a computer than you would ever imagine being told in a public place (less chance of being slapped or have a drink thrown in their face.We aren't all desperate or crazy, and as you pointed out men read more into a photo than whats actually there and what they are hoping you to be (crazy, desperate, sex goddess, kinky,fun,etc)- show me a legitimate relationship site, that has no predators and you will find a lot more women than you will men.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 If you're a man, dating sites are 100% useless. I've tried several, even eHarmony, and every one is a waste of time and money, like you said. 10 women and 200 men. The only chance is to go out and try to meet people at parties, friends of friends, coworkers, people at church, etc. It's rough, but men simply aren't in the same demand as women.
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