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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks all, some helpfull tips there. Pigeons may be a way forward, but its probaly not a good idea as might get confused and end up in London.lol
Think maybe the idea that if she wanted to get in touch knows where i am, and as weve been split for over a year
then will definetley have moved on. Same old story of taking someone for granted and then waking up to late to be able to do anything about it.wont be the first or last person that has this experience. And become a wiser person through it.
You live you learn. The Break up profit Alanis wins again.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Telephone or facebook is best... keep it light and simple and make sure it's only friendship your looking for otherwise forget it.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (2 April 2010):
 If shes a woman , and she hasnt been in touch...I would say 100% she WON'T want to hear from you again. Whatever your brain is telling you and whatever your motives...don't do it...it's a mess she won't want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): I can't tell you the best way to do it, but I wondered the exact same thing last year (broke up Jan 26th; contacted them August 19th) and just sent them an e-mail. Everything went fine.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (2 April 2010):
I got my pigeons on overstock.com
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Add him/her on Facebook.
Keep one thing in mind...
I'm not sure if you just miss this person as a friend, or if you regret breaking it off and want to be in a relationship? In six months, this person may have healed or may not have healed from the trauma of breaking up. I'm not saying you shouldn't contact your ex, I'm just saying this might be a sore point with them... be really tactful when you send them a message.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 My advice is dont
Instead meet someone new
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (2 April 2010):
Carrier pigeon.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Send a text to her if you still have her phone number or find out where she usually hangs around and 'accidentally' meet her.
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reader, YourDestiny11 +, writes (2 April 2010):
 The best way is to not do it all. You must have broke up for a reason. If she wanted to talk to you she wouldve gotten a hold of you. leave her alone and let her move on and you do the same.
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reader, Agony Auntie Smiles +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Work out a way to meet him "accidentally on purpose". That advice comes from Wilma Proops.
If you want to contact him with a view to rekindling your relationship, you know what you should do. If you want to contact him to show him you're doing much better without him, you should also know what is required. If you want to contact him with a view to telling him just what an idiot you now realise he is, make sure you are not alone and rehearse what you are going to say.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 April 2010):
I'd suggest a letter first, explaining why you're looking for contact again. Don't be too formal of course, but don't be too personal either. If you're looking for contact again, then you need to ease your way back in, not go in heavy handed or too formally that there is emotion. Write a letter saying why you're back in contact and how you feel, leaving your number at the bottom to allow her to get back into contact if she wishes. If nothing comes of it, then you will need to accept that she has decided to move on.
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