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Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 24 March 2010: One last question.. Do you love this man? Did you love him when you married him, do you love him now? Do you even like this man at all?... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 24 March 2010: "Pack your things and leave that freak as fast you can. Over look Miamine comment, your to special to be treated like a dog. If he doesn't treat you like you know you should be treated then hit the road and don't look back" Sooner
This is why I... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 24 March 2010: Yes he has the ability to change, but not for a woman who is already on her way out the door and has no problem with divorcing him after just a couple of months of marriage.
Pornography in a Christian relationship is not right. Ask him to talk ... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 23 March 2010: "I dunno, I probably shouldn't have even posted anything online, I should just deal with this stuff like a big girl, but it just makes me feel so small and helpless."
Please don't talk like this when you talk to him. He has every right to disag... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 23 March 2010: "but this porn thing is killing me and he won't even talk about it"
I bet you feel attacked from all sides. Pornography is something you dislike, and you don't think it's fair that your expected to tolerate such stuff. But you don't have to.... (read in full...)
Sexually addicted??
Q. Dear Cupid: My fiance has cut back on viewing porn (well, as far as I know). Now every night, all he wants is me to tell him of my past sexual experiences. He says he'd rather jack off to that instead of viewing porn. Does this sound like somebody...
A. 14 March 2010: "Why he saves them, I dont know. He just does."
Why do you buy books, CD's or video's? Why not just go to the cinema and see the film just once, why do we go and buy it and watch it at home?
When we like something, we go and get our own copy... (read in full...)
I want to see a virginal vagina!
Q. Of all the porn that is there on the net, and in hard copy, i have seldom come across a photograph of a real virgin girl with her hymen intact. I am a male and from a conservative society, and am going to marry soon. The marriage is an arranged ...
A. 13 March 2010: Many women are born with no hymen, many women loose their hymen just by walking, jumping, swimming or doing other normal things. Then again, many women are not virgins, but go to the doctors and have their hymen replaced. Your culture likes ... (read in full...)
The pros and cons of having a smear test.
Q. It has been suggested that now i am of age (doh) I should go for a smear test however i have my concerns regarding being violated by metal objects and clamped open - sounds ouch and very invasive. However much someone says you should get it done it ...
A. 13 March 2010: This is a no brainer. The examination is quick and painless, takes less than a minute to do. Many women do die of cervical cancer, something that can be treated effectively if it is caught early. The test only has to be done once every couple of ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forced me to swallow.... what to do?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much; however, he did something very mean last night. He knows I do not swallow, I HATE it! Makes me want to gag, not really the taste, but the feel alone. Anyhow, I let him do other stuff to me, facials, pearl n...
A. 13 March 2010: Ok, thanks for updating your post. You've consented to these sex acts and you are willing to forget and forgive. Please be very careful, be sure that he treats you respectful, it is not good if you always give in, do everything for him and get ... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 13 March 2010: Ok, I'll take on everybody's criticisms of me. I owe you a big apology. I did not read your post properly, and missed where you say you have suffered emotional and verbal abuse and are now very depressed.
What I actually read was a woman wh... (read in full...)
Are there any men who don't only want sex?
Q. Are there any men that don't only want sex? My boyfriend told me that every guy on the campus(at our college) is driven mainly by sex. Honestly, it's a little disgusting to me...And I guess I'm just losing a little bit of faith in "good" guys if ...
A. 13 March 2010: oh, and of course, sex and kissing as well just makes everything perfect for them.... (read in full...)
Are there any men who don't only want sex?
Q. Are there any men that don't only want sex? My boyfriend told me that every guy on the campus(at our college) is driven mainly by sex. Honestly, it's a little disgusting to me...And I guess I'm just losing a little bit of faith in "good" guys if ...
A. 13 March 2010: A few stupid idiots only want sex, but tons of guys want a girl they can have fun with, have a laugh with, who will treat them nice, make them feel like a king and will make them proud that they are alive and in a relationship.
Like everyone... (read in full...)
Insecure and wondering if he will get over his first love?
Q. First off, I never really realized it until now, but I am extremely insecure in relationships. I am not clingy or anything, or naggy, I just expect to be cheated on (maybe not physically, but emotionally...like he'll like someone more than me and be ...
A. 13 March 2010: "I just expect to be cheated on (maybe not physically, but emotionally...like he'll like someone more than me and be closer with them, but use me for whatever he can get) and I don't trust my partner as much as I should."
Forgive me for asking, ... (read in full...)
Insecure and wondering if he will get over his first love?
Q. First off, I never really realized it until now, but I am extremely insecure in relationships. I am not clingy or anything, or naggy, I just expect to be cheated on (maybe not physically, but emotionally...like he'll like someone more than me and be ...
A. 13 March 2010: Ok, there's a lot going on here. Sorry you had to wait so long for an answer, but there are no quick solutions to give you what you want.
First you are very young, many young people feel like you do. You are unsure about your place in the worl... (read in full...)
How can I avoid a confrontation with my in laws? I'm near the end of my patience!
Q. Hi All Aunts and Uncles, I have been with my B/F for 7 years; we bought a house together 5 years ago and have a 2 year old daughter (MOO). My problem is his family, apart from one sister who is cool. The other sister and his mother just do m...
A. 12 March 2010: "Oh and the B/F doesn't know why I let them effect me so much.... thinks they are unaware idiots!Or thick as shite."
Ah, well done mama, you found yourself a clever guy, that means moo will be alright and do well at school. Sometimes a sensible... (read in full...)
How can I avoid a confrontation with my in laws? I'm near the end of my patience!
Q. Hi All Aunts and Uncles, I have been with my B/F for 7 years; we bought a house together 5 years ago and have a 2 year old daughter (MOO). My problem is his family, apart from one sister who is cool. The other sister and his mother just do m...
A. 12 March 2010: Poor mama and poor moo... big hugs lady.
Sorry you waited so long for an answer, but your question is a hard one to solve. I go by the "let old folks do whatever they want, and say whatever they think, then ignore them". In laws criticiz... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 12 March 2010: Long distance relationship!!!!! Ah, cut that out, you have many things you need in a man, and you won't find out his faults this way. Make sure you know the next man and see him everyday, make sure you know his friends and family so you can make ... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 12 March 2010: Your husband was wrong to lie about his character, you and your husband are mismatched and you will never be happy and accept him as he is.
The things he dose are what many millions of men do. He smokes, he drinks, he watches a bit of pornogra... (read in full...)
My husband's behaviour towards me infront of my son is really distressing me, what can I do?
Q. Hi I really need some help regarding my husband's behviour towards me in front of our son. It is really distressing me and upsetting me and I don't know whether to stay or leave or what on earth to do. Sometimes he makes me feel as though I am mad ...
A. 12 March 2010: Here.. I found you some links, I want you to read them and understand exactly what is going on in your relationship.
Emotional Abuse: http://eqi.org/eabuse1.htm
Symptoms: http://www.l... (read in full...)
My husband's behaviour towards me infront of my son is really distressing me, what can I do?
Q. Hi I really need some help regarding my husband's behviour towards me in front of our son. It is really distressing me and upsetting me and I don't know whether to stay or leave or what on earth to do. Sometimes he makes me feel as though I am mad ...
A. 12 March 2010: Your husband has very low self esteem, he dosen't think much of himself. He's terrified you will find out one day that he's not much of a man or a human being, he actually hates himself. The way he deals with this is to keep putting you down. As ... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 12 March 2010: Wonderful story Asian Tealeaf, again, another compromise instead of fighting over the issue of pornography. This time commercial stuff goes in the bin and you make your own instead.. I call that win-win.... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my husband looking at bondage and transexual pornography?
Q. I have been married for only two years monday. My husband and I have a 7 month old son. A few days ago I got on my computer and was really bored so I just started checking the history on the internet. I found pornography websites that contained ...
A. 12 March 2010: Since neither me or you are doctors and sexual addiction to pornography is not a recognised medical condition according to The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM)published by the American Psychiatric Association, I can't ... (read in full...)
Can a girl's physical imperfections drive guys away?
Q. This is something that bothers me a lot and makes me self-conscious. The thing is, I have an uneven nose. It's different on both sides (one side being better than the other), and from the front you can see that it's asymmetrical; one side of the ...
A. 12 March 2010: Guy's don't notice these things. They are too busy worrying about themselves. They think "she's pretty, or she's got great tits, or she's got a nice smile", then they worry if you'll let them touch you, and they worry if you'll like it when they ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my husband looking at bondage and transexual pornography?
Q. I have been married for only two years monday. My husband and I have a 7 month old son. A few days ago I got on my computer and was really bored so I just started checking the history on the internet. I found pornography websites that contained ...
A. 12 March 2010: I'm very glad for you. Sorry I started ranting about stuff on your post, that was rude. Please try to keep your home a happy one, sometimes compromise and understanding work best. I know these things can shock and upset, but never believe your ... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 12 March 2010: Can't add anything more to PM's wonderful way of approaching this. Can you update your post in light of the questions that have been asked of you.... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my husband looking at bondage and transexual pornography?
Q. I have been married for only two years monday. My husband and I have a 7 month old son. A few days ago I got on my computer and was really bored so I just started checking the history on the internet. I found pornography websites that contained ...
A. 12 March 2010: Oh dear... got me started on me favourite subject..
Transsexual's of course are new, the technology didn't exist before to cause men to grow breast and become feminised. However, all throughout history there has been "lady boys", very popular ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my husband looking at bondage and transexual pornography?
Q. I have been married for only two years monday. My husband and I have a 7 month old son. A few days ago I got on my computer and was really bored so I just started checking the history on the internet. I found pornography websites that contained ...
A. 12 March 2010: Sorry, bans only started happening during the 19th century, with the cult of manners and sensibility and the rise of the Victorian societies.... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my husband looking at bondage and transexual pornography?
Q. I have been married for only two years monday. My husband and I have a 7 month old son. A few days ago I got on my computer and was really bored so I just started checking the history on the internet. I found pornography websites that contained ...
A. 12 March 2010: Prostitution is the oldest industry, the first pornography existed well before we even learnt to write or make laws. All societies of all times in all places have always have porn. Dosen't matter how much you try to ban it, dosen't even matter if ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my husband looking at bondage and transexual pornography?
Q. I have been married for only two years monday. My husband and I have a 7 month old son. A few days ago I got on my computer and was really bored so I just started checking the history on the internet. I found pornography websites that contained ...
A. 12 March 2010: Rhythmandblues let me assure you, I need no links to the research on porn addiction. I am very aware of all the studies, and also the fact that it is not currently accepted as a real condition by the American society of psychology, it is not in the ... (read in full...)
He's too lazy to get up and feed our son!!!
Q. hey i need some advice, my fiance wont get outta bed to feed our 2 month old son! we both do a night feed each as i do all the child care, he only does one feed in 24 hours and thats one of the night feed. since iv had my son iv had to do nearly ...
A. 12 March 2010: Ahahahaha!!!!!! If you can't cope with looking after your son, with a man working and financially providing for you. Throwing him out and being a single mother is the very worse thing you can do.... You can't cope already, you and your son will ... (read in full...)
He's too lazy to get up and feed our son!!!
Q. hey i need some advice, my fiance wont get outta bed to feed our 2 month old son! we both do a night feed each as i do all the child care, he only does one feed in 24 hours and thats one of the night feed. since iv had my son iv had to do nearly ...
A. 12 March 2010: Cold ice works well, or cold water.. always wakes people up. You could also set an alarm clock that can wake him up.
Your actually very lucky, most women do all the childcare, housekeeping and feeding of their child themselves. Many women br... (read in full...)
He's too lazy to get up and feed our son!!!
Q. hey i need some advice, my fiance wont get outta bed to feed our 2 month old son! we both do a night feed each as i do all the child care, he only does one feed in 24 hours and thats one of the night feed. since iv had my son iv had to do nearly ...
A. 12 March 2010: 10 hours only....pppfff... lightweight's... (read in full...)
When is close, TOO CLOSE?
Q. I'm coming here, because I have no where else to turn and I'm in serious need of advice. I found this site and am hoping I can get some insight here. I am married, have been for over 10 years. My husband and I got married under less than perfect ...
A. 12 March 2010: It dosen't matter if he has romantic feelings, he is not free to act upon them. Your situation is difficult, because neither you or your husband are in love your open to have a romantic relationship. I think it is best to pull away even if he just ... (read in full...)
Sexually addicted??
Q. Dear Cupid: My fiance has cut back on viewing porn (well, as far as I know). Now every night, all he wants is me to tell him of my past sexual experiences. He says he'd rather jack off to that instead of viewing porn. Does this sound like somebody...
A. 12 March 2010: Many men think about sex a lot. Wanting to masturbate once a day is not unusual. He requires some stimulation, you forbid him pornography, so it's fair that you should tell him stories.
Now your fed up with that. But what should the man do? ... (read in full...)
We met while clubbing, but he won't let me club anymore!
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend who wants to go clubbing and drink. We have been together for 2 years, we met at a club and for the first 6 months always went clubbing together and we went to every music festival ...
A. 12 March 2010: Hip hop dancing as a contact sport.. hahahahaha... this is a new idea to me.... (read in full...)
We met while clubbing, but he won't let me club anymore!
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend who wants to go clubbing and drink. We have been together for 2 years, we met at a club and for the first 6 months always went clubbing together and we went to every music festival ...
A. 12 March 2010: mmmmm... my culture is different.. clubbing, parties, music are all important. People expect to be able to go out and have fun, either together as a couple or in a group of friends. The idea that going out to dance is only an excuse to pick up a ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my husband looking at bondage and transexual pornography?
Q. I have been married for only two years monday. My husband and I have a 7 month old son. A few days ago I got on my computer and was really bored so I just started checking the history on the internet. I found pornography websites that contained ...
A. 12 March 2010: Sigh... many men are interested in transsexual porn and many men are interested in bondage. Women are also interested in these things, so dose that men that these women want a penis too.
Sexual desire is a very strange thing. No matter how much... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong here or is this due to his insecurities?
Q. My boyfriend is very insecure.. we are fighting at the moment because i went to my brothers place for dinner and he said to me "you were probably out with some guy having a quicky" i thought this was disrespectful and said to him i dont want to a...
A. 12 March 2010: Babes I'm shocked, you always seem like such a strong person with a sensible head. You know that this guy is just winding you up and dumping his crap on you. Sorry he's sick, but nothing you can do will make things better. He's blaming you for ... (read in full...)
Young Male With Huge Sex Addiction Problem, Please Help It's Ruining My Life!
Q. Hi Everyone, ok well i need some help here i am an 18 year old male, and i have an extremely high sex drive, possible sex addiction problem, i just cannot get enough! most of the time i use pornography to satisfy the urges but it's still not e...
A. 12 March 2010: Me again...
Your thoughts do not control you, you must learn how to control your thoughts. This is very hard. You must not be frightened about the way you think, but they are just thoughts, they come and they go, you don't have to do anything... (read in full...)
Young Male With Huge Sex Addiction Problem, Please Help It's Ruining My Life!
Q. Hi Everyone, ok well i need some help here i am an 18 year old male, and i have an extremely high sex drive, possible sex addiction problem, i just cannot get enough! most of the time i use pornography to satisfy the urges but it's still not e...
A. 12 March 2010: Ok.. thank you very much... The fact that you have asperger syndrome dose mean that you may get obsessive over many things. That is why we want you to take up sports, go to the gymn and do other things. At the moment, you have no job, you are ... (read in full...)
He is letting his mother control his life, and I don't know what to do. can anyone offer any advice?
Q. My bf and I have issues going on. we are together for 3 yrs now. the problem i have with him is he cannot sleep by me at all. He owns a Vehicle so his excuse is he has to take his brother (age 17) to school. but when school give holidays he don't ...
A. 12 March 2010: Sounds like a strict Christian mama, she's trying to get rid of you. She wants to keep her sons at home, she don't want no "dirty woman" doing him in. She'll kick and fight to her grave to stop you from having him. She needs her boys and other ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forced me to swallow.... what to do?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much; however, he did something very mean last night. He knows I do not swallow, I HATE it! Makes me want to gag, not really the taste, but the feel alone. Anyhow, I let him do other stuff to me, facials, pearl n...
A. 12 March 2010: Yes, I would also like to know, why do you do all these sex things. Are they to please you or are they to please him. There is nothing wrong in anything your doing, as long as you enjoy them and there is room for you to make some suggestions to.
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forced me to swallow.... what to do?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much; however, he did something very mean last night. He knows I do not swallow, I HATE it! Makes me want to gag, not really the taste, but the feel alone. Anyhow, I let him do other stuff to me, facials, pearl n...
A. 12 March 2010: Personally, since you are very adventurous in bed and agree to all sort of sex practices, I think your boyfriend was more than unfair, I think he's abusive.
You give him more than enough, and he forces you to do something you hate. That is a big... (read in full...)
Young Male With Huge Sex Addiction Problem, Please Help It's Ruining My Life!
Q. Hi Everyone, ok well i need some help here i am an 18 year old male, and i have an extremely high sex drive, possible sex addiction problem, i just cannot get enough! most of the time i use pornography to satisfy the urges but it's still not e...
A. 12 March 2010: PS: The times when your not with your partner or not having sex, extra masturbation is necessary to stop you cheating or using prostitutes or doing something stupid to get the relief you need.... (read in full...)
Young Male With Huge Sex Addiction Problem, Please Help It's Ruining My Life!
Q. Hi Everyone, ok well i need some help here i am an 18 year old male, and i have an extremely high sex drive, possible sex addiction problem, i just cannot get enough! most of the time i use pornography to satisfy the urges but it's still not e...
A. 12 March 2010: Ok, first, I see that you are aged 18-21years old. What your feeling is very normal for your age. Men of this age usually have a very high sex drive and find that it rules their life. Please don't feel ashamed by something that is biologically ... (read in full...)
Did I scare him? A long story very short.
Q. I met a man a few weeks ago and we really hit it off. It started with him having a crush on me, when I was into someone else, but after bumping into him one night and him giving me his phone number I began to like him too. He was really attentive, ...
A. 12 March 2010: mmmm.. hard to say honeypie, could be a hundred and one reasons why he didn't contact you. Maybe he has a girlfriend, maybe he is out of town, maybe he lost your number. You like him, and you told him, that was the action of a brave and confident ... (read in full...)
His no sex attitude is tearing me apart...
Q. I'm living with my boyfreind and I'm not happy. I love him and I'm trying to deal with the no sex thing he thinks a relationship is better as a companion. Don't get me wrong, we do it every day, like 3 months and I'm not happy with that at all. I ...
A. 11 March 2010: Confused, you say you have sex everyday for 3 months, and then what happens? What is this no sex thing?... (read in full...)
We met while clubbing, but he won't let me club anymore!
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he doesn't want a girlfriend who wants to go clubbing and drink. We have been together for 2 years, we met at a club and for the first 6 months always went clubbing together and we went to every music festival ...
A. 10 March 2010: "hip hop dancing is for sluts" ..... wow, he is a judgemental kind of guy.
Your only 20, much too young to settle down at home with hot chocolate and the TV. You will feel locked up and claustrophobic living like this, you will loose all your fri... (read in full...)
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