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Guys watch porn. Do women?
Q. It seems that one of the most discussed topics on DC is porn and situations related to the watching of and enjoyment of porn by one person in a relationship, and that being resented by the other. To wit: a guy watches porn, as guys are known t...
A. 25 March 2010: Wait a second, be careful, I'm not interested in lesbian porn and if my guy put one on, I'd think he'd be trying to get me to do a threesome... I wouldn't be very pleased, what about me, where's me penis to look at..
Sigh, I think you better a... (read in full...)
Threesome with husband & best friend gone wrong... I think??
Q. Hello, My husband and I had a threesome with my best friend the other evening. I wasn't exactly into it and I told him but he kept insisting and finally when we were all watching tv he made the move. I wasn't exactly expecting him too but I thought ...
A. 25 March 2010: Didn't see your follow up.. Next time you must use your voice, if your not comfortable with something then tell him, he's not a mind reader.
I know it's hard, but you must now put all this in the past. Things weren't clear, you didn't speak up... (read in full...)
Threesome with husband & best friend gone wrong... I think??
Q. Hello, My husband and I had a threesome with my best friend the other evening. I wasn't exactly into it and I told him but he kept insisting and finally when we were all watching tv he made the move. I wasn't exactly expecting him too but I thought ...
A. 24 March 2010: "I want to see him happy no matter what"
Sometimes you need to say NO!!! A marriage should be a partnership between equals, it should not be a slave who is frightened her master may leave. Giving your husband everything will not make him stay... (read in full...)
My elderly neighbour had a go at me for dressing too revealing!
Q. my question is regarding wearing saree, i am a housewife. i wear sarees only, recently was hurt when my neighbour, an old lady rebuked me for wearing a saree sexily, whe said that i should not expose hips n navel when i wear saree. i have got used ...
A. 24 March 2010: mmmm... I am not Hindu, but many Hindu girls in England wear sari's that are sexy and look very pretty. Times have changed, we modern people like to look beautiful. Things are changing in India, in Britain and all over the world. Your sari is ... (read in full...)
If the first topic on the first date is polygamy, what would you think?
Q. hello, I have a question, if a man asks you out on date and the first topic he talks about is polygamy. what would you think!...
A. 24 March 2010: ah.. sorry missed your update.. He's an interesting man. His parents divorced he was unhappy, in polygamous marriages there is always someone to turn to as divorce dosen't break the family down. He just wanted to talk about how to create a ... (read in full...)
If the first topic on the first date is polygamy, what would you think?
Q. hello, I have a question, if a man asks you out on date and the first topic he talks about is polygamy. what would you think!...
A. 24 March 2010: I'd think he was an intelligent guy who has some bold ideas. I'd wanna see him again to see if he has other interesting things to say. If however he want's a polygamy thing or an open relationship or anything like that, afraid I'd have to say no, ... (read in full...)
He wants it all the time but it hurts!
Q. Advise please...... Know this guy for 3 years as distant friends, hes sweet funny and a workaholic, stood up twice by him in past due to work then after some convos on msn we met up with a bunch of his mates for a night out (was soo good) his fr...
A. 24 March 2010: Oh dear, problem isn't solved.. man is more gentle, and he's happy playing loving partner and father figure..
But how do we get him to stop wanting sex all the time... lol.. putting on me thinking cap right now.. :)... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 24 March 2010: One last question.. Do you love this man? Did you love him when you married him, do you love him now? Do you even like this man at all?... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 24 March 2010: "Pack your things and leave that freak as fast you can. Over look Miamine comment, your to special to be treated like a dog. If he doesn't treat you like you know you should be treated then hit the road and don't look back" Sooner
This is why I... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 24 March 2010: Yes he has the ability to change, but not for a woman who is already on her way out the door and has no problem with divorcing him after just a couple of months of marriage.
Pornography in a Christian relationship is not right. Ask him to talk ... (read in full...)
She wants to be called a 'little girl', and she wants me to pick out my 'pet name'. Help!
Q. my girlfriend has me call her little girl during sex. and she wants to call me something but wants me to think of it but i really have no clue so my question is what should i call her multiple suggestions would be helpful. please and thank you...
A. 23 March 2010: lol.. daddy works...
Studmuffin, big old bear, master, teacher, sir... (read in full...)
I told him I wanted a divorce because of his porn use, and he refused. What can I do?
Q. I need some advice on my marriage. This month i will be married for 4years, we have 2 children 2 1/2 and 10 years. I have caught my husband plenty of times where he will sit and watch porn on the internet and also masturbate to it and every now and ...
A. 23 March 2010: Didn't see your update.. thank you for at least trying to stay and work on your marriage.
No one can force a man to give up pornography, but there are ways to help him to cut down as he finds more exciting things in life to do. Here are some sug... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 23 March 2010: "I dunno, I probably shouldn't have even posted anything online, I should just deal with this stuff like a big girl, but it just makes me feel so small and helpless."
Please don't talk like this when you talk to him. He has every right to disag... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 23 March 2010: "but this porn thing is killing me and he won't even talk about it"
I bet you feel attacked from all sides. Pornography is something you dislike, and you don't think it's fair that your expected to tolerate such stuff. But you don't have to.... (read in full...)
Guys watch porn. Do women?
Q. It seems that one of the most discussed topics on DC is porn and situations related to the watching of and enjoyment of porn by one person in a relationship, and that being resented by the other. To wit: a guy watches porn, as guys are known t...
A. 23 March 2010: Yep, watch porn alone and with a partner... but to tell the truth most of the stuff is boring and I much prefer a sexy book or romance instead to turn me on.... (read in full...)
If the messages in the Bible can only be revealed to the reader by the Holy Spirit residing in you, then why are there so many denominations?
Q. I know this isn't a relationship question... well not a romantic relationship question. But this has been bugging and confusing me for a long time. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this. I thought of myself as a Christian but I d...
A. 22 March 2010: lol.. not all us here believe in God..
Buddhism
All life is unsatisfactory
Life is unsatisfactory because we have desires
Remove desires and then you'll remove the unsatisfactory
Nice and easy enough for me... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says no porn, yet I catch him watching it.
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm so devistated right now. I have begged my fiancee to watch porn with me but his excuse is that he has me so he doesn't need to watch it. But just last night I caught him in the bathroom watching porn and relieving himself. That re...
A. 22 March 2010: Sorry, only responded to your last question.... again, sometimes people want to watch pornography alone, because they want quick stress relief, they don't want to feel obligated to have long loving sex with their partner afterwards.
They also don... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says no porn, yet I catch him watching it.
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm so devistated right now. I have begged my fiancee to watch porn with me but his excuse is that he has me so he doesn't need to watch it. But just last night I caught him in the bathroom watching porn and relieving himself. That re...
A. 22 March 2010: Okay, is it ok for him to have sex with you, with no foreplay at all. Can he thrust as hard as he can, not care about your feelings and not slow down until he has an orgasm. Can he have anal sex, bend you upside down and have you kiss his ass... ... (read in full...)
Am I in labour?
Q. 4th day of back pain in late pregnancy is it labour?tonight has been the worst, i have woken up from severe lower back pain and a pain on the left side of my vaginal wall however i have had no contractions in my stomach is it labour?...
A. 22 March 2010: CALL YOUR DOCTOR!!!!!
http://www.nhs.uk/Planners/Pregnancycareplanner/Pages/PregnancyHome.aspx
MEDICAL ADVICE AVAILABLE FROM THE NHS HELPLINE 24HOURS A DAY... 0845 4647
http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/sat/InitialAssessment/... (read in full...)
I feel horrible that my wife was crying whilst we had sex! Does this mean she finds me repulsive?
Q. hi this is driving me nuts. me and my partner have been together for about 5 years we have children together and seem happy we have are ups and downs no big deal.but are sex life has got dull and not a lot of it i mean big gaps.we both made jokes ...
A. 22 March 2010: It could be the massage. The body holds a whole pile of tension due to worries that we can't admit to ourselves. When somebody massages us with oils, we relax and feel loved, and can cry tears of joy. I have done this, and I have made people feel ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his mates are groping me. It turns me on but I am scared they will take it further.
Q. My boyfriend has been grabbing me in front of his friends and they have been joining in on grabbing me, ass smacking and pinching and grabbing my breasts. It is a turn on but I'm afraid they will go farther and want more. Any advice?...
A. 21 March 2010: This will end in rape... if you continue to see these people they will assume that you are interested in violent group sex.
If you don't want to happen, you will dump this boy and avoid him and his friends. At the moment he isn't acting like a l... (read in full...)
If the messages in the Bible can only be revealed to the reader by the Holy Spirit residing in you, then why are there so many denominations?
Q. I know this isn't a relationship question... well not a romantic relationship question. But this has been bugging and confusing me for a long time. I don't really have anyone I can talk to about this. I thought of myself as a Christian but I d...
A. 21 March 2010: Sorry babes, this is really not the place to answer such things. You will have Christians trying to help you believe, and then the atheist will join in and tell you why religion is rubbish.
I suggest you look for a Christian site, ask your que... (read in full...)
I have a phobia of condoms, and a phobia of pregnancy! Help!
Q. I've run into a bit of a snag due to some slightly contradicting phobias of mine. After deciding sex would be in our near future, my boyfriend and I discussed it a little. There seems to be a bit of an issue now, however, and I've gotten to t...
A. 21 March 2010: IUD's are not recommended if you haven't first had a child. They prefer not to give them to the teen's and 20year olds. The doctors prefer the implants and injections now.... (read in full...)
A dedicated Christian is preaching at me!
Q. There is a friend of mine who is a dedicated Christian. He has been preaching most of the time we meet, but, despite some 'miracles I have seen, I refuse to convert. I would like to tell him to stop the preaching but I am worried it will come out ...
A. 21 March 2010: Sorry spelling mistakes...sigh
I have a catholic friend with me now, and I am an atheist. You need words to tell him in a non offensive way.
"I respect your faith, but I do not share it."... (read in full...)
A dedicated Christian is preaching at me!
Q. There is a friend of mine who is a dedicated Christian. He has been preaching most of the time we meet, but, despite some 'miracles I have seen, I refuse to convert. I would like to tell him to stop the preaching but I am worried it will come out ...
A. 21 March 2010: I have a catholic friend me now, and I am an atheist. You need words to tell him in a non offensive way.
"I respect your faith, but I do share it."
Me atheist says give back the bible. My catholic friend says it's too beautiful keep a... (read in full...)
A dedicated Christian is preaching at me!
Q. There is a friend of mine who is a dedicated Christian. He has been preaching most of the time we meet, but, despite some 'miracles I have seen, I refuse to convert. I would like to tell him to stop the preaching but I am worried it will come out ...
A. 21 March 2010: Why have you asked this question again. Wasn't the other answers satisfactory? What is the problem you want us to solve? We gave good answers of all types, if your asking again then there is something more on your mind.
http:... (read in full...)
Okay so the guy I'm seeing is a Christian but his preaching to me is driving me nuts!
Q. I am dating a guy who is a strong Christian believer. We know each other from work and have been hanging out for a few months now. Often we have quality time together but lately he has been preaching to me, on almost every meeting. I have hinted and ...
A. 21 March 2010: Atheist here.. he won't be able to stop... as you noticed our more religious aunts want to help you, but they also suggest that you at least try their church and their bible stuff.
It's part of their beliefs, they can't stop, they need to share th... (read in full...)
How do you make a male orgasm feel better?
Q. what does a male orgasm feel like, and how do i make it better?...
A. 20 March 2010: Stand on top of tall building and then jump off... that's orgasm
how to get it better..mmmmm.. when time is ready it will be the best thing in the world.... (read in full...)
What's the most important thing in a relationship?
Q. Love is really confusing. I've never experienced it, maybe that's why I can't get my head around it. What's the most important thing in a relationship? I know different people will have different opinions but I'm curious. The majority of us have ...
A. 20 March 2010: Honesty, trust and truthful dealings with each other.. find a man who you fancy sexually, someone you also class as a friend. If he feels the same way about you, then I think your off to a good start.... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and not allowed to marry until I'm 24, how can I convince my dad that I'm mature enough?
Q. Okay, so here goes... My boyfriend Nolan and I are madly in love, have been for a good 4 years now. We are both 17 at the moment, and both virgins, saving ourselves for each other. We've known for a while now that we want to spend the rest of our ...
A. 20 March 2010: Actually Q, it's better for her dad if she dose go off and marry... think about all the money he will save. No need to spend anything on the wedding, since he dosen't agree with it anyway. Then he no longer has to support her at all. After all ... (read in full...)
I have a phobia of condoms, and a phobia of pregnancy! Help!
Q. I've run into a bit of a snag due to some slightly contradicting phobias of mine. After deciding sex would be in our near future, my boyfriend and I discussed it a little. There seems to be a bit of an issue now, however, and I've gotten to t...
A. 20 March 2010: Takes to long to break a phobia, you need to either see a counsellor trained in phobia's or a hypnotherapist. Pick up something by Paul McKenna, hypnotist, he has techniques to get pass phobias and avoidance behaviour.
Your boyfriend will hav... (read in full...)
Is it me that has issues with men?
Q. Im 40, My parents got divorced when I was 5years old. And I havent really been close to them my whole life, don't get me wrong, I still talk with them and see them but its just not a close nit family. Ive been married twice, my first marriage ended ...
A. 20 March 2010: what you went through with this guy through his divorce and depression: he was holding you in second place. Not a good feeling, isn't it. (lonely two)... (read in full...)
Worries before we wed!
Q. Is it wrong to chat online "face book" or send txts via cell phone to friends and exs whom you'd hooked up with? esp, when your in a committed relationship or officially engaged? we've been together more than 2.5 years, and everythings going really ...
A. 20 March 2010: mmmm;.. hard to dump your friends and walk away from your past... if you demand this of her, she'll probably feel a bit lonely and also suffocated..
Some people like to bury their past, some don't have no problems with keeping people that were onc... (read in full...)
Is it me that has issues with men?
Q. Im 40, My parents got divorced when I was 5years old. And I havent really been close to them my whole life, don't get me wrong, I still talk with them and see them but its just not a close nit family. Ive been married twice, my first marriage ended ...
A. 19 March 2010: Look at what you've been though..
1) Abandonment by parents due to a divorce
2) Little support from your main carer's (parents)
3) A young marriage and a quick divorce
4) Cheated on, betrayed in your first big relationship
5) Abused, hurt, ... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 19 March 2010: If he was worth leaving your husband for, maybe he's worth knocking into shape.
Hitting men with frying pans is now illegal.. best to wait until he calms down and deal with him then.
One thing.. the controlling thing is a bit worrying though,... (read in full...)
What subjects should I pick for my GCSE's?
Q. Hello Everyone! (: I was wondering if ye could give me some advice, Okay so im doing my junior cert this year(GCSEs) and i have to chose the subjects ill be doing for my leaving. and i havent a clue what to pick, I have to choose between 1.Music ...
A. 19 March 2010: Neuroscientist.. Biology, chemisty and higher maths.
Psycology.... Religion, history, Geography or arts
Unfortunately education is split into two halves.. you have the sciences and you have the arts.
Religion,Geography, History, Arts, Music... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 19 March 2010: And it's not just the men.. lol
Yep, I've done that.. got angry a some little thing on holiday and stormed off leaving the guy wondering if I'll ever come back... not good behaviour, but definitely correctable.... (read in full...)
Husband walks out while we are on vacation. Should I put the effort in to stay with him?
Q. Hi, I am a 32 y/o woman who has been in a relationship for the past 6 years and I am totally confused as to whether I should leave my fiance or or not. I really need some help with this. My fiance can be quite controlling and aggresive toward...
A. 19 March 2010: Indeed Laura, it dose sound as if this is his way of getting angry and letting of steam. He dosen't seem to know another way. Same with the hugging, he likes getting them, but dosen't know how to give them back.
lol.. my dad was like that.. b... (read in full...)
My dad doesn't care about me at all - what can I do to get out of here?
Q. My dad has been emotionally abusive to me my whole life and i need it to stop now but i dont think he will ever change. For as long as i can remember it has been like this. He NEVER says anything good to me at all, i have never heard him say i love ...
A. 19 March 2010: "Being devalued, dismissed and invalidated is the worst thing a person can deal with in modern nations." (Teacake)
I've done that to you in the past, and you stood up and almost told me to go to hell.. :)
You did it with me when I was rude ... (read in full...)
My dad doesn't care about me at all - what can I do to get out of here?
Q. My dad has been emotionally abusive to me my whole life and i need it to stop now but i dont think he will ever change. For as long as i can remember it has been like this. He NEVER says anything good to me at all, i have never heard him say i love ...
A. 19 March 2010: Jamie, been thinking hard, sorry I didn't get back to you. Babes, I think you need some counselling to get over some of the damage your father is doing to you. It's affecting your life, your used to putting up with bad treatment and you don't seem ... (read in full...)
My soft erections???
Q. When me and my girl are kissing I get turned on really easily but for some reason the erection I get it soft and when she does stuff to it I ejaculate near enough as soon as she touches it. I don't know why my erection is soft and whether this has...
A. 19 March 2010: Do you look at pornography a lot? Do you masturbate a lot? Do you have a lot of sex? Stop all sex contact for a while. Just do kissing, touching, and no ejaculation. You can however give her as much pleasure as she can stand. :)
If you are ... (read in full...)
He wants it all the time but it hurts!
Q. Advise please...... Know this guy for 3 years as distant friends, hes sweet funny and a workaholic, stood up twice by him in past due to work then after some convos on msn we met up with a bunch of his mates for a night out (was soo good) his fr...
A. 19 March 2010: You should take the main role... He lies back, you get on top and you do all the work.. That way you can make it gentle and slow.
But you still need to talk to him. If he's a nice guy he won't like the fact that you are hurting and will try to b... (read in full...)
Sister came on to me...drunk. What should I say to her?
Q. She'd been to a party and came home really drunk and she grabbed me and started kissing me. She then said I was her baby brother and that she should show me how to fun with a girl. She then tried to pull my shirt off and I had to wrestle with her to ...
A. 19 March 2010: Your 19, she's older, she needs to watch her drinking and behaviour around you. Just tell her what happened when she was drunk. Don't tell her you was disgusted or anything, just tell her the bare facts. She needs to know how she behaves when she ... (read in full...)
My dad doesn't care about me at all - what can I do to get out of here?
Q. My dad has been emotionally abusive to me my whole life and i need it to stop now but i dont think he will ever change. For as long as i can remember it has been like this. He NEVER says anything good to me at all, i have never heard him say i love ...
A. 14 March 2010: Bingo, your doing well babes, that answers one of my questions about why you make the choices you do. :)... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 13 March 2010: Ok, I'll take on everybody's criticisms of me. I owe you a big apology. I did not read your post properly, and missed where you say you have suffered emotional and verbal abuse and are now very depressed.
What I actually read was a woman wh... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 12 March 2010: Long distance relationship!!!!! Ah, cut that out, you have many things you need in a man, and you won't find out his faults this way. Make sure you know the next man and see him everyday, make sure you know his friends and family so you can make ... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 12 March 2010: Your husband was wrong to lie about his character, you and your husband are mismatched and you will never be happy and accept him as he is.
The things he dose are what many millions of men do. He smokes, he drinks, he watches a bit of pornogra... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 12 March 2010: Wonderful story Asian Tealeaf, again, another compromise instead of fighting over the issue of pornography. This time commercial stuff goes in the bin and you make your own instead.. I call that win-win.... (read in full...)
He says he prefers me over the porn any day, but I still feel like I am competing with it.
Q. Okay, I know there are a lot of questions on this topic already, but I still need help. My fiance watches porn, a lot. I don't know how much, because he never wants to talk about it, but I know it's very frequently. He said as much to me at on...
A. 12 March 2010: Can't add anything more to PM's wonderful way of approaching this. Can you update your post in light of the questions that have been asked of you.... (read in full...)
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