Is he gay and if not, is he dateable?
Q. I know a good looking, cultured, intelligent, highly educated, employed guy in his 40s. I am very attracted to him. However, he is kind of effeminate. He could be a metro. I found out that he lives with another guy and that they have lived ...
A. 2 June 2011: lol there's really no way of knowing unless you come right out and ask. him having been married twenty years ago definitely doesn't make him straight. in fact, there's probably currently lots of people who are still married and secretly gay. just ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my ex-bf and am now confused as to what he wants.
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend have been dating for a year and we recently broke up for good and I still love him. We broke up because we were both stressing about things and decided to take a break. The reason we never got back together is because ...
A. 21 May 2011: in all honesty, sounds like this relationship has a lot of issues. why was he under the assumption you messed around with his friend? and why then, would that prompt him to be such a guy, who would hook up with your friend, just to hurt you? no... (read in full...)
My receptionist gf adds guests on her personal facebook account! Am I right to be angry??
Q. My girlfriend work as a receptionist in a hotel and she really loves her job. i work in the same place as a security guard (that's were we met) we trust and love each other and she shows me everyday and i really love her and trust her too.. we've ...
A. 21 May 2011: i see where both of you are coming from. it would bother me a little bit if the person i was with flirted with and accepted these people on facebook. but i also see where she's coming from. these people probably mean nothing to her. just another ... (read in full...)
Would I get more attention from boys if I let my grades slip down to C and Ds?
Q. Do some boys feel intimidated if a girl gets very high marks at school? It seems to me that the girls who get so much more attention from boys do not get as good grades? Or am I wrong here? Should I try to slacken off a bit at school? One of the ...
A. 21 May 2011: you definitely DON'T let your grades drop just to get the attention of some pathetic, intimidated guys who are stuck in the last century and believe that men should be mentally superior. you should never change who you are to appease anyone. ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't have time for a g/f but I don't know how to move on
Q. I date this guy for about 7 months. He broke up with me in February because he's very busy with work and wasn't able to fully commit to me because of that. I was still very much in love with him and wanted to get back with him however he wouldn't ...
A. 21 May 2011: you're totally letting this guy push you around and dictate the course of the relationship. take some power back. stop sitting around and waiting on this guy. first, let me point out, this guy wasn't too busy to be with you. that's a cop out. i ... (read in full...)
I think about my ex more when I'm at home than I do when I'm at university. Why is this? It makes no sense!
Q. I find myself thinking about my ex girlfriend more in some places than others. We're both at university and we broke up earlier in the year because she wanted to focus on her work and I am in my final year and will be moving back home permanently ...
A. 21 May 2011: could it be related to the fact that when you're at home, you have much more down time to let your brain wander and think about her? when you're at school, you're possibly surrounded by friends, bars, lots of things to do. see if this may be the ... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't want to be with me anymore because I support my family
Q. My husband says that he doesn't want to be with me anymore because I support my family. My family is overseas and I am living in USA since 2007, I have a decent job and YES I help my family sending some money each month. We both work and we don't ...
A. 21 May 2011: was your husband not aware of your financial situation when you two got married? based on what you say here, he sounds extremely selfish. once you get married, you become family. that includes extended family. your family is his family and his ... (read in full...)
I love my b/f. How to tell her?
Q. Hello people! Okay.. recently I've noticed a really weird change after previous relationships and my ex lied to me and such.. I'm not sure if I turned lesbian or anything but.. recently I just lost the attraction to men and I got a huge crush on ...
A. 21 May 2011: the best way to handle these types of situations, in my past experiences, is not to flat out come straight out with your feelings. cause it may just freak her out. but rather drop little hints here and there and feel her out. make little flirtatious ... (read in full...)
Could I wait till my exams are over and then ask teacher if she'd want to be in a relationship?
Q. I'm a 18 year old female, i'm about to leave school for good, just have my exams to complete. I've developed a strong attraction towards my female teacher. She is 30 years old, and i sometimes do think she has feelings for me too. She hasn't acted ...
A. 21 May 2011: i honestly see nothing wrong with waiting until you're done with exams to ask her on a date. you're an adult, she's an adult, and she will no longer be your teacher. it may be weird, though, at first, to break out of the teacher/student role you're ... (read in full...)
I want to get close to him again but I'm terrified of rejection!
Q. First of all, I would like to state that I am in no way vain or conceited, just genuinely confused on what happened here. I am 27 years old, I have a Master's Degree, I work at a publishing company, and I'm fairly attractive. I met a guy back in ...
A. 19 May 2011: i hate to be blunt, but it really doesn't sound as if he's into you romantically. physically? yes. he finds you attractive. the idea of having sex with you with no strings attached and no emotions sounds great to him. but settling down and having a ... (read in full...)
The good qualities I'm searching for are always found in married men!
Q. I'm in love with my teacher who's very much married and have 2 kids. Is it wrong to feel this way?? I am still single and never had any relationship in my 30 years of existence. i don't seem to attract single guys and probably that's also the reason ...
A. 19 May 2011: there always seems to be something attractive about someone who is "off limits." i don't know if this is why these men appeal to you, or what exactly your reasoning is for this attraction to married men. that's something that nobody can really answ... (read in full...)
He doesn't think I'm keeping my options closed
Q. We are seeing each other and getting to know each other. Let's put it this way, we are in the process of becoming official and agreed to close our options..One day on my facebook, he saw another guy comment on my status about going somewhere to hang ...
A. 19 May 2011: let me just go ahead and say.. if he's already this possessive right off the bat, then maybe you're better off without him. you have done nothing wrong. last time i checked, you're allowed to have friends. and also last time i checked, you can't ... (read in full...)
She refused to shave after eveything I do for her...
Q. Dear fellow readers, I have found myself stuck in a very fragile situation and I am in need of some serious, thought out advice. I am 16 and have been with my girlfriend for about a year now, and I have hit a brick wall. A few weeks ago I ask her to ...
A. 19 May 2011: ok.. so here's what you do... you GET OVER IT! she's stated her discomfort in shaving, yet you keep pushing her to do it and keep insisting on bringing it up. once should have been enough. no wonder she's uncomfortable with her body around you now. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guys to have crushes on other women even in a dedicated long-term relationship?
Q. So I've had a pretty rough past two weeks here. My boyfriend of two years (lived with for a bit over a year) just broke up with me after a big incident. We'd decided we decided to move in too soon, and we figured a break would be ideal. We still ...
A. 19 May 2011: first off, i would suggest figuring out the actual status of your relationship. you say you two would like to work things out, but it seems as though you both haven't come to a conclusion as to where you stand. that would be the first thing i would ... (read in full...)
I am not ready to be in the delivery room with my wife!
Q. Hi, my wife is about to give birth and I am not ready to be in the maternity ward when the process begins. I have no one else to be there with her as we are in a foreign country on our own and this is freaking me out. My wife thinks I will be there ...
A. 18 May 2011: all i have to say is that you better figure out a way to get ready, and soon! just imagine...if you think YOU'RE not ready, imagine how she's feeling. she's the one that has to squeeze a 7-8 pound human being out of her body. all you have to do is ... (read in full...)
Not sure whether my best friend if giving off signals
Q. Hi all, i have one of the weirdest questions in the world lol. i am gay and my straight best friend is confusing the hell out of me. Basically I'm not out yet but I'm 99% sure he knows i am gay, and i have no idea if hes giving off signals. ...
A. 18 May 2011: classic case of the "homophobic gay guy." in other words, he's masking his true (gay) sexuality by gay-bashing in hopes to compensate for his shame in being attracted to men. he's hoping by bashing gay people, it will make him appear more straight. ... (read in full...)
Is one of your exes better than your current partner?
Q. Ok guys please be truthful. I want brutal honesty! Are your exes better than your current gf? I realise that your exes are exes for a reason but all that aside, in terms of being a person, being attractive, being more fun/sexier/funni...
A. 4 May 2011: did you just say "they only broke up because she cheated?" well that right there goes to show little ms. perfect isn't so perfect, is she?
you said it yourself...ex's are ex's for a reason. and in her case she's an ex because her true characte... (read in full...)
Her parents made her feel guilty about our relationship
Q. I've been seeing this girl for awhile now and up until just this week we were head over heels for each other. Somehow her parents found out about the relationship (we are both adults) and they made her feel very guilty and upset about it as they are ...
A. 1 May 2011: i know exactly what you're going through. the same happened to me while i was in college. the girl i'd been seeing for two years at the time had her mother find out about us, and she immediately broke up with me to try and be with guys.
the p... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has lied and cheated throughout my pregnancy
Q. I'm 33 weeks pregnant my boyfriend has lied to me cheated on me threw my pregnancy everytime I catch him his excuse is "I'm scared your gunna cheat on me or I thought you were cheating on me" I have not not gave him any reason 2 believe I am. I have ...
A. 1 May 2011: i'm so sorry you're going through all of this. that must be so hard.
do you have any family you could stay with? or even some really good friends that would let you crash with them for a while until you could get back on your feet after the preg... (read in full...)
I'm dating my sister's ex and hiding it from her
Q. so my sister was with this guy for a year. She cheated on him and he broke up with her. She moved on, as did he. I always liked this guy while they were together. I told him i liked him and he said he liked me2. A year AFTER they broke up, (she ...
A. 29 April 2011: yes she has a right to be upset. because you're giving her a right. that right is you lying to her. just tell her the truth so she doesn't feel like such an idiot. for all you know, she may not even care. and if she does, at least you'll know ... (read in full...)
Is this the kind of person I should try to stay with?
Q. Need some advice how to move on.. my bf of 2 yrs broke up with me today after not speakn with him for a month.. I had givn him time to try to get over my past of me cheating on my ex....and he now decided it wuz something he couldn't deal with..cuz ...
A. 29 April 2011: when you say he couldn't get over you having cheated on your ex.. are you referring to him or a different boyfriend before him? i don't think i understand. it sounds to me like you must be referring to you having cheated on him. in that case, wh... (read in full...)
She's too nice to break up with my friend but likes me better!
Q. Im 13 years old and i like this girl. I said i would be her best friend just to get closer to her. She has a boyfriend that is one of my good friends but she clearly likes me better. Shes too nice to break up with him so what do i do?...
A. 27 April 2011: nothing...cause she's dating your good friend. and friends don't do that to each other.... (read in full...)
Is a line being crossed here?
Q. Hi, my friend with benefits, wants to cum on my face and I've had it on my tummy but never on my face, I realize it could be some sort of power trip for guys but since we re just friends and he's not my boyfriend, is a line being crossed here?? I ...
A. 27 April 2011: there's nothing wrong with it as long as you don't mind it. that's only something you can answer. pretty condescending if you ask me. but hey, that's just me, and it's to each their own.... (read in full...)
Our relationship is boring for me, not for him. Is it fair than I try harder than him?.
Q. I get bored in our relationship from time to time. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Of course, everything was exciting and amazing at the beginning. We also had a distance relationship for a year. This year, however, I transferred to his ...
A. 27 April 2011: sounds like he cares about you, or he wouldn't initially attempt to make effort to make you happy after you mention your issue to him. i beieve he's just not good at showing you in the way you need or it's foreign to him. a lot of men are like that. ... (read in full...)
Is he gay and if not, is he dateable?
Q. I know a good looking, cultured, intelligent, highly educated, employed guy in his 40s. I am very attracted to him. However, he is kind of effeminate. He could be a metro. I found out that he lives with another guy and that they have lived ...
A. 26 April 2011: it's possible. but i'm willing to bet my left arm still that he's gay. ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is boring for me, not for him. Is it fair than I try harder than him?.
Q. I get bored in our relationship from time to time. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Of course, everything was exciting and amazing at the beginning. We also had a distance relationship for a year. This year, however, I transferred to his ...
A. 25 April 2011: i think that people have completely differing expectations out of committed relationships. he may love the routine and consistency of your relationship and be perfectly content, while you may need the little things. he probably doesn't mean to not ... (read in full...)
How should I deal with my bf's jealousy about me talking to my ex?
Q. Hello people I broke up with my ex seven months ago, it wasn't mutual (I left him) and the ex was none too happy. I am now in a new relationship and my boyfriend gets very upset and angry whenever I happen to talk (on the phone) to my ex...
A. 25 April 2011: i can completely see both sides. i see where you're coming from by trying to appease your ex for the simple sake of not having to deal with the BS that would come along with not appeasing him. and i totally understand this isn't malicious at all on ... (read in full...)
Is he gay and if not, is he dateable?
Q. I know a good looking, cultured, intelligent, highly educated, employed guy in his 40s. I am very attracted to him. However, he is kind of effeminate. He could be a metro. I found out that he lives with another guy and that they have lived ...
A. 24 April 2011: this guy has GOT to be gay. and to answer your two questions: 1. was he hinting at being gay since he's in a similar situation? YES. haha. 2. if you weren't gay, would you let your colleagues continue to think you were? most definitely not. i... (read in full...)
Was what we did considered cheating?
Q. Today i went out with my friends including this guy who I've been having feeling for recently and we went to the park and everyone else went off and it was just me him and my best friend and we were playing catch and coming on to each other as a ...
A. 23 April 2011: so...how would you feel if you could be a fly on the wall and saw your boyfriend do that with another girl? i'm pretty sure it would hurt you, unless you don't care about your boyfriend at all.
did you cheat? technically no. but you seriousl... (read in full...)
Is my therapist crossing the line or do I just not like what I'm hearing?
Q. I'm confused. my bf and I been together for 5 years, moved to the same town (same apt) and both started law school together and it's been a very up and down kind of thing. In feb, I felt like i had doubts, and thought, the next logical step to my ...
A. 23 April 2011: she's definitely crossing the line. counselors are not supposed to give direct advice or strongly push you in any particular direction. take this from a girl who has a psychology degree. the ultimate goal of counseling is for your therapist to ... (read in full...)
Difficult situation, we click, but he is married. What to do??
Q. I met a married man on his 50's, 10 years older ten months back. At first he told me he is divorced but admitted the truth on our 2nd month. He told me to give him 2 years to wait for him to finally divorce his wife. I always have told him to just ...
A. 23 April 2011: uh oh. two gemini's. that's trouble.... (read in full...)
Feel very uneasy after older guy asked me out, and am not sure what to do.
Q. Hello aunts! I would like to start off by saying that I am 14 and a high school freshman. Four days ago, an 18 year old high school senior asked me out. Please don't judge the ages, I am aware. He's leaving for boot camp next fall and I do n...
A. 23 April 2011: the actual age difference between the two of you is not great numerically. only a handful of years. but at your age, the emotional differences are very drastic. he's an adult, you're still a minor. he's sexually active, you're not. he's legally ... (read in full...)
He wants to be in the military, I am anxious now in our relationship, what do I do when he leaves for war??
Q. My fiancee wants to join the marines and be a sniper. I really dont want him to go and i cry just thingking about it, i got him to agree before that he wouldnt go but it always comes back up. So sence it would make him happy i finally said ok. But i ...
A. 23 April 2011: well first of all, people don't just enlist in the marines and get handed a checklist where sniper is listed as an option you can just check mark. you have to be the absolute best of the best of all the elete marksman. you have to prove yourself ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation a normal thing??
Q. i have this problem i mustarbate sometimes i have a gf and we have briliant sex but i do and sometimes i feel watching porn and thats against my believe of 10 commandement. Wat i tink is i m too old 2 mustarbate and also tink i m not normal is the ...
A. 23 April 2011: definitely not weird to be an adult male and masturbate. most men would find it weird not to.... (read in full...)
My wife was not a virgin
Q. Hello, my wife and i have being married for 4 years, i just found out she had a hymen reconstruction, i though we where both virgins now am stuck between a rock and a hard place.. I feel like cheating on her for what she did to me.what do you think ...
A. 23 April 2011: man, you asked for advice. if you already know how you feel, and aren't interested in outsiders differing opinions, why waste your time asking for it? unless everyone agrees with you and says "off with her damn head", or "lynch her," it sounds to me ... (read in full...)
Confused about threesome.
Q. Hello. I never asked anything about that before, so it's kinda weird to me right now, but i really need some advice. Here's is what is going on. A few months later i had a threesome with my girlfriend and a female friend of ours and it was very ...
A. 22 April 2011: if you really love and care for your girlfriend, you absolutely need to put a large distance between you and this other girl. cut all ties with her and do not communicate with her anymore. or at least until you have a good grip on your feelings for ... (read in full...)
Is he gay and if not, is he dateable?
Q. I know a good looking, cultured, intelligent, highly educated, employed guy in his 40s. I am very attracted to him. However, he is kind of effeminate. He could be a metro. I found out that he lives with another guy and that they have lived ...
A. 22 April 2011: who cares if he hasn't lived on his own? he sounds gay though, but that's just my opinion. i mean, just how effeminate are we talking? yes some men are metro. but there's a fine line between metro and just flat out gay. if he's super effeminate... (read in full...)
My wife was not a virgin
Q. Hello, my wife and i have being married for 4 years, i just found out she had a hymen reconstruction, i though we where both virgins now am stuck between a rock and a hard place.. I feel like cheating on her for what she did to me.what do you think ...
A. 22 April 2011: what she did was pretty terrible, and i'm sure that it hurts very badly. but since when did two wrongs make a right? i know you're probably terribly upset, but just try to calm down and think this through rationally. you obviously saved yourself f... (read in full...)
Ex stringing me along while he has a g/f?!
Q. long story short my ex and i broke up 8 almost 9 months ago ever since its been on and off with us talking hanging, out telling me he wants me hook ups, dates ect. So recently I had asked if he was talking to anyone else.. he replyed ya, arent you ...
A. 22 April 2011: what i think is he's a jackass. he may still have feelings for you, he may not. but either way, you're looking at this situation all wrong. this guy is a liar and a cheater. so does it really matter what his true intentions are? i wouldn't go back ... (read in full...)
I feel like he choose the weed over me. He's losing me and doesn't seem to care!
Q. I am not a weed smoker, but my hb does. He is one person when he smokes, and different when he doesn't. I didn't know that he likes weed when we were dating, I never saw that before, but when we got married he start to smoke in the house. At the f...
A. 22 April 2011: maybe i'm insensitive or the wrong person to ask, but my opinion is that he's way too old to behaving like such a teenager. smoking weed is a drug most people eventually grow out of. and if he's that sorry of a man that he's not willing to quit ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend used to be so sweet to me and we had alot of fun together, but after awhile I felt like I was walking on eggshells around him because alot of things I said made him mad for no reason.My boyfriend started telling me what to wear he told ...
A. 22 April 2011: i answered this question yesterday, i believe. and my answer remains the same...RUN. run away now and get rid of him.
and ditch your friend, too, if she's befriending him against your wishes.... (read in full...)
Should I continue to date this guy even though his bisexuality turns me off?
Q. Hi, i have a boyfriend and he is bi sexual and i really don't like dating bi sexual guys. But I really do like him. Should I continue to date him??...
A. 22 April 2011: well obviously only you can truly answer that for youself. but if i were you, i would haul ass. in my opinion, bisexual tendencies are usually just a stepping stone to gayness. coming from someone who "used to be bi" when i was 20, i know how it is. ... (read in full...)
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