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writes:We are seeing each other and getting to know each other. Let's put it this way, we are in the process of becoming official and agreed to close our options..One day on my facebook, he saw another guy comment on my status about going somewhere to hang out with couple other friends, but the guy invited and left a comment like "I'll treat you out" and I guess he got the wrong idea. And thought I didn't keep my words about closing our options. And that day he didn't even talk to me all day, so I decided to text him, and he replied, but he said that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. And he has been avoiding me. During our text I got to explain that me and the guy are just friends. Anyways, the thing is that.. I am keeping my options closed and I feel like if he's going to stop talking to me, I want it to be because I was really talking to somebody else. What should I do? Leave him alone? or what should I say to him? Because I feel like he lost trust in me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers! I chose to tell him about the situation and leave it up to him. So he came back and we started talking again. We are still keeping our options closed, but were not official yet. Sometimes I don't know if its worth it becus I am keeping my options closed..and we do everything a couple should. And we've been talking for 2months and he still hasn't ask me out .
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reader, krit  +, writes (19 May 2011):
 you would had heard it earlier that 97% of our all communication is through body language. but when you are chatting with someone without them being able to see you then SAME words can imply a completely different meaning. so this is a problem between both of you. He's not being possessive but he is just hurt because of his trust been broken. MEET him in person and make him understand this. YOU are wise lady,so don't run away from the situation like he did. yeah he's being immature but MOST guys prefer to disappear and run away from problem than to sit and calmly talk about it like women do so. This is their way of dealing with things. i agree it is not wise but it is the sad truth.
BE PATIENT and once he talks with you things would go back to normal.....best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2011): It's hard to have proper conversations by text; better to go and see your boyfriend and talk to him about it.
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reader, llifton +, writes (19 May 2011):
 let me just go ahead and say.. if he's already this possessive right off the bat, then maybe you're better off without him. you have done nothing wrong. last time i checked, you're allowed to have friends. and also last time i checked, you can't control what other people say. i could see it bothering him to an extent, but that's where most adults have learned to EXPRESS their feelings on the matter and talk it out. he had the right to ask you what that guy meant. but he didn't have the right to behave like that and just cut you off after false assumptions. what are you going to do after a year or two into the relationship and you're much more attached, and he continues to pull this crap? he needs to grow up.
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