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writes:Hi all, i have one of the weirdest questions in the world lol. i am gay and my straight best friend is confusing the hell out of me.Basically I'm not out yet but I'm 99% sure he knows i am gay, and i have no idea if hes giving off signals.I'll lie down while watching a film and he'll sit and put his legs on me while my left arm is basically playing with his balls, if i'm not doing this he'll move closer and he'll also put his feet on my other hand. I'm also sure I've felt him get an erection quite a few times.Now he regularly has sex with women and says he hates gays, he's said numerous times that if he found out i'm gay he'll stop speaking to me and he would never go near a guy and would rather die that take a blowjob off another guy. Yet he sits there and lets me play with his balls.So i'm not sure what the hell is going on, i'd love to give him a blowjob but i don't want to ask at the risk of losing our friendship (I'm basically lost without him) so i can't listen to the whole he's not a proper friend if he doesn't accept me because i really don't have any other friends or socialize with anyone else because i only want to be around him.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (24 May 2011):
 yeah he sounds like he wants you sexually but is not prepared to take it any further than that.
i have had a friend in this exact situation and guess what? we never got together despite the numerous times he would play fight with me with a hard-on and once when drunk jumped me onto the floor and started kissing my neck.
if he cannot accept the idea of a homosexual relationship he is wasting your time, and your letting him.
you have a choice to respect yourself, so come out and see if he can man up. otherwise sit in limbo forever...
someone has to push the boat out and get some guts
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reader, aaringurl  +, writes (19 May 2011):
Do absolutely nothing. Wait for him to make them move. Just continue on what you're doing and act like things are all normal. He'd realize for himself what an idiot he has been for saying all those shitty things and could possibly choose you to come out on with. And oh yeah, RESIST THE TEMPTATION! I've been in your situation too and I know it's pretty hard to resist when it's almost amidst your reach, but always think about the consequences. Although, I'm pretty sure he'd give in soon. Fingers crossed. ^^
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (18 May 2011):
 There are MANY MANY gay men... who get married, have kids... and then finally ruin everything cause they can no longer live a lie... or they get caught (ie in bathroom stalls, etc).
I think, like the others below, that he probably IS gay a 'masking' it to make others thinks he's straight. If he's not entirely gay then he's at least bi-sexual (sounds like about a '4' on the kinsey scale - google it).
As far as what you should do... I can't really say. If you make a move on him it could totally explode in your face - on the other hand maybe he trusts you so much that he's 'trying' to clue you in how he feels.
If you really like him and want to do more physically... I'd say start out really slow - back/shoulder rubs, etc., hop in the hot-tub (if you have one) have him sit between your legs and massage his back/neck/shoulders, etc. After doing this a few times... you can move down south, rub his inner thighs and legs working your way up to his crotch. Don't go 'all the way' and fondle him up. Make him make the move - possibly he'll push your hand in there.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies, and I completely understand where you're both coming from. But it's the fact he regularly has sex with women so unless he's Bi? and he also has a 3 year old daughter. So I'm so screwed up in the head at the minute, i know it sounds stupid but i just can't seem to let go.
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reader, llifton +, writes (18 May 2011):
 classic case of the "homophobic gay guy." in other words, he's masking his true (gay) sexuality by gay-bashing in hopes to compensate for his shame in being attracted to men. he's hoping by bashing gay people, it will make him appear more straight. unfortunately for him, this does the exact opposite, and makes it more obvious to outsiders that he is, in fact, gay. that, on top of the fact that no straight guy i know allows another man to touch his balls. i'll just go ahead and say that. and most straight men i know don't feel the need to bash homosexuals because they're confident enough in their own sexuality to not feel as though they have to do that.
anyway, my advice to you is to not pursue this guy. because while i do believe he probably is interested in you, if something sexual happens at this point in time between the two of you, i don't believe he's in a place in his life where he'd be emotionally ready for the repercussions. he's not ready to be gay. plain and simple. and he'd start to resent you, and probably stop talking to you and maybe even spread rumors about your sexuality to compensate again for his fear of being found out. best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2011): this guy is gay man, there only one guy I let touch my balls that's the doctor and I don't go hard. As a straight guy you think we sit around and play with each other balls? you know what I be thinking if I had my fingers on a girls pussy where the hell did I put those condoms.
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