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writes:Need some advice how to move on.. my bf of 2 yrs broke up with me today after not speakn with him for a month.. I had givn him time to try to get over my past of me cheating on my ex....and he now decided it wuz something he couldn't deal with..cuz evry chance he would get he would ask how I had sex with them.and he would put me down....but I really fell in love with this guy and I know he loves me as well but his immature brain dosent let him c the fact that it wuz n the past that I had cheated.. my ex is on ssi he is 30 and dosent have a job dosent even have his own place or car... myself am n college I work and I drive an ok car... Is this a kind of person I should try to stay with?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 April 2011):
Just move on. Whatever has happened, he simply can't deal with it. A relationship like this simply isn't worth fighting for - all he will ever do is put you down.
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reader, Quirkay +, writes (29 April 2011):
We all have a past, present and future. If your boyfriend can't get over your past, then the present will hurt but the future will be better.But like another aunty here - I am not really too sure who you cheated on - your current (now ex) boyfriend or your ex ex boyfriend? Your message isn't clear. If you cheated on your current boyfriend with your ex boyfriend, then I'm afraid I have little sympathy with you. If you have been faithful with this one, but he knows you cheated on your ex, then these are his insecurities. If the latter, I would learn the old adage that "a still tongue in a wise head" is a good rule to go by.Whatever happens, you need to learn the lessons from this relationship.
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reader, Kirchy +, writes (29 April 2011):
 The thing is that it is going to be difficult trying to adjust to the idea of something like that. If he's insecure then of course it's going to bother him. I know that I would be constantly worried about it. You just need to try and convince him that you're not going to do that to him. If you really love him then yeah, you should try and stay with him because if you don't you'll always regret it - you'll never get over him if it ends this way.Hope this helps. :)
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reader, llifton  +, writes (29 April 2011):
 when you say he couldn't get over you having cheated on your ex.. are you referring to him or a different boyfriend before him? i don't think i understand. it sounds to me like you must be referring to you having cheated on him. in that case, when you say "sex with them," who is them? did you cheat with multiple people?once someone cheats, it's nearly impossible NOT to constantly wonder what they're doing and who they're with. and it's miserable for both people. cheating is an extremely toxic thing that most couples just can't bounce back from. so if you did cheat on him, it seems to me he's just being fair to the both of you by admitting the truth that he can't get over it and maintain a healthy relationship. sounds like he took adequate time to evaluate his feelings and made an adult decision. i would say it sounds like he's not immature at all. that is, if i even understood your post correctly.
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