I want love. But my mother is nagging me to get married asap. Is what I want too much to ask for?
Q. I'm 26 and single. My mom has been constantly telling me to just find someone and get married. As long as he's nice and I can tolerate him then that's good enough. Anyone would do. Anyone is better than no one. I'm 26, it's time, soon it'll be to...
A. 3 February 2013: Well you already know that answer to your question. You know it's not better to just settle for the sake of settling. Of course when this happens, people wind up miserable a handful of years down the road and either cheat, divorce, or cheat and then ... (read in full...)
Dating for one month so far. I feel as if I'm not good enough when I'm trying to pleasure him. What could be the problem?
Q. I've been dating this guy for almost a month now. Let's call him X. He's 39. I'm 22. I'm still a virgin and he's not. We've already done sexual stuff and he knows what he's doing. I, on the other hand, have not been able to get him off. I feel ...
A. 3 February 2013: Sounds to me like your guy is really respectful and considerate, and he legitimately just wants to please you. And it doesn't sound like he's bothered by the situation at all. Although I do definitely understand where you're coming from with wanting ... (read in full...)
Are relationships that exist with absolutely NO violence towards one another?
Q. Aunts and Uncles... Have any of you (honest answers please) had a physical fight with your current spouse? I just want to know if there are relationships that exist with absolutely NO violence towards one another. Again, please be honest. Th...
A. 3 February 2013: Hell yes i've had relationships that don't have physical violence! In fact, i've never had one single one that's had physical violence! it's not the norm. I don't know if you're just surrounded by people who think it's okay or have those issues ... (read in full...)
Met a gorgeous guy on the train but he has a girlfriend!
Q. Hello Everyone This Week I met a guy. The way I met him and started talking seems like it belongs in a movie. Basically I was waiting in the train station waiting for my train number to be announced. When they finally called it I headed down the ...
A. 3 February 2013: This is where my die hard desire for honesty comes out, but I would honestly tell him that you couldn't text him until he ended his relationship. That you respect him and his girl and that if he breaks up with her and is still interested, to hit you ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I think his goals are holding me back
Q. I am in a long term serious relationship, like any relationship we have our ups and downs but we've grown to love and respect one another and have become very close planning a future together. My problem is I am a bit younger, my boyfriend is settl...
A. 3 February 2013: honestly, you'll regret it for the rest of your life if you don't accomplish your goals of traveling, etc. and if he loves you, he should love you enough to tell you he would never want to hold you back from your goals and dreams. you'll probably ... (read in full...)
Girls: Would it bother you if a boy was stronger than your boyfriend?
Q. Girls, would it bother you if a boy was stronger than your boyfriend? My girlfriend invites me to her home often. She has a 12 year old brother who wrestles. He's always challenging me to wrestle and arm-wrestle. So, I did one day and he beat me b...
A. 3 February 2013: i'd think she'd find it rather hilarious and endearing. most women don't care about that stuff, despite male belief that it matters.
if it were me, and i were seeing you, and you'd gotten your ass kicked by a 12 year old, i'd find it incredib... (read in full...)
B/f takes 20 minutes to respond to texts and comes back with cliche responses. Is something up?
Q. Big dilemma you guys ill try and keep it short. I really need some help. My boyfriend is 22 and works on a boat for 2 weeks of the month. Well, all day he texts me like once every couple of hours, and on his lunch break, like once. When he gets off ...
A. 3 February 2013: he sounds like he works really hard. to be honest, i wouldn't want to talk on the phone or text much at all if i'd been at work all day, either. he might just not be big on texting. some people really just don't enoy it much. which i think is a good ... (read in full...)
I wanted to spend my life with him but alcoholic b/f broke things off. I'm devastated!
Q. Long story shortnened for sake of this posting. I am madly (still) in love with a man who has severe issues. (alcoholism, child custody drama) but who I feel such a special connection with I cant move on. We were friends for a while then start...
A. 3 February 2013: human nature is black and white. when we want to do somethiing - we do it. end of story. that being said, if this man wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. regardless of his situation. i know it's not what you want to hear, but it's an ... (read in full...)
How can I stop torturing myself thinking about the night my b/f had sex with another girl
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. A year into our relationship we had some bad problems, mainly that my boyfriend hated the fact that I was friends with my ex and he became convinced I was going to cheat on him with him. (I never did not ...
A. 1 February 2013: lets get this straightened out right away. he didn't cheat on you. you were broken up. i know that doesn't make it hurt less, but if you hadn't broken up, he would never have slept with someone else.
everyone handles heart break differen... (read in full...)
What's the point in telling a guy you've fallen for him when you have no intention of taking things further?
Q. Hi people, i'd just like to ask opinions on this matter. Basically I'm a 29 year old single male whose not going out of his way to look for a relationship, but open to one if the opportunity presents itself with a worthy candidate. A bit about my...
A. 1 February 2013: ahhhh such a good question. i can honestly say i know exactly what you're talking about. women complain that they get treated like complete crap by men all the time, yet turn around and treat the good guys like pure shit. the problem is that women ... (read in full...)
Increasingly jealous and insecure for what reason? Help!
Q. I'm 21, my boyfriend is 26, we have been together for almost 2 years. He is *amazing* in bed, gives me many intense orgasms whereas he doesn't come easily (a woman's dream since it means he stays hard for a *while* without 'arriving') My questi...
A. 31 January 2013: i don't know why you've become controlling, but what you said about fucking some random older guy is pretty ridiculous. sounds like you already know that, though. making a comment about a celebrity is NOT the same as talking about sleeping with some ... (read in full...)
How can people have sex with the same person and not get bored?
Q. I am still a virgin so I have no knowledge of such things, but it seems to me that If I had sex with the same girl all the time then things would get very boring, kind of like watching the same movie over and over and over again. Assuming that ...
A. 31 January 2013: sometimes they do get bored. that's why people cheat or divorce or break up.
at first, sex is exciting and awesome and fun and you want it all the time with the person you're with. then time passes and you get somewhat bored. that's when you eith... (read in full...)
Do sparks die down after a certain point in a relationship?
Q. Hi, I just had this thought and it made me wonder,do sparks die down after a certain point in a relationship?do men get bored of their girlfriends?how do u maintain these sparks? I know some of you will say,if your in love it will never die down,b...
A. 31 January 2013: i don't think anyone who knows what they're talking about would ever tell you that love will never die down. of course it does.
when you first meet someone that you connect with, your brain releases chemicals that make your body respond with tho... (read in full...)
Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy?
Q. Would you end a relationship because your partner is untidy and unorganised ?. My boyfriend is lovely. He treats me very well, but one thing i don't like is that his house is a mess a lot of the time and unorganised. He doesnt have a bed. He has ...
A. 31 January 2013: he bathes in the sink??
yes, sometimes having a little clutter around a house is okay. hell, my house has clutter. i've got some clothes on the floor and empty beer bottles on the kitchen counter i haven't cleaned up yet from last night. maybe i'... (read in full...)
Engaged but not ready to marry
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for a year and a half. We are engaged with no set date. I know he loves me and I don't want to throw away a loving relationship for no reason, but I don't think my feelings for him are very deep. I'm worried if ...
A. 31 January 2013: you definitely need to break up with your fiance. it's about that time. if you can honestly say you'd rather dance naked for old dudes that don't care than be with him and not have your freedom, then something is very wrong. not because dancing for ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend in love with his ex
Q. Hello, I got back with my ex of 6 months January, after finding out that he had never broken up with his ex of two years. He felt really guilty and kept saying how sorry he was. He was being really lovely and paying me lots of attention. Everythi...
A. 31 January 2013: you're seriously considering waiting around for this guy? really? he's in love with another girl and wanting to get back together with her, and keeping you on the back burner in case it doesn't work out. you're option number 2. plan B. please don't ... (read in full...)
How can I live more comfortably in this flat living with the kind of people I live with?
Q. Helloo, I'm having a problem that causes me a lot of stress and would appreciate advice on how to handle it. Please bear with me as I've just come out of a 'chat' which involves the problem. Thank you. At the moment, I'm living in a flat with my...
A. 31 January 2013: well, you live under bob's roof, so you abide by bob's rules. simple as that. you're a tenant in his house. you want a different living situation and to call the shots, then you have to get your own apartment where you make the rules. but you said... (read in full...)
Should I apologize for saying that his friendship with this other woman makes me uncomfortable?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, please advise: My guy has a married girl friend who is flying in to his city for a week, without her husband, just to hang out with my guy because she “misses him”. I don’t live with my guy yet, though we’ve been together fo...
A. 31 January 2013: i think you had every right to express your feelings to your boyfriend. after all, that's what healthy relationships are all about. you approached him appropriately by not getting angry, rather, just looking for him to comfort you. all he had to do ... (read in full...)
Hate my toxic work place, where cheating is the norm. How can people cheat and not feel guilty?
Q. I am really hating my workplace at the moment I feel that its really poisoness. Everyone seems to be cheating on everyone else and I am the only who seems to think its disgusting. One girl at work was giving me all this relationship advice with my ...
A. 30 January 2013: no, you're not wrong at all. in fact, i know EXACTLY where you're coming from. my ex gf used to work at this place (i swear, if we weren't from two completely different countries, i would be convinced it was the same place) where literally everyone ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend her house is nasty and I wont eat at hers again until the roaches are exterminated?
Q. Should you tell someone you love they are a slob and should do much better about being clean? I'm lesbian and coincidentally my girlfriend is too. Anyways I've recently just begun visiting her home after 3yrs making arrangements to meet up or visit ...
A. 30 January 2013: i think you're making the right steps already, by slowly starting to do the little things that you feel should be taken care of or would make your coexisting with her more pleasant. i would just do one little thing at a time and see how she ... (read in full...)
Why do people have to make comments that are hurtful?
Q. Dear Cupid, The other night I was talking to this guy that I know fairly well but is still considered an acquaintance. We were texting and he asked "why do you wear so much makeup? Not to say you look bad but i'm sure you're pretty naturally...
A. 30 January 2013: i think you're taking it the wrong way than how he meant it. it sounds to me that he was trying to give you a compliment that you took as a put down. he's trying to say you're naturally pretty, and don't need all that in order to look amazing. you ... (read in full...)
Cheating:( How do guys keep their girlfriend from cheating?
Q. How do you keep your girl from cheating? Please i am asking for a range of different answers, so please give me your opinion on whats the best way to keep a partner faithful, or atleast, what actions can a guy do, to keep her girl from seeking ...
A. 30 January 2013: There's no special remedy that will make your girlfriend not cheat. honestly, it's just the luck of the draw about the type of girl you wind up with. some women are just honest, good girlfriends who won't cheat no matter what. others will cheat, e... (read in full...)
What to do with flakey friends? When she has a guy she ignores me.
Q. One of my good friends from highschool tends to ignore me when ever a guy pays attention to her. When things end I am the first person she calls when she is sad. I am sick and tired or being put on the back Burner the minute a guy shows her inte...
A. 30 January 2013: well unfortunately, this is pretty much the norm of friendships. it's somewhat the joy/disappointment of them. it's nice knowing we can always have someone to fall back on when we need them most, but it's also sad when it makes you start to feel ... (read in full...)
Is it a bad sign if she says she's waiting to see if there is a spark after we've kissed?
Q. Is it a bad sign if she says she's waiting to see if there is a spark after we've kissed? We hung out a little bit as friends. We went to see Les Miserable where we held hands. Since then we have been together a couple of times, holding hands an...
A. 30 January 2013: if i were you, i'd proceed, but i'd definitely proceed with caution. because i'm with you - if there's a spark, i KNOW it. I feel it immediately. it's not something i need time to question or evaluate. but i also don't see any need to stop seeing h... (read in full...)
Is this a normal cooling off period or silent treatment/emotional abuse/manipulation?
Q. I have been dating a man for just over a year. We broke up at one point for three months because he got cold feet about the relationship. (He’s been divorced for a number of years and hasn’t had a committed relationship in that time, only dated ...
A. 30 January 2013: i don't get the impression this guy is being manipulative at all. and i don't get the impression he's angry and cooling off, either. i get the impression he's just rather apathetic to the whole thing. In fact, i believe he's waiting for YOU to c... (read in full...)
What should I do? Call it quits until he gets his stuff together or tough it out a little longer?
Q. I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 2 months. I've known him 9 months before actually making it official. Anyways at this time he's currently jobless and Car less . He has been applying for any kinda of job yet nothing has come up. He ...
A. 30 January 2013: i see no reason why you shouldn't give him time to get himself together. it's a tough economy we are living in right now. finding a new job once you lose one can be extremely tough. just be patient with him, and definitely don't kick him while he's ... (read in full...)
Ever since my boyfriend confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex, I've had difficulty being intimate with him
Q. I have been dating the most amazing man for four months. Everything was wonderful until two weeks ago when he confided that he and his ex engaged in anal sex. Since then, I've had difficulty being intimate with him. I think anal sex is disgustin...
A. 28 January 2013: i think you're being extremely judgemental. you said it yourself; it's in his past. but even so, who cares? he's allowed to like things that you don't. and he's entitled to not be judged for it. my suggestion is to realize that different pe... (read in full...)
How do I make sure my friends don't judge me for having sex?
Q. Okay before I begin please dont judge me. I know a lot of you are going to and I dont come here to be judged I come here for advice. Okay so my boy friend and I are both the same age and we were both virgins. We both decided that we were ready an...
A. 28 January 2013: you're at a tough age. it's an age where you really can't tell how your friends will respond to this type of stuff. it's amazing the difference just a couple of years will make when it comes to these types of things. when you turn 18, suddenly... (read in full...)
Is my G/f still in love with her ex? Why is she keeping their sexual photos and is she just using me for the life I can provide for her ?
Q. Hi there, I just need some advice I've been with my girlfriend now for nearly 3 years n it's really good, we're both in our early 40,s Before me she was with someone just for sex she said but she got attached to him but he left and lived hundre...
A. 28 January 2013: no one can really speculate if she's in love with him, but what's obvious is that there's definitely still sexual tension between them and she's definitely crosing the line of what is and is not appropriate. you forgave her once for cheating with ... (read in full...)
Do you think I have missed my chance with this guy or is it worth being somewhere by "accident"on the chance I will bump into him? Or is that desperate?
Q. I had to wait in a queue for half hour or so yesterday and got randomly chatting to this guy who was also waiting. during the conversation he told me 2 or 3 times he was single,divorced, asked if I was.We kept chatting till it was my turn to be se...
A. 28 January 2013: hahaha, it is a little desperate, but so what? it's worth a shot. why not? seems to me he may be interested. worst case he says no. good luck!... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend's gesture and behaviour strange in this situation?
Q. Recently my boyfriend (who makes an excellent living) brought me a bouquet of flowers. They were the grocery store variety and the price tag that he left on the cellophane said $7. He came to my front door with said flowers still in the plastic ...
A. 27 January 2013: sounds to me like this guy wanted to do something sweet for you, but gets awkward about doing romantic things like that, so he took the edge off by making what he perceived as a humorous comment to lighten the mood. coming from someone who is very ... (read in full...)
First he hates me, now he's friendly - how should I understand it?
Q. I’m a young gay guy and a student. One of my coursemates is a really sexy guy, unfortunately straight. Although even if he would be gay, I would have no chance, because he’s really hot, like a film star. The bad thing is that he’s apparently a ...
A. 27 January 2013: come on! you're gay, so you should know that homophobes are, 9 times out of 10, gay themselves! the fact that he used to make those hurtful comments already triggered in my mind that he was probably interested in you but had to compensate by acting ... (read in full...)
If someone you liked told you not to get in touch would it be really hard not to?
Q. I met someone recently and we spent the night together, it was really great. I know he likes me but I am not ready to get involved with him so I told him not to text or call me. Now I regret it even though I don't want anything serious, and am ...
A. 26 January 2013: ummmm... no, it would make me not talk to them anymore. ... (read in full...)
Unexpected death of an acquaintance has got me thinking--whats the point?
Q. I've just found out that a colleague of mine with whom I used to work a some 4 years ago had a mortal car accident this morning while he was driving to work: the road was icy, he lost control of his car and crashed against a tree- he died. We wer...
A. 25 January 2013: i understand where you're coming from. i've had that exact same thought, myself. it's terrifying and you never know when your number will be up. but how about this? rather than saying what's the point if i'm just going to die? why not say since i ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend looks at other women and makes me feel horrid!
Q. My boyfriend and have been together for three years now. He cheated on his ex wife and has made me feel uncomfortable when other women are around us. The first time this happened was when we invited a friend to lunch and she held his gaze for a ...
A. 25 January 2013: quite the charmer ya got there. if i were you, i'd leave him. easier said than done, of course. but life is too short to be miserable all the time. you're already saying that your self-confidence is suffering, and believe me, i've been there, m... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a male friend who keeps hitting on her. How am I supposed to act?
Q. I'll try and be brief. My girlfriend met this guy (I'll say Matt) at a house party a couple of months ago - introduced to her through a friend (I'll say Chris). They met up as a group, since Chris began to take an interest with her friend. Whilst ...
A. 25 January 2013: if i were you, i'd be pretty annoyed. i think it's extremely disrespectful for her to talk to this guy that clearly likes her and act like that's not shady at all. it crosses the line of trust and it's completely uncalled for. It's manipulat... (read in full...)
He doesn't look at me anymore
Q. Hi, everyone. first thing is that I am married, but someone has come to my life and has me all confused. My husband and me are having to many problems. OK getting to the point. I met this guy about a year ago, he works at his father store just a ...
A. 25 January 2013: i'm not gonna be that person who judges and says your heart should stop feeling. but i will, however, be that person who tells you that you have the option to walk away from those natural human urges we ALL have, and do the right thing. everybody, ... (read in full...)
I'm starting to think his sex addiction is a problem
Q. My boyfriend has been telling me that he is thinking about having sex with other girls. He thinks about how exciting it would be and what kind of things he can do to other girls. We are both aware that he is addicted to sex, and he falls into the ...
A. 25 January 2013: i think you may have been with this guy for long enough to cloud your judgement of what's normal, OP. no, this is not normal. it's not normal to stay in a relationship where your boyfriend is telling you he wants to hit it and quit it with oth... (read in full...)
Why do involved men ask for a girl's phone number?
Q. why do men ask for women's cell number even if he/she is already in a relati0nship?basically,i want to know men's m0tive in the first place...
A. 25 January 2013: probably because:
1. (and most likely) he's bored, looking for a little side piece of meat, and is an untrustworthy, lying punk.
2. you're his friend and he wants to hang out.... (read in full...)
I met one of my students at a bar and now I can't talk to her
Q. Hi i'm 24 years old and just got a job as a history teacher. Over the summer, I met this amazing girl. I met her in a bar so I just assumed that she was over 21 so I never bothered to ask for her age. She's beautiful, smart, funny. The most gorgeous ...
A. 25 January 2013: wow, now that's a situation!
first of all, this girl is your student, so under no circumstance should you carry on any type of relationship with her, which i'm sure you already know. and if i were you, i'd continue not mentioning a thing to her a... (read in full...)
Why don't any girls pay attention to me?
Q. Ever since I hit 15 my teenage hormones kicked in and my personality took a complete 360. Before I hit 15 girls thought I was really cute because of how happy, playful, and funny guy I was, not to mention I had a tough personality. But then I ...
A. 25 January 2013: if i were you, i'd think about seeing a Doctor and see if you aren't suffering from depression. that would explain the chronic fatigue and temperment change. it's just a simple serotonin imbalance and meds can fix that right up for you and get you ... (read in full...)
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