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writes:I'm 33 weeks pregnant my boyfriend has lied to me cheated on me threw my pregnancy everytime I catch him his excuse is "I'm scared your gunna cheat on me or I thought you were cheating on me" I have not not gave him any reason 2 believe I am. I have not once cheated or thought about doing it to him. I don't know what to do I can't trust him and everyday is hell were constantly fighting we just movedin tha middle of no where we don't kno anybody and I'm going crazey. Like seriously wat should I do?? If he leaves than I'm on my own i m 18 dropped out of school can't get a job and I don't kno how I would live with out him plz someone I really need help
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reader, littleBB  +, writes (1 May 2011):
I am deeply sorry, I feel for you, you are going through a very tough situation and my advice might sound harsh but I need to tell you that you need to leave your boyfriend asap. He has made you desperate, made you pregnant, has isolated you and doesn't take any responsibility for his behaviour, he probably won't improve when the baby is born. I dont mean to hurt your feeling by saying this, I know it must be very hard to hear this. Do you have any family member you could move to? Sister? Mother? Anyone? Cheating on you is a sign of great disrespect and you don't deserve that, you need someone who loves and cherishes you expecially now that you are pregnant and ready to be a mother. You must think of yourself and your baby first, do you want this baby to grow up in such an enviroment? You are young, you can rebuild your life go back to school and raise your baby, you can find somebody who truly loves you and cares for you. But right now you need support from your family/friends, you cannot make it alone. The situation with your boyfriend will grow worse and there's no reason why you should tolerate such behaviour, no reason whatsoever. Do yourself a favor and get rid of him before he erodes your self esteem any further. Cheaters rarely if ever change. Let me know how it goes. Good luck.
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reader, llifton +, writes (1 May 2011):
 i'm so sorry you're going through all of this. that must be so hard.
do you have any family you could stay with? or even some really good friends that would let you crash with them for a while until you could get back on your feet after the pregnancy?
it sounds to me like this is an extremely toxic relationship, and despite the fact that he is the father of your child, that doesn't make him worth staying with. you're carrying his baby. this is a time of togetherness where he should be catering to your needs and be supportive. and instead, he's running off cheating on you, then blaming you for it by claiming he thought you were doing the same. that's disgusting. i would pack up my stuff one day while he's not there, and just leave. do you have a car? if not, could someone you trust come and get you?
life is going to be extremely tough for you right now, and it will be for a long time. you'll be okay though. now is the time to fall back on those who love you and are close to you. let them be there for you. especially family if you have that option. best of luck!
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