Why don't any girls pay attention to me?
Q. Ever since I hit 15 my teenage hormones kicked in and my personality took a complete 360. Before I hit 15 girls thought I was really cute because of how happy, playful, and funny guy I was, not to mention I had a tough personality. But then I ...
A. 25 January 2013: if i were you, i'd think about seeing a Doctor and see if you aren't suffering from depression. that would explain the chronic fatigue and temperment change. it's just a simple serotonin imbalance and meds can fix that right up for you and get you ... (read in full...)
Many friends told me to forget it but I am thinking of her all the time....
Q. Topic started when I saw a girl in the university about a year ago .. From the first moment I felt it was a different girl .. We did not talk a lot just to say hello as colleagues .. She had a lot of friends and was very popular within the ...
A. 13 July 2011: i'm sorry man, but i agree with your friends. it's that time to move on and let her go. if you keep persisting and calling, you'll cross the line into stalker zone. hell, she may even have thought it very stalkerish of you to drive all the way to ... (read in full...)
I just have no idea how to approach a woman that I'm attracted to!
Q. I'm 21 years old, and have never had a girlfriend. I grew up in literally the middle of nowhere, with nobody my own age within miles of me - the closest was my brother, 5 years my junior. I had very little contact with other kids due to this, and ...
A. 13 July 2011: no matter what you do, do it with CONFIDENCE. confidence is key. but there's a fine line between confident and arrogant. make sure you don't come across as an arrogant ass.
i've always found making people laugh loosens them up really quickly.... (read in full...)
I thought it was normal to masturbate?
Q. so the other day i was playing never have i ever with my friends. we are all 15 and we are like the more popular girls in school. a few have them have had sex and everyone else has been fingered. anyways someone said "never have i ever mastraba...
A. 13 July 2011: LIARS!! all liars! lol. they clearly all did the same thing as you and looked around before deciding NOT to put their finger down. believe me, it's normal and they are lying.... (read in full...)
He misunderstood my texts and now wants to break up with me!
Q. On Monday Fourth of July, I sent my bf of 8mths. a text saying I was drinking at a friends house and that her bf was there. So my bf thought right away that I was cheating that I was with a friend of my friends bf. But the thing is it was a joke I ...
A. 13 July 2011: i would dump your ass too. lesson learned: don't try to say hurtful things to your boyfriend to get a rise out of him to gauge how much he loves you. never a good idea. ... (read in full...)
My fiance is demanding I have a DNA test, even though I only cheated once back in 2010!
Q. Dear cupid, Me and my fiance are expecting our 1st baby. He wants a DNA test, just because I messed around just 1 time and that was last year (2010)! IT'S A NEW YEAR! I mean, he's actually "insisting" that i get a DNA test... I just got pregnant...
A. 7 July 2011: i would just do it to humor him if you have no concerns... nothing to worry about, right?
believe me, once someone cheats, it's hard to get that out of your head.... (read in full...)
To model topless? Or to reduce them?
Q. hey people. So basically i am a very petite 5"2 brunette with 32dd breasts. I have two offers on the table to do topless modelling. A couple of years ago i wanted to do it, but now, i hate my boobs. they just look ridiculous on me and i am seriously ...
A. 5 July 2011: simple: do the modelling for a year or two, make lots of money, and then quit and get a reduction. DONE DEAL.... (read in full...)
He said I was playing games but I really do like him and I want him back!
Q. I feel really silly doing this but I don't no what else to do.. Sooo here it goes. I work part time as a barmaid in my local pub, and Friday just gone I worked a late shift as we had a big family reunion party in the Pub, and all night long a guy ...
A. 5 July 2011: i could be wrong...but maybe you really lucked out. this guy could have been a total creep. surely any guy should understand your discomfort in going to a heavily wooded area alone for a first date...
i wouldn't call him or text him anymore.... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend is 6 years younger than me.....his mum is only 10 years older than me......is this morally wrong?
Q. Ive fallen head over heels for a guy who is 6 years younger than me. Ive just turned 28 and he is 21 almost 22. We are both crazy about each other. I am worried that this is morrally wrong. His mum is only 10 years older than me. And she wants to ...
A. 5 July 2011: nah it's not morally wrong at all. she just had him at a young age, that's all. no biggie. i wouldn't worry at all. good luck.... (read in full...)
I accidentally kicked a ball in my GF's face while playing football! Now she won't talk to me!
Q. Two weeks back while playing soccer, my shot on goal hit my girlfriend on face, she was standing close to goalpost, which left her in extreme pain and swelling. It was an incident and I made apology but she made issue of it and dumped saying that I ...
A. 3 July 2011: she must think you have some great aim!!!... (read in full...)
I try rationalizing it in my head but her horrified response really messed with my head. Opinions? Anything?
Q. Alright, I don't know what to think here. I'll make it short, but I dated this guy and things just did not work out for several reasons, but we're still attracted to each other and have remained great friends since our break up. He calls me his ...
A. 26 June 2011: if you're happy and he's happy...who cares?? as long as no one is getting hurt. nothing to feel bad about whatsoever.... (read in full...)
Is my gf still in love with her ex??
Q. I can't stop thinking my gf is still in love with her ex. They were together for like 3 years. She tells me she's not and that she loves me but she has told me she wants me to meet him (wtf--why?) And I said I didn't want to. She hung out with him ...
A. 25 June 2011: how long have you and your girl been together? if she just broke up with this guy and you two just got together, i'd be concerned. but if you've been with this girl for a good while now and this ex is from a long time ago, i wouldn't worry about it ... (read in full...)
Why does my BF says he misses me but makes no effort to see me?
Q. hey guys, on the weekends usually my partner and i will see each other on either a friday and saturday or a sat and sunday. tonight (fri) he decided to hang with his friends. around 10pm tonight he msged asking what i was up to and said he was...
A. 24 June 2011: in a relationship, the most important thing you can do, in my opinion, is match up your actions with your words. if someone says they miss me, yet are making absolutely NO effort to see me, i know that what they're saying is just words with no ... (read in full...)
She created a fake Facebook account and now it has all blown up in her face! What should I say to her?
Q. Hi! I have a problem that I'm really hoping some of you could help. You see, my best friend who also happens to be my super huge crush has fallen head over heels for one of my friends. Yes, I was a little sad, but I got over it. After a few ...
A. 24 June 2011: you need to tell her this: GROW UP.... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but I think I am only attracted to girls, what should I do?
Q. I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years. The problem is, however, that I'm attracted to girls. Originally I simply assumed that I was bi, but I'm realizing that I'm no longer attracted to my boyfriend. I love him and care about him, but I'm not ...
A. 24 June 2011: you should break up with him.. of course, that's easier said than done. but if you're not into men, why pretend? you're only hurting yourself, and stringing him along.... (read in full...)
Is this guy just faking poverty or does divorce really affect dads this badly so far down the line?
Q. A question to people, especially men, who are more than 3 years post divorce. How come a guy would still be struggling financially at that time to the extent that he can’t afford to rent the most basic apartment or run his car? This is assuming ...
A. 24 June 2011: i don't know about in your country, but in mine, the cost of child support for some men can be out the roof if the ex puts them through the ringer, like a lot of women do. so it's definitely possible he's really hurting for money.... (read in full...)
Is there something going on with this so called friend of his? I made fun of her on Facebook and now my boyfriend is mad, should I take all the blame?
Q. There is this girl that I hate very much... I met her a year ago in not so pleasant incident. She is a friend of my bf but it all started when I found out that she has been flirting with my bf for a long time and I wasn't aware of it. Early last ...
A. 24 June 2011: was it childish to do what you did? yeah, of course. but since your boyfriend's not handling the situation appropriately, it forced you to act irrationally. he needs to tell this girl to back off. the respectful/decent thing would be to cut her out ... (read in full...)
Wife has suspicious browser history. Should I be worried of an affair?
Q. My wife and I spend almost all of our time together. I set my work schedule so that I go in to work late. We usually spend our mornings together eating breakfast, running errands, and taking walks together before I head to work. She then takes ca...
A. 19 June 2011: that's a really tough one. best to just ask her straight out. because while yes, those do sound somewhat questionable, there could also be some very reasonable explanations for them. hell, if i went through my browser right now, i'd probably find ... (read in full...)
I had to cancel a date so now he cancelled a date! Is he losing interest?
Q. Ive met this guy online and we've been on one date, I was meant to see him yesterday but I had to rearrange to today. After i had rearranged it with him, he was being really blunt and short and even ignored some of our texts which makes me think ...
A. 17 June 2011: sounds more to me like he's being vendictive. he assumed you cancelled because you weren't interested or because you didn't care. and not he's getting back at you and acting uninterested and cancelling, too. sounds like he's a giant baby, if you ask ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my girlfriend, in love with the other woman and my girlfriend is pregnant!
Q. I am in a sad situation and don't know what to do. In October of last year I met a woman on the internet. We started seeing each other and things were going well. I thought I was falling in love with her. Then a monkey wrench came alone in the form ...
A. 17 June 2011: is it possible that your girlfriend is lying about being pregnant? is it possible she's using this as a ploy to keep you around? maybe she's sensed that something's wrong and sensed that you may leave her. i know it's terrible, but this definitely ... (read in full...)
BF upset younger sister is having a baby. Anything I can say to help?
Q. Well I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 38. Yes I know it's a big age difference but we've been together for over a year and a half and he is the love of my life. He has an older sister, a younger sister and an older brother. Obviously his older siblings ...
A. 16 June 2011: so really the question is about your boyfriend being upset because he's the only sibling left of the bunch without children? and how do you comfort him? does that sound right? being 38, unmarried, and without kids doesn't make someone's life a... (read in full...)
Crush "technically single." What does this mean?
Q. There's this guy who I really like , thing is I fell for him before realizing he was taken.. He never spoke about his gf in group conversations or never hinted he was taken .. I've recently became his friend on fb and we chat sometimes about ...
A. 16 June 2011: technically single means: "i'm technically a douchebag."
whatever the situation is, you don't want to be a part of it, believe me. either she dumped him and he's upset, and just looking for some quick rebound ass and he knows you like him, or ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has short fuse. Is it me? Please help me understand
Q. Hi there. My bf and I have been together for 18 months. Things are okay but I have one issue with him, his temper. He has a really bad temper and loses his cool really easily. He is not violent and I don’t think he ever would be but I struggle with ...
A. 16 June 2011: first and foremost, i'm sorry about your problem. if he's unwilling to go to a counselor, there's only three other things you can do, that i can think of. 1.) you can ask him if he believes this is something he wants to work on and overcome on ... (read in full...)
I left my wife for her and now she won't even respond to my calls!
Q. Recently I have been the one having the affair and it lasted 2 and a half years. The person in question is 15 years younger than me. She asked me so many times to leave my partner and child. I was unhappy at home but found it very difficult to leave ...
A. 16 June 2011: i'm not trying to be an asshole, but karma's a bitch. you cheated on your wife for that long and now it came back and kicked you in the ass when you least expected it.
my advice to you is to learn from this awful mistake. learn to be a better p... (read in full...)
Is it bad for my guy to come to my place everyday?
Q. This may sound funny and stupid,but you need to help me out. Am in university and i stay in off campus,but my guy which i met stays in hostels,he don't know how to cook so he bought all the things for cooking and brought it to my lodge. So i do the ...
A. 16 June 2011: i'm not sure i understand the logic in why it's not okay for him to come to your place? what's the problem with that. don't listen to that guy. he has no clue what he's talking about. if you two are happy, don't change a thing.... (read in full...)
Is my mom being ridiculous or am I?
Q. My mom hasn't cooked dinner in over three months. If she does, its one day out of the week and the leftovers are expected to tide us over until she next cooks. Since she doesn't grocery shop often enough, I end up buying all my food or just not ...
A. 16 June 2011: it really depends on the circumstances in my opinion. since you're american and 19, you've graduated from high school. so my question: are you about to attend college or are you just free loading at this point? if you've graduated high school and ... (read in full...)
Is it true that the one who cares the least has the most power in a relationship?
Q. they say the one that cares the least has the most power- is this true? Boy, am i in trouble. I care the most....
A. 16 June 2011: absolutely, yes. ... (read in full...)
He is asking my permission to cheat on me (special occasion)
Q. We are dating for around a year now and we still haven't "done it". Well, that's all just because I can't, my mom is really strict (i mean it) and if she said no in that kind of thing, it means "don't do it or i'll kill you both". Well, he under...
A. 16 June 2011: uhhh...really? lol. i can't believe you're entertaining this idea. if he needs to stick his dick in something that bad, tell him to find another girlfriend. i can't believe he asked you that. HE ASKED YOU IF HE COULD CHEAT ON YOU. it's that simple. ... (read in full...)
How can I trust him when he puts a security lock on his phone?
Q. I've been with this man for 7yrs which I have experienced everything from cheating, verbally and physical abuse which he say's he has never given me a black eye but tried chokin me twice..go figure!! Which thank god the last time he put his hands on ...
A. 16 June 2011: you know it, i know it, we all know it. he's shady as hell. i'm sorry, but if he's not doing anything he needs to hide then there's no reason to lock his phone, end of story, just like you said. there have been times the person i'm with has asked me ... (read in full...)
Multiple orgasms must be amazing - WHY don't women want to have sex all day?
Q. Ever since I was with my first "serious" girlfriend, I've envied womens' ability to have multiple orgasms. When she got going, she'd have one after another with only a few seconds (if that) in between for a couple minutes, I'd have my one "little" ...
A. 14 June 2011: "As a guy, I find orgasms so pleasurable that I think I'd just keep doing it all day every day if I could." haha, this is EXACTLY why men weren't granted the ability to have multiple orgasms and women were. men already can't stop thinking about s... (read in full...)
My GF wants me to please her, but when it comes to me, if its anything to do with my penis...she just acts like its gross!!
Q. Hey guys, first off im not a pushy guy when it comes to sexual things so im not into "forcing"anything. My girlfriend loves for me to go down on her, however she never wants to return the favor...she'll tell me she will, but when the time comes, ...
A. 13 June 2011: don't take this the wrong way, but how is it down there? do you trim? take regular baths and extra precautions to be clean down there? the only thing i can think of if she's done it to other guys but not you is something to do with hygiene. and she ... (read in full...)
I still do love her. And I do want her back. So how can I get her to come back to me?
Q. hey my ex broke up with me 2 months ago and we were together for 1 year and a half. Tomorrow is the last day of school. but she completely changed. now all she does is hang around the people I'm jealous of, she sings a lot now and she only sang in ...
A. 10 June 2011: sounds like she's not over you yet. far from it. for her to still be outwardly making snide comments for you to over-hear at school, and liking comments like that on facebook tells me one thing. she's trying to hurt you because she's not over you. ... (read in full...)
My first relationship was controlling -- how to get past it?
Q. Hi.. i know my situation is complicated but bare with me please.Ok im 16 and 6 months back i was seeing a guy for 1 yr and 4 months we meet through a prank call ironic i know but he knew my best friend at the time he was new.Problem was my best ...
A. 10 June 2011: first and most importantly, you didn't change him and make him what he is today. believe me when i say that's who he was all along, you just didn't see it. eventually after being with you for a while and getting really attached to you, his true ... (read in full...)
Who's in charge of the baby, me or my parents?
Q. I'm 16 years old and have a 2 month old son, me and his father are still together. My parents act like the baby is theirs and like they can make decisions that pertain to him. I'm very responsible and I do everything for my son, my boyfriend (his ...
A. 9 June 2011: i'm sorry, i misunderstood you. your boyfriend, who is the father of your child, supports you. in which case changes my answer completely. i believe you two should have complete say so in the raising of your child. unfortunately, parents have a ... (read in full...)
Who's in charge of the baby, me or my parents?
Q. I'm 16 years old and have a 2 month old son, me and his father are still together. My parents act like the baby is theirs and like they can make decisions that pertain to him. I'm very responsible and I do everything for my son, my boyfriend (his ...
A. 9 June 2011: i respectfully disagree. i think if his father is supporting you, he has every bit of right to decide what he feels is best. once you and your boyfriend support yourselves, that's when you have every bit of say. but until then, i'm assuming he sees ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my head or my heart?
Q. I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of 6 months and this time I think for good. This was my first serious relationship. I broke up with her 3 times and I know she will not come back. Problem is I still feel very attached to her. Like I lost ...
A. 9 June 2011: here's the thing. it's so easy to go back to what you know because it's comfortable. it's instant gratification. we could break off a bad relationship and go through the initial hurt of the loss and eventually be okay and move on, or we could start ... (read in full...)
Is she leading me on for something more even though she knows we're friends?
Q. I went to a club with a group of friends and one of them was a woman. The group was dancing but later on me and the woman ended up dancing, just me and her. We haven't known each other for very long (about a month) and she started grind dancing ...
A. 7 June 2011: i wouldn't read too much into it. dancing is just dancing for a lot of people. if she was hanging all over you the entire night i would be inclined to say otherwise. was she? does she have a tendency to flirt with you outside of this dancing? ... (read in full...)
With a married man...
Q. Hi, I'm with a married man...he's five years older than me, he's very cute and I really like him. It all started from when he came to my house to fix the meter, he told me to get some fuses and plain panels, he wrote them down on a paper and he ...
A. 6 June 2011: very simple. you leave. CLEARLY you are not his first priority. that won't change. he's married. his wife is his first priority. he's making that crystal clear.
when he doesn't text you back, it's because he's busy with her. when he goes home, he... (read in full...)
I Don't appreciate family's racist remarks. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, So, here's my problem. I'm of white-Asian heritage and my (white) father's family is racist. In the past, they've made derogatory remarks about my "dark" features, and tend to make a lot of negative generalizations about As...
A. 5 June 2011: wow that is really obnoxious. honestly, most people who are that full of prejudice and hate have been raised as such and it's so engrained into their way of thinking, that it's hard at best to get them to change their way of thinking. the only ... (read in full...)
He has two kids by two different women
Q. Do you think it's bad if a man has two kids by two women ?. I have just met this man, and he has a 12 year old son with one woman, and a one year old daughter with another woman. He is single at the moment though. I don't have any children. I'm not ...
A. 2 June 2011: no i don't think it's bad. but that's just me. i have no children, but the person i'm with has a son from a previous relationship and i love him like my own. so i see it as a blessing rather than a bad thing.
i mean, don't get me wrong. i unders... (read in full...)
Is he gay and if not, is he dateable?
Q. I know a good looking, cultured, intelligent, highly educated, employed guy in his 40s. I am very attracted to him. However, he is kind of effeminate. He could be a metro. I found out that he lives with another guy and that they have lived ...
A. 2 June 2011: lol there's really no way of knowing unless you come right out and ask. him having been married twenty years ago definitely doesn't make him straight. in fact, there's probably currently lots of people who are still married and secretly gay. just ... (read in full...)
Is he gay and if not, is he dateable?
Q. I know a good looking, cultured, intelligent, highly educated, employed guy in his 40s. I am very attracted to him. However, he is kind of effeminate. He could be a metro. I found out that he lives with another guy and that they have lived ...
A. 26 April 2011: it's possible. but i'm willing to bet my left arm still that he's gay. ... (read in full...)
Is he gay and if not, is he dateable?
Q. I know a good looking, cultured, intelligent, highly educated, employed guy in his 40s. I am very attracted to him. However, he is kind of effeminate. He could be a metro. I found out that he lives with another guy and that they have lived ...
A. 24 April 2011: this guy has GOT to be gay. and to answer your two questions: 1. was he hinting at being gay since he's in a similar situation? YES. haha. 2. if you weren't gay, would you let your colleagues continue to think you were? most definitely not. i... (read in full...)
Is he gay and if not, is he dateable?
Q. I know a good looking, cultured, intelligent, highly educated, employed guy in his 40s. I am very attracted to him. However, he is kind of effeminate. He could be a metro. I found out that he lives with another guy and that they have lived ...
A. 22 April 2011: who cares if he hasn't lived on his own? he sounds gay though, but that's just my opinion. i mean, just how effeminate are we talking? yes some men are metro. but there's a fine line between metro and just flat out gay. if he's super effeminate... (read in full...)
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