Everybody knew about my boyfriend's pregnant girlfriend but me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and I just recently found out that not only has he been cheating on me for years but the girl is now pregnant. The reason I found out was because a friend of the family told me. When I asked him ...
A. 3 March 2013: the silver lining out of all of this, if there is one, is that at least you never got pregnant and got stuck with this guy permanently, also. or at least you didn't say that you two have any kids together, so i'm assuming you don't.
there... (read in full...)
Is my relationship to a married female coworker too close?
Q. Hi all, I'm a 26 year old single male and there's a female married coworker (a newly wed) a couple of years older than me. We have become good friends and we call each other BFFs. We have lunch together alone pretty much everyday and always sit n...
A. 2 March 2013: well you say you view her like an older sister and she is taking you clothes shopping to find you a girlfriend, so it sounds to me like she views you like a younger brother.
it also sounds like her hubby is well informed about you (which doesn't ... (read in full...)
How can I get my mother to let me stay with my boyfriend at his father's house?
Q. Hi!! Well I'm 19 years old, I'll be 20 in few months, and my bf of 2 years is 22 and we both attend to the same college. My mother has always been overprotective, and she's very strict with permissions. Maybe you'd say I'm old enough to decide w...
A. 2 March 2013: hi there.
the only sure way that you'll get to do what you want when you want: move out and support yourself.
i know you say it's not feasible right now, and it might not be. but honestly, that's the only way to get your mother off your back. s... (read in full...)
Guy I like did not mention he had a girlfriend after I told him my feelings for him?
Q. There is a guy I like at school. I assumed he was single as I never see him with anyone, he's alone most of the time. I am absolutely smitten over this guy, and I confessed this to him. He was flattered and seemed very happy about this. The more we ...
A. 2 March 2013: Just let him know that if he ever decides to end his relationship or if they don't work out for whatever reason, that you'd be interested if you're still single. But definitely back off a bit. You don't want to be that girl, as you've said. Good ... (read in full...)
Didn't think he was the cheating type but I've caught him in lies and strange women answering his voice in the early am!
Q. I feel like im going insane. I do. I come from a conservative family and always thought I would be with (in regards to sex) one man. I like about the idea of only knowing one person intimately and vice versa. Me and my current boyfriend wen...
A. 2 March 2013: ohhhhh okay, with that little tid bit of info, he definitely was cheating on you. wow. i'm sorry, sweetheart. keep us updated on how it turns out.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is terrible in bed - will he ever get better?
Q. Hello! So, I am starting a serious relationship for the first time, and I want it to work. I am, however, very unsatisfied with my boyfriend's sexual performance, and I need some good help because I tried what I could and that didn't work. I will e...
A. 1 March 2013: i can't lie, that was probably the funniest post i've read on here. ever.
he sounds hopeless. lol.... (read in full...)
If I'm not good enough for my girlfriend then why didn't she just let us stay broken up?
Q. I found out my girl of 2 years was talking sexual to guys from dating sites. It caused us to break up and she begged me to go back to her. She admitted it was stupid and said it was not for sexual reasons, but teasing and flirting with them just for ...
A. 1 March 2013: she's clearly lying and cheating. let her keep her phone off and ignore you. you don't need this girl. she's not worth it.
one thing i can't stand about cheaters? they make YOU feel like you're the one at fault. you catch her cheating and ask her ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's actions with a male friend early on have made me wonder if I can trust her?
Q. My girlfriend and i started dating 2 and a half years ago. At the beginning of the relationship, within the first 3 months, she became very close to a guy. They made matching t-shirts and a whole bunch of lame stuff i'm sure they thought was cute. ...
A. 1 March 2013: you say she didn't cheat on you, but yes she did. just because she didn't physically sleep with him (which there's no way to know for sure never happened), she certainly emotionally cheated.
this would bother me greatly. the beginning of a relati... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gives her phone number out to other guys and texts them!
Q. My Girlfriend and I have been dating for about two months now. I dont talk to any other girls but she talks to other guys. what pissed me off to get mad at her and write this was she said something like "why wont this guy leave me alone, I dont want ...
A. 1 March 2013: i disagree with the notion that it's okay for her to give her number to random guys who approach her. that's never acceptable, if you ask me.
having male friends is one thing, but having a random guy come up and ask for her number and she has neve... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable or reasonable to have a crush on someone else whilst in a committed longterm relationship?
Q. Hi everyone. I basically just wanted to ask if it is ever acceptable or reasonable to have feelings for someone else (or a "crush", for want of a better word) whilst in a committed, long term relationship? Would this mean that the current rela...
A. 28 February 2013: i think that you're human. with that, comes along with these damn hormones and phermones that make us find other people attractive. now, with that being said, i believe there is a large, drastic difference between finding someone attractive and ... (read in full...)
Does he actually like me and wants me to stick around?
Q. Basically I was seeing a guy I started to like to be honest he's the first guy iv liked for ages. We got on really well I met his family an he told me I'm the first girl he's brought to his familys house since his ex. He was really nice to me did t...
A. 28 February 2013: i think this guy is messing with your head. i know that's not the answer you're looking for and want to hear. but i think he just wants you to want him.
if he liked you, you would know. he would make you a top priority. and not only that, but he w... (read in full...)
Now that she's got a boyfriend, she doesn't shut up about him!
Q. Hello everyone I have a very good friend and she recently got into a relationship with her boyfriend but now that she's with him she doesn't shut up about him! How can I politely tell her to stop talking about him so much. Practically every time we ...
A. 28 February 2013: people tend to do this a lot when they really like someone. it's just kind of human nature. when you are freshly in a new relationship and in the honeymoon stage, and you just can't stop thinking about them, they're always on your mind and ... (read in full...)
Would you apologise again or just leave things as they are?
Q. Long story short, I made a bit of an ass of myself at my friend's 40th birthday party at the weekend. We all got together on Saturday and spent the weekend together, I only really know the husband and wife who were giving the party, the other...
A. 28 February 2013: well it's probably too late now and you've probably already gone, but i would say something. it couldn't hurt. i think face-to-face talks are a lot more personal and meaningful than an impersonal e-mail. it could only make things better.... (read in full...)
Girl flirting with my boyfriend at party, and then friending him on Facebook.
Q. My boyfriend and I were at a birthday party at a house a few weeks ago. We met a mutual friend of one of the birthday girls for the first time, a female about our age. At first she seemed really nice and we were both chatting with her. Then ...
A. 28 February 2013: honestly, it sounds like you have something to worry about.
him removing his friends list when he friended this woman wasn't a coinsidence. he did it so that you wouldn't know. in other words, he's being deceptive .. and also not very smart ab... (read in full...)
B/f can't text me during the work day yet he's on facebook?
Q. I've posted about this before on this site, however the problem is still continuing. Every time I text my bf while we're both at work he just completely ignores me, yet he's on facebook posting statuses, liking pictures, just doing whatever. He ...
A. 28 February 2013: no offense intended, but i think you're being petty. work is for work. yes, he may be on facebook, but that is probably because he is on his work computer.
who cares if he texts you while at work? i don't text at work at all. and neither does my ... (read in full...)
I miss him and don't want to be with anyone else but he doesn't want a relationship
Q. Please Help! I was in a 5year relationship that ended less then a year ago. He actually broke up with me over text because he couldn't face me. The reason our relationship failed was bc I wanted to get married and he didn't. Marriage scared ...
A. 28 February 2013: it sounds to me that if you're dead set on wanting to get married and he's dead set on not ever getting married, there's not a whole lot of room to budge here.
i think you keep hoping to change him. that's a problem. some of the best dating/l... (read in full...)
Didn't think he was the cheating type but I've caught him in lies and strange women answering his voice in the early am!
Q. I feel like im going insane. I do. I come from a conservative family and always thought I would be with (in regards to sex) one man. I like about the idea of only knowing one person intimately and vice versa. Me and my current boyfriend wen...
A. 28 February 2013: i know you two shared different values when it came to sex but i guess in my perspective, what he did before you two became an official couple isn't considered cheating. maybe it was distasteful on his behalf, but it really isn't cheating until ... (read in full...)
Her awful childhood has led her to a lot of problems, I don't know whether I should try to help her and stick around. Help?
Q. This is a long winded story but I'm going to try to keep this as brief as possible. I've known my girlfriend for 4 yrs and we have been dating for about 2 months but we started really talking a month before that. Word around town was she was a easy ...
A. 28 February 2013: you need to get away from this girl. and you need to do it quick.
how do you even know all these awful stories she's telling you are true? you said she's a pathelogical liar. how can you trust what a liar is telling you?
i've known people lik... (read in full...)
How long should I date a guy before asking to be exclusive?
Q. I was using an online dating site and met a guy two months ago. He lives in another town about 45 minutes away. We see each other once or twice a week and communicate daily. He has a full time job, goes to school, and has a son. Recently he's been ...
A. 27 February 2013: i'm a firm believer that when the time is right, you'll both feel it and both know.
if the relationship started off well and has somewhat fizzled down to not talking or seeing each other much, it may be slowly on its way out. no can can speculat... (read in full...)
Do I tell my boyfriend about this conversation with my ex?
Q. dear cupids, as silly as the issue may seem yet i need a prompt answer becuase any action that needs to be taken have to happen today. 5min ago my x boyfriend who is with me in the university said hi and his hi continued into a brief of his ne...
A. 27 February 2013: hi there.
well props to you for being incredibly honest, but i don't see anything wrong here at all. you two bumped into each other completely unplanned and shared a few words back and forth. unless i completely missed something, it wasn't a... (read in full...)
We are yin and yang sexually!
Q. my boyfriend just doesnt get me sexually. He likes it hard and fast and athletic and it takes him a very long time to come, I like it soft and slow. I try and guide him but he just takes over!! and Im swore and eager for it to be over :( tried to ...
A. 27 February 2013: i disagree with some of the other comments. i don't think it necessarily means you're completely incompatable and incapable of working out. i just think you two have completely different tastes in bed. which isn't that uncommon. it's just somehow ... (read in full...)
He's confusing me. Has he lost interest in me? Or is his change of approach because he likes me?
Q. I met this guy about 2-3 months ago, and when we first started hanging out I think we hit it off really well. We would spend 2-3 days out of the week together. I usually don't sleep with men so quickly, but for some reason I decided to with him...
A. 27 February 2013: it sounds to me like this guy has lost his interest, for the most part. human behavior is quite simple. where there's a will, there's a way. he would find time for you, despite being busy, if he was interested enough.
if i were you, i'd just cut... (read in full...)
We broke up but it hurts so much. If I leave it too long, to contact her, will she will settle in with her new choice?
Q. So i was in this wonderfull relationship, with my girlfriend for 2 years, We are both in our 20s Over the past couple months our relationship has gotten worse. We were not very close, i tried to do what i could but i guess it wasn't enough or the r...
A. 27 February 2013: i believe you posted on here a couple of weeks ago about the first initial break up and how you two got back together. if you are not this same person, forgive me. if you are, then here is my advice:
this is unfortunately what i expected the outc... (read in full...)
My g/f likes to flash her guy friends just for fun?
Q. My gf likes to flash her guy friends just for fun I don't care but she continueisly says that she feels bad and that she dosent want to do anything that we as a couple don't agree on she asked me if I mind and even though I say I don't care she says ...
A. 27 February 2013: I mean, if you really don't care, I suppose it's not a big deal. Although it is rather a bit odd, if you ask me. I know I wouldn't want anyone else seeing my girlfriend like that. But hey, that's just me. No harm, no foul, I suppose. You don't mind ... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's mind after a breakup? Can they really feel nothing?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, of 2.5 years, a week ago today. I'm struggling to even make it through the day. I'm truly heartbroken. He was the first man I'd ever fallen in love with. He's 34 and I'm 30. The reason I broke it off was because after ...
A. 26 February 2013: I'm so sorry to hear you're going through all that. Just know that it will get better. It always gets better in time. Men don't just not care. Trust me, he's feeling it, too. They just handle things differently. They tend to keep their emotions i... (read in full...)
Is it cheating? I feel horrible and do not know what to do next!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 22 and gay from Germany and its pretty late in the evening but my consience does not let me to go to the bed. I have a boyfriend more than a month now and everything was going perfect. I truely love him and he loves me too. He...
A. 26 February 2013: of course that's cheating. people do make mistakes, but what possessed you to do that? honestly, if you're in a relationship, you really had no business meeting up with some other random guy like that. that just sounds shady in itself. you're s... (read in full...)
52 year old male with 3 late teen daughters seeing a 20 year old woman?
Q. I'm 52 and divorced with three daughters ages 21, 18, 17. I have been seeing a 20 year old woman. My daughters think this is very bad. The 20 year old wants me to choose her over my daughters. I broke it off with the 20 year old because of my ...
A. 25 February 2013: why would you want to be with a "woman" who wants/expects you to choose her over your daughters? you're a father. that comes first and foremost. ALWAYS.
what on earth do you want with a 20 year old??? she's a kid. ... (read in full...)
Is my Bf mean to tell me, "if you wore make up you could look as good as other girls"?
Q. My boyfriend makes me feel insecure then gets mad if I ask questions about him having his exs numbers/if he see's then ect. He confuses me cos he says such sweet things sometimes but then he says things like "if you wore make up you could look as ...
A. 25 February 2013: well i do think that he is somewhat being rather insensitive to an extent. but i also am a firm believer that sometimes it is important to spice things up every once in a while. he stays with you, so i don't doubt he really cares about you. but... (read in full...)
Why isn't she getting back to me after she shows interest?
Q. I got a cute girl's number, we texted, ended up going out and had a great time. She even suggested "grabbing dinner next time." I asked her out again, and she agreed, but she said that she had to check her schedule and get back to me. A couple days ...
A. 25 February 2013: doubtful that she ever will get back. seems to me that she's not that interested. if she were, she wouldn't have to "check her schedule." most people don't just have a super strict schedule that they MUST abide by. and even if she did legitima... (read in full...)
My abusive ex is still controlling my life today.
Q. I was dating this guy a month back, we broke up because my so called 'best friend' was a lying cow and took advantage of his paranoia to break us up then tried to get in there herself. But that's another story. The important thing here is that my ...
A. 25 February 2013: why are you allowing a guy who is not even your boyfriend to control you? not that it would make it okay if he were your boyfriend. but nonetheless.
my mentality on all of these types of things is that he can only be controlling to the extent t... (read in full...)
We have to sneak around because of my boyfriend's best friend. Do I just drop both of them?
Q. i have a man i have been seeing for a three months ..i would not say we are in a relationship because neither one of us has committed however we talk on the phone everyday and i see him often. To make the story simpler though i will call him my ...
A. 25 February 2013: what in the hell? you two are having to sneak around like you're married to this "friend" and having an affair or something. that's insane. you guys need to stop hiding. Tell this dude he's WAY out of line and he needs to stop it immediat... (read in full...)
He's kicked me and threatened to hit me. Will he improve? Is this relationship worth saving?
Q. I am in a committed relationship since 3 years and 7 months. The first 3 years we were in a LDR. Now we both stay in the same city. My bf sometimes behaves very badly with me because he feels that I control his life. I said its nothing like tha...
A. 25 February 2013: wow, you need to get rid of this guy. and quick. he abused you. that's NEVER acceptable, no matter how drunk. being intoxicated is never an excuse to shove someone on the ground and start kicking them.
you can try and justify his behavior... (read in full...)
What can I do to prevent my boyfriends from gaining weight while they are with me?
Q. I have a problem, and it is becoming more noticeable with each relationship I have. The last 3 boyfriends of mine have put on significant amounts of weight. I am talking about 30-40 pounds. Not muscle, pure fat. I want to know what I can do to ...
A. 25 February 2013: that just kinda seems to happen when you get in a committed relationship and settle down. you just kinda stop taking care of yourself as well as when you're single.
do you cook for them a lot? if so, cook healthier meals. if you don't cook for... (read in full...)
How do I tell my soulmate that I can't be with her?
Q. There is really only one question that I have, how do I tell the woman I love, the woman I feel is my soulmate, that I cannot be with her?...
A. 24 February 2013: that's the most vague question ever. why can't you be with her? ... (read in full...)
After reading my boyfriend's messages he doesn't think I'm hot enough?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over half a year, today I checked his Facebook not because I don't trust him. Jus because he told me of an old friend who messaged him recently from Spain, I was interested and so decided to read it, I ...
A. 24 February 2013: this is EXACTLY why you don't ever go through each other's personal stuff. because sometimes, people say things they don't necessarily mean, or vent when they are upset and say things out of anger, etc. i'm certain you've done the same. perhaps ... (read in full...)
How do you cut someone you see frequently out of your life?
Q. I need to cut someone out of my life because I believe that is the only way to get them off my mind. I've had a crush on this person for a terribly long time and they give less than a damn about me. They may not be aware that I still like them (I do ...
A. 24 February 2013: to be quite honest, you may just continue to have this crush on this guy until you move on and develop feelings for someone else. sometimes it happens like that.
since seeing him is unavoidable, i would just give it a bit more time and just kno... (read in full...)
Do you think this girl at the store likes me? or has a crush on me?
Q. There’s this girl I always see at the store, she always smiles at me and asks me if I found everything ok.....and she just keeps smiling at me and staring.... Well a few days ago I seen her and I got into another lane and she was there, but at a dif...
A. 24 February 2013: there's really no way to tell of course, unless we could sit there and observe the two of you interacting together. but it sounds like a definitely possibility.
why not casually ask if she's on facebook next time you're in line at her register... (read in full...)
He broke my hear, yet he won't leave me alone. What are my options in this situation?
Q. My boyfriend of two years decided a week before christmas break was over and he went back to school that he wanted a break because he feels we are too young to be tied down. He's in his second year of college and I get that he feels that he hasn'...
A. 24 February 2013: i understand where you're coming from completely. for me, once i seperate from someone, i cannot speak to them, or see them, or have anything to do with them or i will never get over them. once i take an adequate amount of time and get over them, i ... (read in full...)
Is stress a reasonable excuse for my girlfriend to be distant and snappy?
Q. Girls... If a girlfriend is acting kind of distant, seems to avoid deep or touchy subjects, etc. is it a reasonable excuse to say that she's highly stressed out about other things in life? And that because of that she needs you (the guy) to und...
A. 23 February 2013: i understand exactly where you're coming from. i balanced full time school, full-time athletics (soccer), full time relationship, and part time internship in college - with EASE. it's hard for me to relate to people who stress so easily about thi... (read in full...)
Why does he randomly contact me when we only met once over 2 years ago?
Q. I met this guy (I will refer to him as B) almost two years ago when I went to my best friend's beach house. B and I lived in the same city but we both happened to be at the beach at the same time. We really hit it off and we flirted back and forth ...
A. 23 February 2013: i mean no disrespect, but truthfully, i think you're a good way for him to pass the time. if he's bored, he'll constantly text you. then if he finds something better to do, he'll forget all about it.
seems to me you shouldn't worry or think to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother swore at me!
Q. I was at my bf's home this other day with him til his mom appeared and she started swearing at me in not many words saying that i am a bitch i sleep with boys and obviously showing that i am not good for his son....so it is haunting me i cannot do ...
A. 23 February 2013: there's definitely not enough details on this post to be able to give any sufficient advice.
did you sleep with him and she found out or something? what caused this outburst?
i'm sorry you're going through this.... (read in full...)
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