Why does my male friend treat me differently from his other friends?
Q. Hi everyone. Can you help me figure out why this guy seems to treat me differently from our other friends. We hang out in a group of friends. I see him checking me out all the time from across the room or looking at my butt etc. He smile...
A. 13 February 2013: if he's in a relationship, it makes perfect sense, seeing as how his friends would know he's in a relationship. so he goes out of his way to keep them in the dark about being attracted to you. he probably doesn't want his friends to see him flirting ... (read in full...)
I found out accidentally that my friend is transgender. How can I help her?
Q. This is more of a question on friendships rather than relationships, but I didn't know where else to go to for advice. Basically tonight I done something I shouldn't have, I went on to my friends email account- totally innocently to resend an email...
A. 13 February 2013: i'm assuming she's female to male? or is she male to female? not that it really matters, i was just curious. my roommate is transgendered. well .. somewhat. i think she would like to fully transition to male, but i don't believe she's quite read... (read in full...)
Do girls speak with their actions not their words? I'm confused!
Q. I have a complex question or to me its complex. I have no idea where i stand maybe someone can help me? I am 20 years old. I have been with this amazing girl for 2 years. We both are in school. She started last September me just last week in Feb...
A. 13 February 2013: I don't think your girlfriend knows exactly how she feels. I think the logical part of her thinks you two aren't right for each other and you're too different. so i think she convinced herself she needed to break up with you. but when she actually... (read in full...)
Is she playing games or is she not interested?
Q. So I met this girl online a year or two ago. Long time, anyways, we just casually chatted for all that time and I wasn't really into her, I just wanted to be a friend to her. She's a shy type and I supposed she wanted me to ask her out but I never ...
A. 13 February 2013: she doesn't have a game, bro. lol. she's just not interested. women attempt to come across subtly when they're not interested so that they don't have to be a bitch. it wasn't a coinsidence she was always holding things in her hand. it was strategi... (read in full...)
I don't want to be a fool for taking my ex back but I don't want to abandon him either! I don't know what to do
Q. My ex and I split from 3 years together because I found out he cheated on me over a year ago (several times) and has been inappropriately messaging other girls ever since. We've been talking since we split, and even hoped to be able to patch things ...
A. 13 February 2013: first of all, you are NOT to blame for his infidelity. Relationships go through rough patches sometimes. that's absolutely no excuse to run out and sleep with someone else or emotionally cheat. it's how we choose to handle these rough patches ... (read in full...)
Is he going to ask me to marry him? how would I know ahead of time if he is intending marriage?
Q. Is he going to pop the question....soon? Well here it is again he refers to my mom as MIL His mom gave me pictures of when he was little; he's asked me if he can be my daughters step dad? He's always talks of our future selling his current home...
A. 12 February 2013: It does sound like he's dropping hints left and right. However, you said he tells you that he doesn't want to ever get married cause you're doing just fine without it. So maybe all of this is his way of building a life with you without actually ... (read in full...)
I know I must move on from him. But I need help on how to love on please?
Q. How can I move on from a straight-gay men relationship? I've had this boyfriend whom I loved so much (till now). We were friends for like 3 years. We study in the same University and we both belong to the same section. He was one of ...
A. 12 February 2013: I'm so sorry this happened to you. I know that must be hard. it sounds to me like he really cared a lot about you and always had a little thing for you, even before anything ever happened. Because I don't know many straight men who act like what you ... (read in full...)
Guy at work who I really like. But we both have partners. Due to his actions should I change what I wear, so he does not get distracted?
Q. Hi well this is my first post on here so here it goes. There is this guy at work, whom I really like, but we are both with people. We have been flirting even though a friend has told me he's not worth it. Well today as I was walking out the o...
A. 12 February 2013: Well if you don't like the attention, you need to TELL HIM. Not just be subtle about it and hope he gets the hint. That's the problem with women sometimes. We don't like to be vocal about the things we have every right to be vocal about. You ... (read in full...)
Was my Bf out of line for objecting to the discussions I had with my best girlfriend who is newly married?
Q. My best friend got married recently. I had a text chat with her regarding her sexual life and she told me about the things that happened between her and her husband. My boyfriend saw those chats and started fighting with me that how can I talk l...
A. 12 February 2013: Hell no you didn't do anything wrong. That's what having close female friends are for! Maybe the details of it all made him insecure that you talk about your sex life with him to others with such detail. And maybe it embarrassed him. Is he a rea... (read in full...)
Woman I met on a lesbian dating site is actually bisexual and married! How could she be so deceitful, and should I confront her?
Q. I'm a lesbian and a few months back I joined a lesbian dating site. Shortly thereafter a member contacted me and expressed an interest in me. I was impressed with how she presented herself, what she conversated about. I have since taken a fond ...
A. 12 February 2013: I've experienced this crap one too many times. It's ridiculous if you ask me. Why people can't just be normal and honest, I have no idea. If i were you, i'd send her a message and tell her you found out she's been lying. Call her out and then let... (read in full...)
How will I ever find a nice guy to date with all this crap that people are led to believe from advertising?
Q. Sorry if this seems like a rant, but honestly, I'm just so upset/angry. I'm not exactly the biggest fan of men, just because I'm friends with men, so I hear all of the "Oh, my girlfriend is hot.. OMG that girl over there would so get it!" constan...
A. 12 February 2013: from my personal experience, men are more into physical stimulation/appearance (ie: looks), while women are more into emotional/mental stimulation (ie: personality). and it's not necessarily a good thing or a bad thing, either way. it's just a ... (read in full...)
I've never been with a girl before and now don't know how to proceed with her? She's stopped replying to my messages.
Q. Hey everyone! I'm in need of some advice, thanks for your help in advance! I've been messaging with a girl for a few months now. I've actually never been with a girl before, but for some reason she and I seemed to connect from the very first secon...
A. 12 February 2013: typically if people are interested, they'll make an effort to contact you back. it's hard to imagine she wouldn't text you if she wanted to pursue you.
it couldn't hurt to send her another text. worst case, she doesn't respond and you have you... (read in full...)
I have a phobia of being left behind or abandoned. Nothing I've tried is helping, and I'm afraid it is going to tear my relationship apart.
Q. I have a phobia of being left behind or abandoned, and it immensely effects many of my relationship. My current girlfriend, was originally my best friend for three years and on the fourth year she asked me out. When she goes out with her family, ...
A. 11 February 2013: well since you've tried therapy, i'm sure you're aware of attachment styles. but in the instance you aren't, i'll go ahead and explain them. there's 3 types and they are developed in infancy: 1. secure. secure children feel confident that t... (read in full...)
Are my own actions becoming part of the problem in our relationship? I don't want to lose him. What should I do?
Q. I have so many trust issue, that it is going into my relationship with the person I am in love with. I really want to marry this man, but i find my self pushing him away from me. I have been hurt so much in my life and i have hurt him. i think he...
A. 11 February 2013: to begin, you are NOT crazy. you've had experiences in your life that have conditioned and reinforced your fear of trusting others. it's normal when people lie, cheat and deceive you over and over again to not trust others that follow suit. i ... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to be turned on by a girl because she did porn or sleeps with men for money?
Q. hi, i was talking to a friend of mine and he was saying how he was interested in this girl, and said that she once performed in a few adult videos and still does some escort work. Its a little beyond my stuff I'm used to so i was pretty surprised...
A. 11 February 2013: it seems perfectly healthy because he DOES like her for who she is. she's not sugar coating anything and she's not lying about her background. there's nothing wrong with that. i could completely see where he's coming from, also. i could personally ... (read in full...)
I just noticed my exgirlfriend got very thin and I think she looks amazing...is it because she broke up with me?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend just over a month ago and I saw her last night and she's always been a skinny girl, nice weight and her figure in all the time i've known her was just perfect. But last night I saw her out and i noticed she look...
A. 11 February 2013: yeah, stress will do that to you. my first rough break up came when i was 18 and i lost a ton of weight all in about a month span of time. so yeah, that's probably what caused it. but i always was glad for this effect. i always saw it as prepping ... (read in full...)
Did cancelling once mean I missed my chance?
Q. I've been texting back and forth with this guy for ages and he hasn't asked me out more than one time, which I had to reschedule and eventually cancel at extremely short notice when my sat nav wasn't finding our meeting place. I probably should have ...
A. 11 February 2013: i'm sure you didn't miss your chance. he's probably just insecure to ask you again. it's possible he got the impression you weren't interested since you cancelled and just doesn't want to come across as needy. why don't you mention it to him? why ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to him, but now it seems he's ready to move on. Do you think he is breaking up with me?
Q. My boyfriend and dated for two and half months. I loved him and thought he loved me and I lost my virginity to him the second month and three weeks later he sends me a message saying he hasn't been feeling hisself lately and that he is overwhelmed ...
A. 11 February 2013: unfortunately he's breaking up with you. i know you don't want to hear that, and i'm really sorry. but i would be surprised if he got back together with you.
i'm sorry, sweetie. i know it's not easy but i promise you'll be okay and find someone ... (read in full...)
My depressed Gf won't have sex with me. If I say I'm leaving she hurts herself. Should we breakup?
Q. Hello all, I have been with my girlfriend for one year and a half and we live together. The problem I have is she won't have sex with me. The last time we had sex was 7 months ago and I confessed to her that I am considering sleeping with other ...
A. 10 February 2013: you are not at fault and you are not selfish for having needs that aren't being met. and you do NOT need therapy because you're considering breaking up with your girlfriend over a completely reasonable and legitimate issue. you're not married to t... (read in full...)
Should I allow him to "brand" me with a tattoo? He's 24. I know he will not take me back if I refuse.
Q. So, me and this guy have just been through a break up, our relationship was a little rough around the edges mainly because he's 24 and I'm 16. I know I know, forget about the age a second. I'm really desperate to get him back and he says I need to ...
A. 10 February 2013: NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!! oh and did i mention NOOOOOOOOO!!??!!?? not only that, but this guy has some serious problems because i'm sorry, a 24 year old guy has absolutely NO (no seems to be the repetitive theme of this respons... (read in full...)
My depressed Gf won't have sex with me. If I say I'm leaving she hurts herself. Should we breakup?
Q. Hello all, I have been with my girlfriend for one year and a half and we live together. The problem I have is she won't have sex with me. The last time we had sex was 7 months ago and I confessed to her that I am considering sleeping with other ...
A. 10 February 2013: i understand feeling really low because it ultimately makes you feel not only unfulfilled sexually, but unwanted and undesirable emotionally. i'm sorry you're dealing with that. that's literally half of your relationship you've not had sex already!! ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her to give up her sex toys? And consider a real guy like me for sex?
Q. I a year a 25 year old male with a new girlfriend who is 21 years old. We have been going out for about three months. After the first week of dating the subject of sex came up She told me that she had bad sexual experiences with her last boyfrie...
A. 10 February 2013: well first of all, she'll sleep with you when she's good and ready. it's not something you should "convince" her of.
second of all, why should she have to give them up? she can have sex with you, and still keep her toys, can't she? or she migh... (read in full...)
What can I do? I don't like it when he calls me bad names, but I'm also scared of him.
Q. I have been hanging out with this man for about 5 months, he says we are just friends but we act more like a couple, heres my question!! I have been giving him b j a lot and there have been times he pushes my head down and he calls me bad names a ...
A. 9 February 2013: well some people like dirty talk in bed. but usually that's something both parties consent to and are aware of ahead of time. therefore, it's not taken offensively when names are called; instead, it's a turn on. but there's a certain degree o... (read in full...)
Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet?
Q. Can anyone please explain to me how it's possible to be too sweet? Last weekend when I went out with a girl I've known a few years, we got a little drunk and totally unexpected she kissed me, I've liked this girl since the moment I met her but be...
A. 9 February 2013: what she probably means is that she's looking for a bad boy. you are probably not her type emotionally. some girls are wild and hard to handle. she probably thinks she could walk all over you. some women like that can be a serious pain in the ass, ... (read in full...)
Will I regret it for the rest of my life if I let her go?
Q. Ive been on and off with the love of my life (hands down) for awhile now...shes very finicky and runs off for nothing-issues often. She left me again on her birthday the other day and is telling me via text that we shouldnt be together. Ive been ...
A. 9 February 2013: well if you think she's the one and you will forever regret not trying to get her back, then by all means, you should try. you should pursue her and make an effort. now moving across the country would be a bad idea. i can honestly say that i belie... (read in full...)
How do others cope with similar? My family gatherings bother me. There is just small talk. And my grandfather's eating habits appall me.
Q. hey all,I love my family but when we all join each other around the dinner table i literally feel as depressed and hateful as ever (i know this may sound stupid) but my grandad (who i have no real relationship with due to family circumst...
A. 9 February 2013: oh my god, yessss!!! although it's not my grandfather, it's my friggin roommate! she slurps the crap out of her drink and smacks her food like she's got not damn teeth!!drives me INSANE! i literally feel like i'm going to rip my hair out, and it ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you prefer shaved or natural/trimmed pubic hair?
Q. Dear guys, This is just a question for you: Do you prefer women to be all hairless/shaved/waxed in the pubic area or is it also okay for you if a woman is just a little trimmed or even completely natural? Would it be a turn off for you if you ...
A. 8 February 2013: i'm sorry, but coming from a girl who dates girls (this girl) .. i gotta go with hairless all the way. and yes, to me, it is most definitely a turn off to start hooking up with a girl just to find out she has a bush. i'll go down and just ... (read in full...)
He's not my Bf. So did he go too far by hugging me from behind? I feel confused by it.
Q. Guy friend hugged me from behind?? We're friends but not close have similar interests and occasionally flirt. Both in serious relationships and have no intention of leaving our partners so no affairs. It was really weird we were talking about my...
A. 7 February 2013: doesn't necessarily mean anything. although it is somewhat flirtatious. i wouldn't stress too much about it, though. just make sure he doesn't make a habit of doing things like this. don't want to give him the impression you like it and i'm sure ... (read in full...)
My overweight family keep calling me fat!
Q. My family keep caling me fat, My younger sister is at least a stone or two heavier than me (atleast 14lb heavier than me for those who aren't from the uk). My mum is overweight, my dad is overweight and yet all they ever do is call me names like fat ...
A. 6 February 2013: sounds to me as though it may be a matter of some sort of jealousy. as in they want to see you fail because they are all over-weight, so they don't want to see you succeed and be thin.
whatever it is, your family is completely out of line. wh... (read in full...)
He re-arranged my furniture because his kids wanted it that way! They were guests, surely they should have left it alone?
Q. Please help. I have stayed over at boyfriends place before, when his two kids of 9 and 7 were visiting as well. (They live with their mum.) There were no real problems. He had some time off to look after them when they had a couple of days off ...
A. 6 February 2013: i get exactly where you're coming from. it's not the actual moving of the furniture that bothers you, rather it's the basic principle of respect. i agree with cindycares. sometimes it's small little things that really make you question if someone is ... (read in full...)
How to deal with being hurt in the past so it won't ruin my relationship?
Q. I would like some serious advice on dealing with past trust issues. I've been in three major relationships. One of them ended because I broke up with her over her getting into some things I found unacceptable - drugs and self-destructive behav...
A. 6 February 2013: i seriously had to go back and check to make sure you were a male who had written this, because i honestly thought that somehow i had written it myself and just forgotten. lol. you have no idea how much i can relate to you on everything you're ... (read in full...)
How should I resolve this situation? My husband's Rock music addiction is causing me problems and now even the neighbors are complaining.
Q. On here, you often hear about partners with gaming addictions, well, how's this for an addiction; rock music ?? I knew my husband liked music, of all types, had nothing against it, but now he's missing out on sex with me, work, time with friend...
A. 6 February 2013: sounds almost like an early on-set of a midlife crisis. maybe this is his way of rebelling. as in, he's feeling like he's lost all sense of self by settling down and getting married. almost like he's been neutered and caged. maybe he feels he... (read in full...)
Can I see both? Or one or the other? What should I consider, and how can I decide?
Q. I am 16,i have a b/f who i took as a brother and friend. Not as a lover I can't imagine him kissing me because the love i have for him is brotherly. Since then I have met another guy, and i realise i like him very much. But how do i see this ...
A. 6 February 2013: pretty simple. you go to your "boyfriend" whom you are currently with, tell him you see him only as a friend, and then go to this new guy, and start dating him. problem solved. seriously. why stay with a guy who's like a brother? and why di... (read in full...)
I had a sneak-peek at his email. I found out he's buying things for himself on line he's not told me about. Why the secret?
Q. I've just found out that my boyfriend secretly spends a lot of money behind my back as he left his email account logged in and i had a sneek peek. He even bought lots of stuff on my b'day for himself! When talking about what he buys, he obvi...
A. 6 February 2013: do you have a joint bank account? if not, then it's absolutely none of your business what he buys and when.
if you do have a joint account, then call him out and tell him you have a problem with all the things he's spending money on. ... (read in full...)
Was My boyfriend's reaction out of line? I had to enroll, online, for classes and the slot allocated to me ate into time he wanted to spend with me.
Q. All my college procedures are done online. Today I had to choose my class schedule. Obviously, my college has thousands of students, so we're assigned a period of time where we could chose it (for example, all names starting with A do it from 9am...
A. 6 February 2013: what an obnoxious response on his part. that would really aggravate me if i were you. you told him in advance and he still acted like that? that's uncalled for. and also, assuming he was telling the truth, and he was bored, does he really requir... (read in full...)
How do you cope with an annoyed partner?
Q. How do you cope with an annoyed partner - he's annoyed basically because his brother in law (my brother) has not yet bought his Christmas present (yes, Christmas just gone). I'm fed up with hearing about it - although I do agree with him to an e...
A. 5 February 2013: who really gives a crap about the christmas present? sounds like he's a spoiled little kid on christmas day who throws a tantrum because he didn't get the expensive toy he wanted. tell him to get over it. it's not even a big deal.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont get engaged to me unless I get her a 20 000 euro engagement ring
Q. Hi, I ve posted on this website before and I ve found the answere really helpful so I am hoping for some more advice please. I ve been agonizing over this for some time, would be really interested to hear what others think.. My girlfriend w...
A. 5 February 2013: hell no you're not in the wrong for not spending 20,000 euro on your spoiled, bratty girlfriends engagement ring!! are you kidding?!?! what are you gonna do, spend that much money and then have her turn around and either
1. call it off for the ... (read in full...)
I'm gay but afraid to come out about it. How long will it take me to accept this about myself?
Q. I am in a relationship with a woman for my first time. To make the story short, I broke up my engagement with my 8 year fiance not only because he was cheating but also because I felt l for this girl. We've been dating for about 4 months now. I ...
A. 5 February 2013: why do you have panic attacks about being gay? what exactly are you so afraid of? i can honestly say that since i came out over ten years ago, i've never once run into a significant problem with anyone giving me a hard time about it. nobody reall... (read in full...)
Did watching the birth of our daughter make my husband gay?
Q. I’m 32 years old woman and now I’m experiencing really hard time in my marriage. My husband(he’s 33) and I are married for 3 years and 6 months ago our daughter was born. My husband never wanted to be in the delivery room, but I wanted him to be ...
A. 5 February 2013: Sweetheart, you didn't turn your hubby gay. Please don't beat yourself up. He had to have been somewhat into men long before you ever had your child together. People don't just "turn gay" because they saw their wife give birth. I'm sure if you talk ... (read in full...)
B/f interested in sex, I'm not but I can't leave him!
Q. i am typical indian teen . well during my summer vacation a met a guy called xxxx. he was charming d lovely. we fall in love (both r virgin and dont hav any past blah blah..)he said me to join his college i promised him i would but due to distance ...
A. 3 February 2013: I understand in your culture it is not as easy as it is in western civilizations just to up and leave your boyfriend because he's acting like an ass. Here in america, we pick our own partners based on attraction and then we date them. After we date ... (read in full...)
I want love. But my mother is nagging me to get married asap. Is what I want too much to ask for?
Q. I'm 26 and single. My mom has been constantly telling me to just find someone and get married. As long as he's nice and I can tolerate him then that's good enough. Anyone would do. Anyone is better than no one. I'm 26, it's time, soon it'll be to...
A. 3 February 2013: Well you already know that answer to your question. You know it's not better to just settle for the sake of settling. Of course when this happens, people wind up miserable a handful of years down the road and either cheat, divorce, or cheat and then ... (read in full...)
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