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writes:My fiancee wants to join the marines and be a sniper. I really dont want him to go and i cry just thingking about it, i got him to agree before that he wouldnt go but it always comes back up. So sence it would make him happy i finally said ok. But i have depression and anxiety issues. I worry about him alot i text him every morning to say good morning and to make sure hes ok. If i dont hear from him in like four hours and he dint say talk to your later or bye or any thing il start to worry. He knows about my anixty and deals with it but doesnt like it. I take meds for it but it doesnt really help. So if i worry about him over every day stuff how am i going to act when hes off at war?
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reader, llifton +, writes (23 April 2011):
 well first of all, people don't just enlist in the marines and get handed a checklist where sniper is listed as an option you can just check mark. you have to be the absolute best of the best of all the elete marksman. you have to prove yourself worthy for that title. if he can manage that, that's a real honor. that aside, i don't understand why he'd wait for you two to get engaged to finally make the ultimate decision to enlist. i understand he has wants and dreams and aspirations, but at the same time, it sounds pretty selfish to make the commitment to spend the rest of your life with someone, then decide to haul off and join the marines and leave your fiancee.if he does enlist, though, that doesn't necessarily mean he will be shipped off to war and you will be sitting here alone biting your nails off with worry. he may be stationed within the US and you can relocate with him. he may not be in a war zone. regardless, i think it's unfair of him to make this decision knowing how you feel about it. you two have agreed to get married. this means you are now a team that makes joint decisions. if you don't believe this is something you can emotionally handle, then you may need to decide if this marriage is the best thing for you. he is making a decision that is best suited for himself regardless of your feelings on the matter. therefore, i believe you are entitled to do the same.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 April 2011):
 You wont handle it very well if you keep going the way that you are going. You are jumping way ahead he is only at the stage where he is wanting to join the marines and already you are thinking about him going to war. Even if he joined tomorrow the probability of him going to war soon is very low. You need to stop jumping so far ahead. At the end of the day you done the right thing by letting him do whatever he wants even if it hurts you it was the right thing to do, so well done to you. But sweetie you need to get help with your anxiety issues or you will end up driving him away. Even though am sure he loves you there is only so much a person can take.I think the best thing that you can do is to book an appointment with a therapist. Tell them everything that is going on and what medication that you are on and hopefully they will be able to help you make sence of things. Goodluck darling.
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