Does this mean that he's commitment phobic?
Q. I've been together with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We haven't had sex yet, but the other night we both really wanted to. I was assuming that I'll stay at his place for the night, but he told me that he can't have me over. We go to the same ...
A. 17 March 2013: that is a bit odd. i typically would jump straight to something fishy going on if this were me. i can't speculate or say so for certain, but it is rather bizarre for a guy to be with you for a whole year, yet not let you stay at his house.
have ... (read in full...)
Should I make a move on my history teacher?
Q. I need help. I really have feelings for my history teacher. He gives me all the right signs showing that he likes me back but I don't know. I am 17 and in high school and he is 24. He smiles at me all the time and compliments me. I think of him all ...
A. 17 March 2013: this guy really needs to tone it down or he's looking to get into a lot of trouble. he's your teacher. he could lose his career for this. definitely do NOT make a move on him. ... (read in full...)
I'm HIV positive, how do I tell my LDR guy?
Q. Hi guys I'm in long distance relationship.I love the guy with all my heart.We haven't had any sexual connection.My problem is that he is soo crazy about me and he wants to move to my city.How can I tell him I'm hiv positive.I'm afraid to lose him...
A. 15 March 2013: you definitely need to tell him. face to face is a good way to go about it. but also, perhaps over the phone or an email, as he may need some time to think it over afterwards and want to be alone while doing so.
i know this must be extremel... (read in full...)
Do I tell my girlfriend about my past?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months now and it has been going great. I work in a different state but travel often to see her and will be seeing her in a month. In one of our recent conversations a topic i am not comfortable with ...
A. 15 March 2013: Ahhhh the dreaded question.
I understand exactly where your coming from. I date women, myself, and particularly HATE this question. I've been with more women than I can recall but it wasn't due to military. It was just due to one bad thing ha... (read in full...)
I cheated with a friend and became pregnant. Do I stay with him or go back to my husband?
Q. I have recently separated from my marriage of 8 years due to the fact I slept with a friend and got pregnant as a result. my husband can not have children naturally so my friend is the father after a massive row and my husband kicking me out I ha...
A. 14 March 2013: man, that's one hell of a situation you've found yourself in.
it's a lose/lose for all involved. your husband would have to look in the face of a child who was conceived by your infidelity for the rest of his life while also having to deal wit... (read in full...)
Did he decide to just cut me out of his life and not tell me?
Q. hey everyone... well i know you probably heard this a lot but I want your honest opinion.. well i am 18 and have been talkin to this for about 7 months now.. we go to the same school but he acutally left the school since he had to finish his cre...
A. 14 March 2013: he cut you out of his life. people's actions are black and white. as humans, we try to justify and rationalize people's behavior to fit what he want the truth to be. such as "maybe he's just going through a lot", etc. but think about it. you like ... (read in full...)
I ended our relationship because I feel g/f was a little too close to her trainer friend. Was I right?
Q. My girlfriend has a friend that is a personal trainer that she has known for 15 years. She states that she has no romantic interest or physical attraction for him. Yet she fields numerous texts, emails and phone calls per week. He is a confident ...
A. 14 March 2013: hey buddy. :)
only you know what is best for you. if it was making you so uncomfortable that it was causing significant distress, than you did the right thing - for yourself. i know this has been upsetting you.
i still maintain that it's possib... (read in full...)
Can you get sick from cuming in someone?
Q. So my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. I was topping and the day after he said he felt like crap. Can you get sick from cuming in someone?...
A. 14 March 2013: well anal sex in itself can cause you to get a bit gassy lol. it pushes air into your intestinal tract and can cause bloating. and as we all know, bloating definitely leaves us feeling slugish and not feeling well. but this is only temporary.
... (read in full...)
Is it selfish to remain single for life and not believe in love?
Q. I'm a 20 year old female who has resorted to wanting to remain a virgin and stay single for life. Although I've never been in a relationship, they just do not appeal to me. Because of my slight insecurities with myself (naturally lanky, no curves ...
A. 14 March 2013: i don't think it makes you selfish at all. what you choose to do with yourself and your life is entirely up to you. it sounds like you've done so much on your own, even down to raising yourself, that you just don't feel the need for companionship or ... (read in full...)
A troubled relationship, I"m pregnant and scared. What do I do?
Q. In this moment I'm very depressed 5 month pregnant and I don't know what can I do....I move from uk in Italy at my Italian boyfriend left everything there and come here, we try from last august for a baby and in November I felt pregnant we were ...
A. 14 March 2013: this guy is abusive, that's one thing that's for certain. he pushed a woman who is pregnant with his child. he deserves an ass kicking for that!
i think you're better off without this guy. i know it's scary now, but i promise you, this is a blessi... (read in full...)
Can you get sick from cuming in someone?
Q. So my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. I was topping and the day after he said he felt like crap. Can you get sick from cuming in someone?...
A. 14 March 2013: The only thing I can imagine would be if you were sick and gave it to him. What kind of symptoms did he have?... (read in full...)
Single for two years -- how will guys react?
Q. GUYS: what do you think of a girl that's been single for 2 years? I've been single for 2years now and I don't feel like been with anyone. Guys tell me I'm cute and sexy and they wanna get to know me and take me out etc: But I'm neve...
A. 14 March 2013: I know I'm not a guy, but I date chicks so it kinda counts. Lol. For me, personally, I love it if a girl has been single for a couple of years. It means two things:
1. She's selective in who she is with, which is good. Makes you feel worthwhi... (read in full...)
My wife is not responding sexually to me and her boss has been trying it on her.
Q. A little background. My wife and I have been together for over 8 years now and our relationship is a very good one! We do a lot together and have loads of fun together. Recently our sex life has dwindled down to once every 3 weeks to a month. It ...
A. 13 March 2013: hmmmm. sometimes people do say things jokingly and there is no harm intended. but still, to tell a married woman that you're wanting to go down on her? that's definitely crossing the line. maybe she doesn't like him more than a friend and is just ... (read in full...)
Are there guys that wait till marriage?
Q. Are there virgin guys out there that want to wait till marriage with someone they really love? I feel very disappointed and alone when all I see is jerky guys and pregnant teens. People are so slutty and cold hearted these days. ...
A. 13 March 2013: to be honest, there aren't many men OR women who wait til marriage these days. doesn't make them good or bad people. just a preference. either way, there are certainly some who wait. just not many. i personally know a couple of guys who waited til ... (read in full...)
I cheated, got back together with boyfriend. Does he need to know if I had used condoms?
Q. I recently got back together with my ex-boyfriend. We both realized that we loved each other and after trying to date other people we decided to give it another shot. The first time we broke up was because I had cheated on him, so he has been trying ...
A. 13 March 2013: i think that if you're working to build up trust with him again, you pretty much need to be honest with him about everything. so yes, i think you should tell him. saying "it's none of your business" will definitely not help him build back trust... (read in full...)
Can we salvage this relationship?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 16 months now. The first 6-8 months were wonderful, but the progression started slowing down after that. Specifically here are the issues we are trying to work on: 1) She tells me I don't have much of a r...
A. 13 March 2013: 1. this is something you could work on. if you're going to be together for the long-haul, then building a relationship with her son is probably something to attempt to do. however, she needs to recognize that this isn't going to be something that ... (read in full...)
He let my family and I believe for 3 years that his parents were dead!
Q. I'm not at all sure what to think about this, and would like some opinions. Here it goes: I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's been studying hard and is aiming for his masters, I support him fully and I know he does the same for me. We ...
A. 13 March 2013: i think you should let him off the hook for this. clearly he's got some serious bad blood with them and he wants nothing to do with them. and that's his right. it may be an extremely sensitive subject for him to talk about, so it's so much easier ... (read in full...)
Husband paid for entire bill on a big night out. How to ask the others to pay their share?
Q. I have A little awkward situation and need your advice on it. We went out with with 2 couples and a single friend out to a club on Friday nite for women's day. We live in US but everyone came originally from Eastern Europe so we still celebrat...
A. 12 March 2013: i'm somewhat with your husband. i don't ever like to remind people they owe me money. they know they do. they didn't forget. they'll most likely give it back on their own time. it is somewhat rude of them not to do it immediately, but i'm sure they ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says four is too many guys to have been intimate with. He broke up with me
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday. Few hours later we decided to make it a short break of 2 days or so just to take some time off. The reason why that happened? I told him that I have been intimate with four guys before we met(We are in a ...
A. 12 March 2013: sweetheart, you've done NOTHING wrong. don't you dare let this guy make you feel bad for the things you've done. they are NOT mistakes unless you believe them to be mistakes. only you can possibly know how you feel about them. but certainly don't ... (read in full...)
Looking for advice ... am I bisexual?
Q. Okay so I'm a bit confused would you say I'm bi or not. My close girl mate told me the other week that she fancied me I've been friends with her for ages. I didn't know how to take this as I thought she was straight. Anyway she took my hand and took...
A. 12 March 2013: anonymous poster. this is not a place for you to rant on your hateful thoughts towards gay people. this is a forum to help people who have legitimate questions, like this girl does. you didn't even answer her question. you just used her question as ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't stop looking at younger girls
Q. My fiance can't stop looking at other girls. we have a great sex life and we are really happy but he cannot keep his eyes off of girls. especially high school ones. he's 22 and I'm 20 and most people think I look younger but he doesn't and these ...
A. 12 March 2013: well that's just flat out creepy that he's looking at 13 year old girls at the age of 22. i'm sorry, but that's not really acceptable. and society agrees with that, as well, seeing as how it is illegal to actively pursue individuals of that age. ... (read in full...)
Is it really worth it to have friendships and relationships? Something chaotic is always happening to someone
Q. Dear cupid... is having friends/ and or relationships really worth it in your opinion? I ask this because from my personal experience, there is a lot of drama and immature people all over the place. It seems as if a lot of my friendships end, e...
A. 12 March 2013: i've honestly been questioning a lot of the same things as you recently. it does seem as though there's so many dishonest people in the world these days. and it's disheartening and frustrating. no one seems to know how to be honest and faithful in ... (read in full...)
Help! I need some support and advice about the actions and behaviour my boyfriend's sister. Is something going on or am I too suspicious?
Q. I started dating my boyfriend (age 21) around 5 months ago. At this point, his sister (age 24), lived with his parents and he lived out of home. Within the first months of dating, his sister's behaviour was a litle questionable, and quite frankl...
A. 12 March 2013: wow, i can't lie, i started to feel a little uneasy and disgusted while reading this post. that's very bizarre and questionable. i can't blame you for feeling uncomfortable.
is this his biological sister? or is it a step-sister situatio... (read in full...)
Am I Bi? Is it possible to become straight?
Q. So I'm a 15 year old male. I've always considered myself straight and have been oddly sexually-obsessed before I even knew what sex was. I've always been very into girls. (That still weirds me out.) But recently I realized that I used to enjoy ...
A. 12 March 2013: i think you are just like most teenage guys. i don't think what you're feeling is really any different than some guys who are honest with themselves feel. i know a ton of straight women who check girls out but would never act on it. it's just that ... (read in full...)
He seemed more interested in his ex than in me
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nine months now. We broke up around the second month because he was still thinking about his ex and wanted to figure things out. I started to move on with my life when he came back and said he wanted to be with me, ...
A. 12 March 2013: no, you are not over reacting. to me, i never would have even taken someone back after they had dumped me for their ex in the first place. at that point, they made their decision. they choose someone else over me. so they can lay in the bed they ... (read in full...)
I'm turning down other boys because I'm so in to this teacher
Q. So I am 17 and I like a teacher that is about 26 (I think.) I think he is really cute and just wonderful. However, I do not think that I fell in love with him because of his exterior beauty but because he has a beautiful personality. In a sophomore ...
A. 12 March 2013: hi there.
i think sometimes it's easy for young teachers fresh out of college, who teach high school, to cross over the lines of what's acceptable when they are teaching juniors and seniors who are almost their age. i mean, he's a young guy and ... (read in full...)
Could I actually be held accountable for her ending her life by her own hand and free will?
Q. Hello everyone. Well I've been getting close to a woman online for about 5 months, we got along great and were planning to continue getting to know each other and see where things lead. However, last week I found out she is married with 3 c...
A. 12 March 2013: there's not a chance you could be held accountable for her death if she actually does go through with it.
you could contact the police, if it'll help make you rest assured, and report her threats and say you're worried about her mental and phys... (read in full...)
My friend is going through the pain of separation and is not coming out of his shell. Will he ever come around?
Q. One of my good friends is going through a separation from his wife and I am not sure what to do. We have always gotten along so well, communicated regularly, and talked about anything and everything. However, the past few weeks I have noticed a ...
A. 12 March 2013: i think you just need to be patient and let him know that when he's ready to talk, you're there. then leave it be.
i'm the same way as this guy. when i go through a painful break up or something equally upsetting, i disappear for a while. it's not... (read in full...)
Are his jokes showing that he doesn't want me in the future?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months..we are in our late twenties and still living with parents due to us trying to save individually for the future..he is looking to purchase a house within the next few years. It is by far t...
A. 12 March 2013: you say he's attentive and affectionate, etc. he also stays with you and it's clearly a healthy relationship because you said so straight from your mouth. it sounds to me he's just joking around and being playful. it may not even be to get a ... (read in full...)
Why do I always want the ex that I don't have?
Q. Got a problem and i have no idea why i cant deal with it. So I've just got back with my ex(2), we broke up maybe a year ago but now i cant seem to get over the fact my most recent ex(1) is happy without me and i seem drawn to her again. Howeve...
A. 11 March 2013: human nature at it's finest. always wanting what you can't have. you're not alone. tons of people feel this way. it's just bizarre human traits. there's really no solution to your problem. it's just up to you to recognize your behavior patterns ... (read in full...)
I thought I was gay but I'm attracted to this girl..is it just a one time thing?
Q. I'm a 19 year old guy. I've assumed I was gay since I was about 13. I tried to fight it at first because there was a stigma to being gay, but eventually I grew to accept it and had gay relationships and it really wasn't an issue anymore. But ...
A. 11 March 2013: well you're still young. you may not be fully aware of your sexuality just yet. in fact, it wasn't until i was the age you are now that i finally realized i WAS gay. i also had girlfriends who dated women until their early twenties before realizing ... (read in full...)
Fiance did something stupid to "intentially hurt my feelings?"
Q. I've been with my FI for 4 years, newly engaged about a month ago. Living separately with our families for now, until I finish school next month. My FI is usually very sensitive and never did anything in the past to intentially hurt my feelings...
A. 11 March 2013: wow. so basically, you hurt his feelings unintentionally, so he turned around and INTENTIONALLY tried to hurt yours. nice. honestly, i would be surprised if he even had his friend in town to go out with. he may have even made that up completely ju... (read in full...)
He's becoming too "friendly" for comfort!
Q. Dear all, I have a problem and would like some advice. I am a mum of 2 and have been with my partner for 15 years during this time I have also had a male friend who I met through my sister. Even though we are the same age I have always thought of...
A. 11 March 2013: if i were you, i'd just place some serious distance between you and this guy. he doesn't have to know the reasons why. next time he wants to come over, tell him you have dinner plans, or some other prior arrangement. and keep this up for some peri... (read in full...)
I didn't want to break up, because I love him. But we argued and then broke up. How can I explain this to him?
Q. My boyfriend and i just broke up, and I'm really hurting, we've been dating for 7 months. I felt like the relationship wasn't going right and we barely make each other smile and he was so cold towards me like I did something wrong, I asked what was...
A. 11 March 2013: i'm sorry to hear that happened. i was concerned that's what it was. just try to keep yourself busy and occupied and whatever you do, don't text him or call him again. that will just make you look clingy and desperate. do yourself a favor. when... (read in full...)
She masturbated... without me!
Q. Should I be upset about this? Basically, my girlfriend and I had not had sex for almost 5 days. While we had never really agreed to not masturbate before our next time in bed, we had talked about doing something like that before. (We have sex a ...
A. 11 March 2013: yes. you are in the wrong. she's right, you can't tell her what she can and can't do. and if she wants to masturbate, she can do so all she pleases because it's HER body. it's not gonna make sex any less good with you or less intense. come on... (read in full...)
I sometimes look at a pretty girl and am confused about the emotions that I feel?
Q. i am a girl and i have a boyfriend and until now have not questioned my sexuallity, but i have started thinking about girls in a sexual way but not at all in a relationship way, i dont ever mastibate about girls(or anything eles for that matt...
A. 11 March 2013: coming from someone who's been out of the closet for a long time (yours truly), being gay IS scary and difficult to accept at first, for some. society still hasn't embraced it fully, so there's a lot of negative connotations still associated with ... (read in full...)
She thinks of me as a brother but I like her more than that. Do I tell her?
Q. Dear anybody who is reading, I'm a high school freshman, and i like this girl that went to my old school with me. Our story: I liked her, and eventually asked her out, but didn't really knowher to well, and we ended up breaking up, but we beca...
A. 11 March 2013: my suggestion is to subtly drop hints. lightly flirt and touch her and gauge her reation. you should be able to tell by how she interacts and responds to you. i would do this for a little while until i got a better feeling for how she felt.
good ... (read in full...)
Are these double standards? My LDR likes it when I send a sexy video but he is refusing to send one back!?
Q. My boyfriend has double standards. We're in an LDR (it's relatively new - coming up to 3 months) and whenever he's horny, I will send him a picture sometimes, not every time and the pics are not fully nude, but something sexy and I have sent a s...
A. 11 March 2013: to be honest, i think you're pushing him to do something that makes him uncomfortable. and i don't think that's fair of you.
think about it if the roles were reversed. how would you feel if he kept pushing you for something you didn't feel com... (read in full...)
I didn't want to break up, because I love him. But we argued and then broke up. How can I explain this to him?
Q. My boyfriend and i just broke up, and I'm really hurting, we've been dating for 7 months. I felt like the relationship wasn't going right and we barely make each other smile and he was so cold towards me like I did something wrong, I asked what was...
A. 11 March 2013: hey sweetheart.
it's one of two things. you may not want to hear one of the, but for the sake of honesty, i have to throw the possibiliy out there.
1. he said it because you hurt him and he was trying to hurt you back. maybe he didn't really m... (read in full...)
Girl who came into my bar has left me a bit messed up. I rejected her advances because I'm in a relationship. But what should I do if she returns?
Q. About three/four months ago a girl and her party of friends walked into the bar, I was working at in Boston. Late into the evening, two of her male college friends approached me and informed me that she liked me, much to my colleague’s disappoi...
A. 11 March 2013: honestly, i think you've already crossed the line with this other girl quite a bit. i think you'd be lucky if she doesn't show up again because just one more time, and you may find yourself seriously faltering in your relationship.
flirt... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I like chubby guys?
Q. I'm a tall, skinny 17 year old that likes chubby guys. I just wanted to know if its weird that I like chubby guys? Also I wanted to know if chubby guys like skinny girls?...
A. 10 March 2013: hey, chubby guys need love, too! it's not weird. everyone has their preference and type. you just like the big, teddy bears.
and yes, some chubby guys like skinny girls. once again, though, everyone has a different preference. some chubby guys may... (read in full...)
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