A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I met a married man on his 50's, 10 years older ten months back. At first he told me he is divorced but admitted the truth on our 2nd month. He told me to give him 2 years to wait for him to finally divorce his wife. I always have told him to just continue with his married life but he said he wants to be happy in his remaining life and if he didn't meet me, he will surely find another woman to love and to be happy. I didn't realized that the more we are together , the more i am longing for his time which is impossible. Then one day i told him to just leave me but just like magnets attracted to each other, we are back in each others arms again. I might not able to get his time anytime i want but i know it is painful to be with a husband if his mind is with someone else. If he only didn't show love and care, i don't think i will be still be here caring and loving him too! We are satisfied to have a cup of coffee and staring at each other and exchanging notes written on tissue papers and we are happy just like a teenager just having crushes. We are both Gemini and we click in many ways and we both know we can be friends no matter what lies ahead to both of us.I guess it is important to be happy and to make someone happy too without breaking someones lives but if he comes to me divorced and offer marriage, why not?
View related questions:
crush, divorce, married man Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 April 2011):
 Yes he can lie and cheat to her, what does that show you about this man? He took vows to this woman and he is now breaking them. Who is to say he will not do the same to you. You say you are giving it two years because you dont want to hurt his wife and be the reason he just walks out. Well no matter what way you look at it you will be the reason that he walks out and I guess you will both just need to accept the guilt that comes with this. He is the one that has the family though not you.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2011): How do u feel about being a homewrecker? The woman who took another womans husband. I have always said this and will repeat: do not attain your happiness by another persons tears.
Does his wife know of you and what you are doing to her marriage.
How long is he married. If he can just ditch his wife well u know what's in store for you later on.
2 gimini's and 2 cheaters = disaster.
LoveGirl
...............................
A
female
reader, llifton  +, writes (23 April 2011):
 uh oh. two gemini's. that's trouble.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply. The 2 years is the only time i can give to him to be free.You are right, he can just leave the wife since their kids are all grown-up and he can just leave home and find a place for us but i can't seem to be happy totally if someones married life is broken because of me.Doesn't know him too much to commit my life and might just doing his wife a favor of throwing him away his home.I am with him not only for a relationship but also for a friend.We didn't reach to a point of intimacy as we both agreed to it.If the certain limits has reached and nothing happen, i promise to leave him no matter how we loved each other.I know it's wrong to love a married man but if a man loves his wife, how come he can lie and cheat her?
...............................
A
female
reader, aunt honesty +, writes (23 April 2011):
What you are doing at the moment is wrong I hope you know that. He is a married man and therefore he belongs to another woman and you are the one that is having an affair with him. If you were serious about him well then you should have put your foot down and told him that until he is single and away from his wife well then you are not going to have relations with him. As a respectable woman this is what you should have told him. But sadly you never.Two years to get a divorcee? I am sorry but it doesnt take that long all he needed to do was walk away from the marital home and file for divorcee straight away. If I were you I would be careful that he is not playing both you and his wife.If you are serious about this man well then be straight with him and tell him how you feel but tell him there will be no more relations or intamicy until he has left the marriage. Goodluck and all the best!
...............................
|
