My boyfriend's mother swore at me!
Q. I was at my bf's home this other day with him til his mom appeared and she started swearing at me in not many words saying that i am a bitch i sleep with boys and obviously showing that i am not good for his son....so it is haunting me i cannot do ...
A. 23 February 2013: there's definitely not enough details on this post to be able to give any sufficient advice.
did you sleep with him and she found out or something? what caused this outburst?
i'm sorry you're going through this.... (read in full...)
I resent my girlfriend because she's hot and I'm not!
Q. I'm a horrible person. I have a really great friend. She is by far the kindest and most sincere and loyal friend I have ever had. She's such a true friend that I truley.think if it came down to it she would throw herself in front of a car to save my ...
A. 23 February 2013: you're mad because you've got a hot girlfriend? i don't understand this because my girlfriend is also HOT and i love every second of it. who's attention are you trying to grab, anyway? because if you're a lesbian, why do you care so much if you g... (read in full...)
What strategies will help me identify a good man who will step up and stay around like my husband, who accepted my bisexuality?
Q. I'm a single mother of two, separated from my husband of 19 years two years ago, finally dating, can't seem to find and keep a good man, a man like my husband who accepted that Im bisexual and will allow me to have flings with women while he stays...
A. 22 February 2013: So you're asking why you can't find a guy who will do everything for you, and be faithful, while willingly accepting you cheating on him? I'm sorry but I think it takes a special kind of idiot to sign up for that. I date women and I'd be damned if I ... (read in full...)
Do I move on to a great job? Or to a guy I love, but who isn't right for me?
Q. Hi all! I have a dilemma guys, Basically I have the option of moving down south of my country to a really good job or I have the opportunity to move up north of my country to an ok job but the guy I like lives there. That guy and I dated f...
A. 22 February 2013: That's a tough one. From my own personal experiences, I've had shit luck moving for another person. It never worked out. Really, it's just a matter of what you feel is most important. Love or your career. Honestly, in my personal opinion, you saw... (read in full...)
Is it really true? Once a cheater always a cheater?
Q. Can people be truly sorry for cheating and never go on to do it again? Or is it a case of once a cheater always a cheater? I've cheated in the past knew it was wrong and never done it again. My boyfriend of four years cheated in the b...
A. 22 February 2013: Yes people can change. I'm living proof. I used to be a really big sht head in my day. I didn't treat people very well. That was when I was in my late teens and early 20's. Now, I'm purely disgusted by my behavior and would NEVER treat someone like ... (read in full...)
I hurt my ex girlfriend when I finished the relationship. I know she's hurting. How can I help her?
Q. I had a 3 month relationship with this girl and we fell in love really quickly. We had some trust issues and I ended up breaking her heart. Since then she has been avoiding and ignoring me. The thing is, she is still emotionally dependent on me ...
A. 21 February 2013: you dumped her after she said she loves you? that sounds pretty harsh, although i don't know the full story. but one definitely can't blame her for not allowing you to see any of her emotions. i mean my god, i wouldn't show any emotions at all, ... (read in full...)
When he tried to break up with me I started crying so hard he started crying to and said he would stay but now he doesn't text or call like he used to.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three months now. Everything was okay before one of his ex girfriends decided that she wanted to "reconnect". From the actions he is showing he doesn't want her back but she has basically pushed him ...
A. 21 February 2013: you crying so hard made him feel bad and guilted him into staying with you when he knew he shouldn't. he took you back to spare you the pain. but he still doesn't want to be in the relationship and he's not invested in it the way he needs to be. ... (read in full...)
Slept in the same bed with another girl (just friends) and I have a girlfriend..
Q. Hey, I am just really worried at the moment as I am at Uni and we went to an after party at my friends and it got really late so i fell asleep on the sofa and their living room is really cold and my two friends (girls) offered to sleep with them ...
A. 20 February 2013: Well maybe you just shouldn't tell her then and then make SURE she never finds out and certainly learn from your mistakes and not do it again. As you said - it wasn't malicious. ... (read in full...)
Slept in the same bed with another girl (just friends) and I have a girlfriend..
Q. Hey, I am just really worried at the moment as I am at Uni and we went to an after party at my friends and it got really late so i fell asleep on the sofa and their living room is really cold and my two friends (girls) offered to sleep with them ...
A. 20 February 2013: I don't think your actions are malicious or intended to be hurtful. I'm sure you're a nice guy. Please don't get me wrong. However, you posted a scenario in which you depicted yourself as drunk quite frequently (if you go back and reread it you will ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend being unfair? She's allowed to be with male friends late at night but I'm not allowed to be out with girl friends late???
Q. long distance for the most part but have the goal ultimately of living together. We visit multiple times a year for months at a time as well. I love this girl more than words could ever describe. I just need some opinions. My girlfriend is a very ...
A. 20 February 2013: ever hear the quote "the guilty dog barks first?" that's what this seems like to me.
based on what you say, she is clearly over-reacting and in the wrong. why she's so paranoid leaves one open to speculation.
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Advice for what to do with a cheater
Q. Okay, so my first girlfriend, I met through Facebook last summer. After a couple of months, she suddenly stopped texting and calling me. I thought either she was grounded or dumped me. Weekend following Christmas, she calls me up and says that she's ...
A. 20 February 2013: get rid of your ex and immediately. she's no good. focus on your new girlfriend.... (read in full...)
I want to keep her and my man too!
Q. im bisexual and i met a girl who only dates girls. she doesnt hate guys but she gets turned off to the thought of a guy ever touching her in a sexual way or kissing her. shes made it known that she would never date a bisexual girl. i cant get her ...
A. 20 February 2013: i'm not typically harsh, but you're the exact reason why people like me have severe trust issues. we have good, honest intentions with people like you, who lie, manipulate and cheat your way into our hearts, and after we're already emotionally inve... (read in full...)
What can I do to persuade my 21 year old daughter to put down the controller and pick up a boyfriend?
Q. I'm concerned about my daughter's social life or rather lack thereof. She's 21 and all she wants to do when she's not at work is play video games. She's never had a boyfriend, is not interested and getting one and is still a virgin. Geez I was ...
A. 20 February 2013: why do you care so much if she has a boyfriend or not?? why does that even matter?? and you're actually encouraging your daughter to go out and lose her virginity?? this is a first i've ever heard.
there's nothing wrong with your daughter and she ... (read in full...)
After taking him back again I found out my boyfriend cheated. When confronted he never even replied back!
Q. A week ago I found out my boyfriend cheated on me after only 4 days of getting back together. We had been off and on since November (we were bf/gf from June through November then he broke up with me in mid-November, we spent a week or so apart, then ...
A. 19 February 2013: your ex is a huge jerk. and you had every right to send him the texts that you sent him and you should NOT feel guilty for it.
and you are correct. if he cared, he would have responded and tried to talk to you. the fact that he got called o... (read in full...)
I'm really trying to save myself for marriage and dating a non-virgin really bothers me
Q. I recently got into a relationship with a guy I really like. We have terrible communication and it makes me angry. He always apologizes for that lack of good communication in our relationship. The thing is, we actually started talking alright the ...
A. 19 February 2013: why get into a relationship with a non-virgin if you really want to settle down with a virgin? if it's that important to you and it bothers you that much, just make it a must for someone you're dating.
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Slept in the same bed with another girl (just friends) and I have a girlfriend..
Q. Hey, I am just really worried at the moment as I am at Uni and we went to an after party at my friends and it got really late so i fell asleep on the sofa and their living room is really cold and my two friends (girls) offered to sleep with them ...
A. 19 February 2013: what you need to do is stop putting yourself in that type of situation. if you have a girlfriend, there are certain things that aren't acceptable. getting hammered all the time and passing out in girls beds is definitely NOT on the acceptable list ... (read in full...)
Husband's phone has a name as "buddy" who turns out is a girl! Should I be worried?
Q. So the other day while my husband was in the shower, he asked me to find a number in his cell phone (a friend of his that we were meeting later) and call him to confirm the time. When I was doing that, his recent call history showed up, and I ...
A. 19 February 2013: personally for me, i'm not super girly at all and i date women, so i've got tons of male friends who see me as strictly one of the guys. i wouldn't be surprised if any one of them has me saved in their phone as "buddy" or "pal" or something like ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says the past is the past but I have trust issues!
Q. I have been with my fiance for seven years. We broke up for five monthe in 2011. When we were broken up he was awful. He lied to me so many times. He started seeing a much younger girl. We are back together now. And we are planning our wedding in ...
A. 19 February 2013: Did you two break up because he wanted to see that other girl and he lied about it to you, or did you break up for unrelated reasons and then he coincidentally started seeing that other girl and then lied about it? The reason I ask is because w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says the past is the past but I have trust issues!
Q. I have been with my fiance for seven years. We broke up for five monthe in 2011. When we were broken up he was awful. He lied to me so many times. He started seeing a much younger girl. We are back together now. And we are planning our wedding in ...
A. 19 February 2013: Did you two break up because he wanted to see that other girl and he lied about it to you, or did you break up for unrelated reasons and then he coincidentally started seeing that other girl and then lied about it? The reason I ask is because w... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to finally snap and publicly humiliate and insult someone who had been talking trash about me for over a year?
Q. Hi. I am looking for advice on whether I did the right thing or not. My boyfriend has this girl friend, who I have only met a handful of times, who has a lot of animosity toward me. I had always been really nice to her the times I ran into her. When ...
A. 18 February 2013: first and foremost, i think your boyfriend probably should have handled this situation before it even got to this point. if he saw that this girl who was a "friend" of his kept putting you down and disrespecting you, he should have told her that she ... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend judge my family if I tell him about my abusive father?
Q. Hey, I'l get straight to the point,I'v never had a daughter-father relationship with my dad,we never shared,talked about problems,I always soo scared of him cuz he was an abusive father and as a child I heard him shout and raise his hands on my mo...
A. 18 February 2013: i read this quote once "if he can't handle you at your worst, he doesn't deserve you at your best." i think this applies here.
i would say if your boyfriend judges you and your family because of this, he's not a very good guy in the first place. w... (read in full...)
Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?
Q. My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...
A. 18 February 2013: can you really be certain that she was only there for a couple of hours? the reason i ask this is because i dated a girl one time that lived about two hours away (until i stupidly moved her out here with me - BIG mistake) a few years back and she ... (read in full...)
He tells me it is my fault that he abuses me. What causes people to become abusive? And is the receiver of the abuse to blame?
Q. Dear Cupid Why do people become abusive after being few years in a relationship. Is this abuser's fault? Or the fault of the person being abused? My bf of 3 years was good to me for 2 years but now has become so emotionally abusive. I cry m...
A. 17 February 2013: 1. Why do people become abusive after being few years in a relationship?
A: they were always abusive. you just didn't know it yet. abusers put their absolute best foot forward at first. sometimes it only takes a few months to show their true col... (read in full...)
Why do girls act like they don't respect me?
Q. I'm an 18 year old senior guy in high school. I'm very quiet and when I talk I sound all quiet, and I think it makes me sound all shy, timid, and sissy. Even my sister told me I come off as kind of a sissy cause of how quiet I talk. I'm not ug...
A. 17 February 2013: one thing for peace of mind: you'll be out of high school at the end of this year, so you're mostly in the clear. kids in high school are brutal. you'll find that this doesn't happen nearly as much once you leave the high school realm and step into ... (read in full...)
Why is he being so distant after having sex?
Q. So my best friend told me over the Christmas holidays that he has liked me for a long time but never had the courage which was fantastic because I really liked him too. We started hanging out more at school and going to the movies. I was still sort ...
A. 17 February 2013: hey sweetie. seems to me he was being somewhat manipulative by saying he wanted a relationship but not to be boyfriend/girlfriend. honestly, what's the difference between a relationship and being boyfriend/girlfriend? that's confusing to me,... (read in full...)
Why is my ex so cruel to me?
Q. Why would he do that? I hate him so much:(? My ex bf cheated on me and dumped me so he could sleep around. I was heart broken for over a year. He came back begging to try and I gave him another chance cause I loved him so much. But it didn...
A. 17 February 2013: Why do you allow him to make you feel so bad? you and only you are in charge of knowing what you will and will not put up with. this you should most definitely not put up with. you ultimately have the last say. he can't hurt you unless you let y... (read in full...)
My girlfriend still friends with her ex and doesn't respect me.
Q. When I moved to my sisters house there was this other girl stay there and I moved and she was also dating another guy and also she just got engaged to him but after that she cheated on him with me, so we had sex etc... and then we started dating a...
A. 17 February 2013: one thing we know about this girl? she's a liar and a cheater. Big red flag. she didn't think twice about cheating on her fiance at the time with you. so what makes you think she's not gonna turn around and cheat on you with him? she clearly ... (read in full...)
Co-worker does not speak after sex
Q. Ok so, this guy started working with my company about six months ago. Very cute I'm very attracted to him and he is also younger then I am, I'm 38 and he is 26. We would see each other but not talk, Im shy I'm not sure if he is the same way. One ...
A. 17 February 2013: he may not be a player, but he apparently likes casual sex without commitment .. you do the math.
it seems to me that he found you attractive and fun, but that's about the extent of it. he had a good time with you and that's about as far as it we... (read in full...)
The best friend? Or the long distance friend?
Q. I'm in a dilema between two women: the first is my best friend. I've been in love with her since the day we met. About a year ago, I tried to tell her how I felt, but I really couldn't get the words out the way I wanted to, and it ended up with her ...
A. 17 February 2013: you can try with your best friend, but it doesn't sound promising. i think you're in the friend zone. and once a woman sees you as a friend and only a friend, it's nearly impossible for that to change. also, i think women can have male best friend... (read in full...)
Has my ex husband changed or is this a threat?
Q. I have an abusive ex husband who I've recently left, and he really wants to get back together -he's out to a new place for work and has sent this to me - what does this email below mean? Has he really changed or is this a threat or why is he sending ...
A. 17 February 2013: he's doing what a typical abuser does and he's manipulating you. he wants you back and is pretending he has changed. but you can tell he hasn't because his underlying tone is manipulation - pointing out all the things you'll be missing out on and t... (read in full...)
Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?
Q. My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...
A. 17 February 2013: she ignored YOU (her boyfriend) on valentine's day because HE (not her boyfriend) was having emotional issues and she didn't want to be rude to him?!?! wowww. Her priorities are all jacked up! AND she should have told you what was going on in the f... (read in full...)
I gave money to my boyfriend to pay bills but he got a stupid video game!
Q. Hey guys im haveing money issues with my bf and im 17 and need advice. background info is im 17 turn 18 next month my boyfriend is 20. He had a rough life growing up parents on heavey drugs ended up in foster care for awhile. Hes been my bestfriend ...
A. 17 February 2013: next time, don't GIVE him the money. simply take him and buy him what he needs. for example, if he needs food, take him to the store and buy it. if he needs to pay for his power bill, or cell phone bill, take him there and pay it. That way, you ... (read in full...)
He's upset with the gift I gave him -- even complained on lack of gift wrap??? Explain it to me.
Q. Dear Cupids, I have a long distance friend that lives in Germany that I've known for almost 3 years. I'm 25 and he's 23.5. I feel we like each other a little more than friends but each have our own lives, etc. And I don't see them collidi...
A. 17 February 2013: i think he's being a huge, spoiled, bratty weenie. you should have just saved your money. he sent you a gift based on HIS interests. for example, he's an artist. so he sent you artsy shit. a hand-drawn, decorated card, etc. not necessarily stuf... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says a break will benefit both of us but I don't agree!
Q. I didn't think I would have to come here to find some insight, but I am just losing my mind and need some info/opinions from strangers because usually thats advice that is non-biased and you can take on. Well make a long story short...heres th...
A. 14 February 2013: i think breaks are a really terrible thing to do to someone because what it does is keep them in emotional limbo. you don't know whether to stick it out or move on. you don't want to move on in the off chance things with her could work. but you ... (read in full...)
Is this online relationship over?
Q. i have an unusal situation. i met a girl online. i know many people feel on-line relationships are insane. her best friend told me "your insane, get a real girl you can see face to face, she has a man." i showed this to my on-line friend and she u...
A. 13 February 2013: she's not annoyed at you for talking to her friend. she realized she was busted about having a boyfriend and decided to stop talking to you. she's not punishing you and not ignoring you to play a mind game. she's done talking to you. period. and... (read in full...)
What does it mean when men act this way?
Q. My boyfriend and I had an argument. I told him I didn't really think he liked me anymore because he doesn't seem to want to get to know me. He basically said "I can't change who I am I just don't like what you're interested in." He later apologized ...
A. 13 February 2013: it means he's not interested in getting to know you and that he isn't interested in learning about you and what you're into. he doesn't find those things interesting so he doesn't care.
he may have just had a momentary outburst that he didn't m... (read in full...)
How important is a mans height in society
Q. I have an acquaintance who is a few centimeters from being 6 feet tall and he believes he is short and worthless because of it. He brought up a lot of articles and facts about how being short is the worst thing a guy can be and that being 6 feet ...
A. 13 February 2013: i don't know where you're from, but my GOD, you must live in the land of giants. if you do a little google research, you'll discover that the universal average male hight is about 5 foot 8 inches. not even close to 6 feet. the only 2 countries... (read in full...)
Is she just being friendly or interested?
Q. I got to know this girl when i was in my previous company and while i was interested in knowing more about her, i was about to quit and she was taking over my duties so i did not feel it was appropriate and i left it at that. But a few months aft...
A. 13 February 2013: hmmm, could be one of three things:
1. she's just not interested.
2. she's nervous and shy.
3. it really just wasn't a movie she was interested in and she really did have to work (although i'm leaning towards ruling this one out because for... (read in full...)
Is this a good idea? She's never been in a relationship and I want to be her first big crush
Q. I have a huge crush on a girl in my college. She is my junior. We are good friends. Problem is she is a teenager and i am 21 years old so i dont know how to tell her that i like her. She's never been in a relationship and i want to be her first bi...
A. 13 February 2013: there's really nothing you can do to MAKE her have a crush on you. if it were that simple, hell, i'd just make everyone have a crush on me. crushes just kind of happen on their own.
you could flirt with her subtly. for example: smile at her a lo... (read in full...)
Are my fears valid? I am afraid that if I lose weight, I will get noticed just as a person up for sex and they will take no notice of my personality.
Q. Is anyone having a hard time losing weight, because they fear that they will attract guys/girls for the wrong reasons? I am significantly overweight, and am invisible to the opposite sex. I am perfectly presentable, and kind, and likeable othe...
A. 13 February 2013: hahaha that's a really fantastic way to look at it. you're absolutely right. but i say do what makes you feel good. if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself because you want to look and feel better. there's no sure way of telling if someon... (read in full...)
Why does my male friend treat me differently from his other friends?
Q. Hi everyone. Can you help me figure out why this guy seems to treat me differently from our other friends. We hang out in a group of friends. I see him checking me out all the time from across the room or looking at my butt etc. He smile...
A. 13 February 2013: if he's in a relationship, it makes perfect sense, seeing as how his friends would know he's in a relationship. so he goes out of his way to keep them in the dark about being attracted to you. he probably doesn't want his friends to see him flirting ... (read in full...)
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