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writes:I've been seeing this girl for awhile now and up until just this week we were head over heels for each other. Somehow her parents found out about the relationship (we are both adults) and they made her feel very guilty and upset about it as they are not comfortable with her sexuality. She now feels guilty about being with me and wants us to see other people. I'm still crazy about her. Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 She is in a very difficult position and unfortunately your stuck in it too, i know this isnt what you want to hear but if you have told her how you feel and she still cant get past how her parents feel then maybe it is best for both of you to move on.
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reader, nofacecharlie +, writes (3 May 2011):
nofacecharlie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wish she could see how I feel, but she says when she looks at me all she can see is her parents' disappointment.
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reader, nofacecharlie +, writes (2 May 2011):
nofacecharlie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the advice. I've tried talking to her but she doesn't want anything to do with me. I guess I should just start believing she's not coming back.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (2 May 2011):
You need to sit down with her and tell her how you feel about her and your relationship, you need to tell her that you understand that she is in a awful position with her parents, but she is an adult and can not live her life trying to keep them or anyone else happy she needs to live it to make her happy.
Hope this helps
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reader, llifton +, writes (1 May 2011):
 i know exactly what you're going through. the same happened to me while i was in college. the girl i'd been seeing for two years at the time had her mother find out about us, and she immediately broke up with me to try and be with guys.
the problem is right now, she's not completely comfortable with herself. i have no doubt she probably loves you tremendously. but until someone comes to grips completely and fully with their sexuality, they'll never be okay when someone like their parents question them or make them feel guilty. they crack.
honestly, there's really not a whole lot you can do. just keep reminding her how much you love her, and that it's okay to be who she is and you'll always be there for her. she may eventually come back to you. mine did.
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