Is it weird that I like chubby guys?
Q. I'm a tall, skinny 17 year old that likes chubby guys. I just wanted to know if its weird that I like chubby guys? Also I wanted to know if chubby guys like skinny girls?...
A. 10 March 2013: hey, chubby guys need love, too! it's not weird. everyone has their preference and type. you just like the big, teddy bears.
and yes, some chubby guys like skinny girls. once again, though, everyone has a different preference. some chubby guys may... (read in full...)
No pleasure for me, Only doubted relationship with horrid sexual memories. Help!
Q. I am currently at a loss right now. I have serious issues within my marriage its not funny at all. I have been married for almost three years will be three years on March 16th. Personally I am unsure as to where to start. First my husband and I have ...
A. 10 March 2013: you say there are other problems. it sounds like your main one is sex.
when you agree to get married, you agree for better or for worse and to do the best of your ability to fulfill the others needs. however, no where in the fine print does it ... (read in full...)
I was foretold that my girlfriend will go on dating sites saying that I neglected her. Now it came true.
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year and half. Her ex comes to her house regularly to pick up and bring their son home. He comes in, we talk, there are no bad feelings. Around a year ago he dropped a sarcastic remark relating to my girlfriend ...
A. 8 March 2013: typical. always playing the victim. she didn't do anything wrong, etc. god i can't STAND people like her. i'm sorry. anyway, thank god you caught her and thank god it's over. i'm sorry that happened. you're much better off without her.... (read in full...)
He's younger and a playboy. He flirts with me. And disrespects me. He has a Gf. And maybe he has made another girl pregnant. Should I tell his Gf?
Q. Me and this young Guy work together and he is 21 and I am over 10 yrs older than him. I really like him but he sends me mix signals sometimes. I checked out his girlfriend who oworks at the same place we work, but different sections. Ever...
A. 8 March 2013: no you don't tell his girlfriend. you just back out completely and leave this situation alone. don't get involved in it.
why would you want to be with a guy who is cheating on his girlfriend and possibly has a baby with some random chick, while fl... (read in full...)
What do I do with my ex girlfriend's paintings?
Q. I just went through somewhat of a nasty break up with a girl who I exchanged the "I love you"s with. And now I feel hollow inside and used, because of the way she broke up with me and kept me close until she found a new boyfriend two weeks later. ...
A. 8 March 2013: if you're an artist, why not just paint over them like you said? that seems like a good idea! free canvas! lol.
either way, there's definitely no need to keep them for any reason. all it will do is remind you of her and who needs that? throw th... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex anymore or be touched by my boyfriend! How do I tell him?
Q. I'm stuck on how to tell my boyfriend I want to stop having sex for good. The thing is.. he grosses me out so much. And, I've also recently finally realized (through therapy) I have never enjoyed sex. I am very uncomfortable, I think about other th...
A. 8 March 2013: well first things first, that crap you mentioned about him having his hand over your hand rubbing on his junk is just flat out CREEPY. that's incredibly disrespetful and just down right strange on his behalf. he may not like that you told him no ... (read in full...)
Do men get anxious about heterosexual anal sex?
Q. I am wondering if it is common for men to get anxiety about heterosexual anal sex. I recently had it with my girlfriend for the third time and she was the one who became quite forceful about it. It freaked me out a little at the time. I thought ...
A. 8 March 2013: what exactly is bothering you or causing you anxiety? that she is forceful? or that you don't enjoy doing it? a little bit more background info would be necessary to suffiently help. ... (read in full...)
Should I Tell my boyfriend what goes on in my head?
Q. I have low self esteem. Its really bad to where I'd call out of work and miss school so i can stay home and hide under my blankets and cry. I am my worst enemy and for years Ive been trying to get better. But i cant help it when i have my moments. ...
A. 8 March 2013: i think you should talk to him about it. i would be shocked if your boyfriend responded poorly. he will probably be really sensitive and supportive and i'd guess he will also feel upset that you're having such a hard time with this. i know i would ... (read in full...)
I want to get a tattoo but I know my mother won't understand. How can I explain to her how important it is to me?
Q. I'm at this point in life where I have a lot of things on my heart and mind. In spite of that I really need advice about one of the ''little'' things. I want very badly to get a tattoo, even though I am well above the age of consent I am ups...
A. 8 March 2013: hey there.
i can actually relate to where you're coming from. i'm 29 and have a bunch of tattoos myself, that i don't want my parents to know about. i'm completely self-sufficient and on my own and completely responsible, yet for some reason, ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my future husband about this?
Q. I had feelings for my best friend. We were involved in dirty talking. We have not dated each other ever. One day it just happened that we got physical. He pressed my boobs and I gave him a hand job. Nothing happened other than this.I am 21 yr old. ...
A. 8 March 2013: there is a large cultural difference when it comes to these types of things so it's hard for me to know how to give the best advice because it's so different here in america versus where you're from. here in america, it's unheard of NOT to have had ... (read in full...)
I want to rebuild bridges with my old friend, hopefully telling him to stop smoking.
Q. I need some advice, I'm thinking of trying to build bridges with an old friend. We fell out last year because he changed badly and not in a good way. He never seemed bothered about seeing me or any of our other mates once his gf came along and I ...
A. 8 March 2013: honestly, your friend has the right to smoke, if he so chooses. i do understand where you're coming from given your past experiences, and i'm sorry you dealt with that. but if you two can manage to repair your friendship, you don't really have the ... (read in full...)
I was foretold that my girlfriend will go on dating sites saying that I neglected her. Now it came true.
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year and half. Her ex comes to her house regularly to pick up and bring their son home. He comes in, we talk, there are no bad feelings. Around a year ago he dropped a sarcastic remark relating to my girlfriend ...
A. 8 March 2013: do yourself a favor and dump this girl asap. what i can tell you about women like this (from VERY personal experience), is that they are manipulative liars who will drain you emotionally.
my ex gf used to do this very same thing to me. she had/... (read in full...)
My boyfriend smokes a lot of weed...should I be bothered by this?
Q. Hello, I have been in a relationship for about a year and a half now. Ever since I met my boyfriend about 2 years ago, I have known about his marijuana use. He is high pretty much all of the time, and he smokes it through out the entire day, ...
A. 8 March 2013: i, personally, couldn't be with someone who smokes pot all the time. but that's because i don't smoke the stuff and it just isn't an attractive quality to me that someone i'm with can never be sober.
but like you said, it's his choice. i don't ev... (read in full...)
I feel so bad when we have disagreements and nothing seems to help.
Q. Dear Cupid, Please help. My boyfriend and I are basically perfect except when we have relationship problems. We rarely have disagreements but when we do I feel so alone and lower than I've ever felt. I've tried explaining to him that I do not w...
A. 8 March 2013: having disagreements and issues in relationships happen. you can't live your life in fear of having disagreements. if you expect to have a relationship where you never, ever fight, you will be single for the rest of your life. fact.
you admitted... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend that I seen her boyfriend's profile on an online dating website?
Q. I need to know whether I should say something or just stay out of this. I was on a dating site and I saw my friend's bf on there. I made a fake profile and messaged him and he tried to pretend he didn't have a gf and asked me to hook up with him. ...
A. 7 March 2013: you definitely need to tell her! hopefully you still have the messages from this guy to prove everything! problem is, sometimes, once you delete your page from a dating site, it removes the profile picture and everything, so that it will no longer ... (read in full...)
My husband wants sex and I don’t. I love my husband. I just don’t want to have sex with him.
Q. My problem is a little embarrassing, but it’s causing a lot of trouble in my marriage. My husband wants sex and I don’t. I love my husband. I just don’t want to have sex with him. It has gotten to the point I dread the weekend because I know...
A. 7 March 2013: sex is a vital and important part of a healthy marriage. it's a way for the two to emotionally bond as well as physically bond. so him wanting sex isn't ridiculous. it's a normal human need.
is there a particular reason you don't want your hus... (read in full...)
He seemed concerned about my illness but stood me up!
Q. I caught one of those 48 hours viruses. Yesterday, I got a nasty headache (I rarely get headaches so when I have one I can't even see straight) and horrible muscle pain. So yesterday I got home at 5pm and went to bed. I eventually texted my 29yo b...
A. 6 March 2013: i wouldn't be so hurt about the fact that i was sick and he didn't come take care of me so much as just the general fact that he keeps standing you up.
if there's one thing i can't stand, it's inconsistency. if you tell me you're going to come ove... (read in full...)
I know he knows how to kiss, so why just a peck?
Q. Had my first kiss with someone who I've been flirting with for weeks, but it was a peck! He had tried to kiss me on a previous occasion, but I didn't realise and it was awkward, and we didn't kiss, so I told him that I liked him and wanted to kiss ...
A. 6 March 2013: wow he doesn't sound very alpha, that's for sure. maybe he's just incredibly awkward and nervous. or maybe he's just trying to be polite and take things slow?
i hate pecks. lol. so i can't blame you. just be patient with him. he probably likes yo... (read in full...)
How do I stay away from this married man???
Q. Hello. I am involved in an emotional affair with a married guy. We haven't had sex or anything like that. But the attraction and chemistry between us is strong. We work together and used to speak more but recently because of the chemistry he has...
A. 6 March 2013: you said you just got over a man who was in a relationship. so learn from your past mistakes. what good are making mistakes in life accept to learn from them? no sense in making the same mistakes over and over again, ya know?
the solution i would ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always staring at girls and when I complain he says I'm paraoid!
Q. My boyfriend recently went drinking with friends and came home with pictures of him dancing with girls (dirty dancing). And he claimed he brought them for me coz i did something which made him upset, though he couldnt disclose what. Yesterda...
A. 6 March 2013: so your boyfriend went out dancing and took pics of himself all up against other women and showed you strictly to upset you and make you jealous because it was his way of getting back at you for something you did that he won't disclose? wow. that ... (read in full...)
He prefers the internet and porn over sex with me!
Q. I really need help. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend almost 4 years. When we met i thought i found my dream guy. He spends a lot of time on internet. We had sex but very seldom. But he stoped having sex with the exuses not to make me ...
A. 6 March 2013: i don't know why this somewhat alarms me, but it does.
i'm not saying there's something wrong with your boyfriend, but there's something that feels off with the fact that he sits and watches rape porn and gets turned on but won't touch his girl... (read in full...)
No contact now for 8 days -- is he ignoring me?
Q. hey everyone.. i will try to make this short as possible... and i am not tryin to make this a big deal but i want to know what you guys think..ive been talking to this boy for a while.. its been about 7 months now and about in february, my au...
A. 6 March 2013: unfortunately, it sounds to me like he's moved on. his ignoring you probably is his way of letting you know he's no longer invested in this relationship.
if i were you, i'd back off and stop sending him text messages. you don't want to come acr... (read in full...)
She says she's not interested in him, but I don't trust the guy.
Q. I have been dating my current girlfriend for 4 months! Mostly terrific except one thing. She has a male personal trainer/ friend she has known for 15 years. They seem to communicate frequently but never in front of me. She has other male friends ...
A. 6 March 2013: i would honestly say that if she's been friends with this guy for 15 years and they've never done anything, you're probably in the clear.
however, i can see where you're comming from on this. it's never a good feeling wondering if someone likes yo... (read in full...)
Is there one person that would turn straight for, even if for just one date?
Q. This question was kinda inspired by my friend. She was telling me how this chick she saw was so attractive she would turn lesbian for her, and she is currently in a hetero relationship so obviously she didn't turn lol :) What I was wondering fo...
A. 5 March 2013: nope. lol. i'm gay through and through.
i definitely find men attractive and can recognize a nice looking guy. but would i date him or sleep with him? not a chance. i'm secure in my sexuality, lmao. and men don't do it for me like women do. i've... (read in full...)
Should I warn this friend what my ex is like or just stay out of it?
Q. I was dating a guy he bad mouthed everyone including me. talked about himself all the time he had narcissistic personality disorder. - be cruel to me at times i had to suffer through a lot emotionally he never would change. right now ia m in therapy ...
A. 5 March 2013: i would just stay out of it. but that's just my personality. if something has nothing to do with me, i keep my nose out of it.
i can completely see why you feel the desire to warn him, though. but i would keep it to myself, if i were you.... (read in full...)
A man was turned on because I had money in my bra?
Q. when i went to las vegas last summer i won a large sum of money at a lucky slot machine. to keep it safe along with the money i already had with my i put it inside my bra cup. 6100 dollars to be exact. one of the men with us told me its something ...
A. 5 March 2013: We're talking money and breasts .. two of the best things in the world, are you kidding?!?! Lol. So of course it's considered sexy!... (read in full...)
A man was turned on because I had money in my bra?
Q. when i went to las vegas last summer i won a large sum of money at a lucky slot machine. to keep it safe along with the money i already had with my i put it inside my bra cup. 6100 dollars to be exact. one of the men with us told me its something ...
A. 5 March 2013: We're talking money and breasts .. two of the best things in the world, are you kidding?!?! Lol. So of course it's considered sexy!... (read in full...)
Was I dumped on Valentine's Day and I just didn't realize it?
Q. I've been dating a woman since Nov 2012 and we are intimate. I sent her a Valentine's day card where I refer to her as my girlfriend and tell her how I appreciate her. She never responded to my Valentine's day card even though she did receive it. ...
A. 4 March 2013: she's just not interested anymore. you haven't done anything out of the ordinary to overwhelm her. your behavior is pretty standard. unless there's other things you failed to mention. but if i were you, i'd consider this relationship over.... (read in full...)
Was I dumped on Valentine's Day and I just didn't realize it?
Q. I've been dating a woman since Nov 2012 and we are intimate. I sent her a Valentine's day card where I refer to her as my girlfriend and tell her how I appreciate her. She never responded to my Valentine's day card even though she did receive it. ...
A. 4 March 2013: she's just not interested anymore. you haven't done anything out of the ordinary to overwhelm her. your behavior is pretty standard. unless there's other things you failed to mention. but if i were you, i'd consider this relationship over.... (read in full...)
Is my friend's way of dealing with a break up the right way? Or could she be making things worse for her?
Q. I know it's an odd thing to ask, but my friend is trying to deal with a really bad break up and she's going about it in a really unusual way! She said instead of thinking what she did wrong, or wondering what happened and missing him and thinking...
A. 4 March 2013: i don't think there is such a thing as a right way or a wrong way of going about dealing with a break up.
for me, personally, i actually do the same thing as her. it may hurt a bit in the short-term. but what it does is give her the motivati... (read in full...)
I made a mistake by cheating and boyfriend met someone. How do I get him back?
Q. Hi all. Two years ago today I was dumped by my ex. We both did things to each other. I accept I made him insecure by constantly flirting with attractive guys when we went out, and by flirting on dating sites (which he always found out about). I did ...
A. 4 March 2013: i think people are answering your question, i just think they're not giving you the responses you desired. but literally everyone has said the same thing and sees something you're missing. i think you'd be wise to listen.
would there be a chance f... (read in full...)
I made a mistake by cheating and boyfriend met someone. How do I get him back?
Q. Hi all. Two years ago today I was dumped by my ex. We both did things to each other. I accept I made him insecure by constantly flirting with attractive guys when we went out, and by flirting on dating sites (which he always found out about). I did ...
A. 4 March 2013: sounds like you two are toxic for each other. you may have a chance at getting him back, but have you made any personal changes so that the same things wouldn't repeat themselves? if not, i'd say just let the past be the past. otherwise, the past ... (read in full...)
Am I gay now, if I had sex with my friend once?
Q. Mod note: OP is a male. I'm a young man. Some time ago I broke up with my girlfriend, it was very hard and painful, because we had a long relationship, but I had to end it because she lied to me, cheated on me and did other nasty things. That even...
A. 4 March 2013: first, you say you're against homosexuality. you think it's wrong. i'm not one to ever preach or anything, but i'm gay myself, and personally, i don't understand why straight people think they get as say as to whether someone's sexuality is "right ... (read in full...)
We liked each other as kids, but years later I have trust issues
Q. Hi everyone :) I recently reunited with a guy that I have know for about 7 years now (I'm 20 by the way). We used to live in the same apartment complex for 3 years and we would play at the tennis courts, go swimming, and just hang out pretty much ...
A. 4 March 2013: well i would never suggest to anyone to just trust someone with their whole heart once they literally just started dating. yes, you may have known this guy for years, but knowing someone and dating someone are two very different things.
just ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel THAT miserable after ending a very bad relationship? What if the misery taints our own relationship? Please help!
Q. The situation is this: I got close with a female friend who at the time had a boyfriend. She wanted to make our relationship physical; we had very strong feelings for each other. At first I declined but, upon her insistance that her current ...
A. 4 March 2013: yeah it's normal. she jumped right out of one relationship and straight into another with you. that's asking for disaster.
she shouldn't have been with you while she was still with her ex. that just goes to show she's untrustworthy. plus, if you t... (read in full...)
Does this hug mean she likes me or is she playing games with my heart?
Q. So long story short (because this story is really long), 2 years ago we liked eachother a lot but she stopped liking me cuz I was ypung and really immature. So recently I tried to talk to her because I'm way more mature now, and I really like her. ...
A. 4 March 2013: sounds like game-playing to me. could be wrong, but that's just my impression.... (read in full...)
My partner won't say he was breaking up with me but told his friend I was stalking him.
Q. My partner just upped and left and I don't know how to deal with it. We never lived together and the last few months had been hard as he had to move away for work - only 150 miles away though so we went from seeing eachother 4 or 5 times a week to ...
A. 4 March 2013: jesus! that's a horrible thing to do to someone! it gives you absolutely no closure at all, whatsoever. i'm so sorry this guy did this to you.
whether that post on facebook was about you or not, either way, you've not done anything wrong here. he... (read in full...)
Sex was bad with my ex. So why am I still fantasizing about him?
Q. Sex with my ex boyfriend was horrible…we had no chemistry…I was shy to tell hm what I wanted and he was also shy. Since our break up, I still fantasize about having sex with him every single day and imagine this to be good sex whilst i know he kills ...
A. 3 March 2013: it just sounds to me like you're not over him. just because you two had bad sex together doesn't mean that you didn't love him or still enjoy the physical closeness of being with him physically. i would imagine that's why you're still fantasizing ... (read in full...)
Should I settle down with my boyfriend even though I am not physically attracted to him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now. He loves me a lot and wants to be with me forever. I'm not sure if i want to stay with him though. His character is great, loving, caring, clever, honest etc but i don't feel that sexually attra...
A. 3 March 2013: i honestly went through this very same thing myself, not too long ago. i date women is the only difference, but i was seeing this incredible woman. we clicked on every single level. we were together for over six months and never even remotely came ... (read in full...)
He left me standing mid date, with no explaination.
Q. Me and my 30yo boyfriend were hanging out with friends at a coffee shop. He got a phone call (didn't see who it was), went outside to answer it. He never came back. We got there at 9:40pm, he got the call around 10:20. I waited, but my friends w...
A. 3 March 2013: you may want to make sure he's okay first and foremost. that really rather alarms me. i mean, is it possible that he had an emergency?
if you can rule out emergency, i'd be PISSED. i would NOT stay with a person like that. that's the most rude, ob... (read in full...)
Everybody knew about my boyfriend's pregnant girlfriend but me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and I just recently found out that not only has he been cheating on me for years but the girl is now pregnant. The reason I found out was because a friend of the family told me. When I asked him ...
A. 3 March 2013: the silver lining out of all of this, if there is one, is that at least you never got pregnant and got stuck with this guy permanently, also. or at least you didn't say that you two have any kids together, so i'm assuming you don't.
there... (read in full...)
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