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writes:long story short my ex and i broke up 8 almost 9 months ago ever since its been on and off with us talking hanging, out telling me he wants me hook ups, dates ect. So recently I had asked if he was talking to anyone else.. he replyed ya, arent you too ?, I know you are. I was so mad since we hooked up in the past two weeks 3 times hungout ect. So I did something bad and contacted the girl and told her everything i felt bad she ended telling me they were together for 5 month!!!!! 5 months i was shocked well she didnt believe me but i dont care about that .. Im glad i found out.. but why would my ex do that keep that from me ? call me contact me , put the moves on me? do that to her? i would think he stil had feelings for me but im no dr. im so confused. then calls me and acts like im the bad guy when hes the one trying to be the player? im really really dont get it whatca think
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reader, llifton +, writes (22 April 2011):
 what i think is he's a jackass. he may still have feelings for you, he may not. but either way, you're looking at this situation all wrong. this guy is a liar and a cheater. so does it really matter what his true intentions are? i wouldn't go back to that guy even if he were the last dude on the planet. he would only lie and cheat on you just like he's doing to his current girlfriend. i would take the current knowledge you now have, and use that to get over him. best of luck.
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reader, sunkissed29  +, writes (22 April 2011):
It sounds like your ex is playing games with both of you. I would just stop the hookups/dates and maybe just remain plain friends with him. Better yet, don't even talk to him that much anymore, if that's a possibility for you. It's not fair to you or the other girl, and what he's doing is extremely selfish. However, if you want to clear things up, have an honest conversation with him and ask him what exactly is going on and why he's doing what he's doing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2011): Short answer: because to him you are good enough to play with but not good enough to keep around for the long haul.
He doesn't have to woo you because he already has you and you can't blame him for thinking that because you've been sleeping with him (I assume that is what you mean by 'hook up with him').
Contacting his girfriend was in very poor taste. Now you just look like the psycho ex and believe me, that is how he'll spin it. You should have simply walked away and severed all contact with him. No explanations given.
He's not a decent person. Learn from this and make better choices in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2011): The only thing you have to do is kicking his ass out of your life once and forever, This back and forth usually is normal after breakup because it is difficult to cut everything suddenly and this help ex friends to get use to not seeing each other until they cut the connection completely, BUT his case is different he has been playing with you while seeing the other gill from 5 months ago! Stop talking and seeing him now and if he contact you again you should treat him harshly and tell him that you know about his relationship with the other girl, he may go away by himself!
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