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anonymous
writes:oh my god i walked in on my best friend having sex with her boyfriends best friend! i dont know what to do. her boyfriend is my cousin and even though we're not that close hes still blood!should i snitch on my best friend and help my cousin or what??
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 "Will your cousin believe you? It will only be your words against hers... If they were to break up, you were the reason"
Well whether you deicde to tell or not is up to you. However, if they were to break up YOU WON'T BE THE REASON.
The reason is because the girlfirend was cheating on your cousin.
If you do decide to tell, then there's no guilt on your part. Personally, for me it would depend on my relationship with the person being cheated; if we are close (true friends or close family) I'd like to think I'd be able to tell them. However, given your situation I'd prefer to tell your best friend to tell her boyfriend what she's done or you will.
Whatever happens these things do tend to come out in the end with or without any "help". Just a matter of time. I feel sorry for your cousin. But if the table was turned, ask youself; would you rather have known? Or would you rather have carried on in a relationship where someone was cheating on you behind your back? Was this the first time this has happened? Or the first time you've caught them?
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (28 February 2008):
Tell your so called best friend to tell her boyfriend what she's done then if she doesn't own up.It's not your responsibility to tell your cousin.If you are brave enough you can tell him but now isn't the time.You may end up looking like the villain here.
Good Luck.
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Hey hon.. u gotta think about this carefully.. who would your cousin belive, also if they did split then you could be blamed, even though you clearly aren't to blame.. mail me if you want to talk x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Yes. Cause I thought about it for a second and if I were your cousin, I would feel like I deserve to know and would feel so betrayed and let down if my own cousin didn't tell me something so important.
And if you don't want to tell him yourself then have another family member inform him. But someone has to let him know.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Will your cousin believe you? It will only be your words against hers.
See no evil , hear no evil and speak no evil!
If they were to break up,you were the reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): It depends on how serious the relationship is supposed to be. I presume your cousin is a similiar age to you in which case it can be put down to all part of growing up at a later date and therefore say nothing.If it is supposed to be a serious relationship that I think he ought to know he is being taken the piss out of.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): I would keep quiet but that is me. It wont stay a secret forever, so i would let it lie. But i know others who would definately tell.
take care
xx
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