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*oviefan
writes:I really like this girl, and she knows i do. But i have never really asked her out. She is single right now and has 7 guys other then me who like her and she likes one of them and likes a couple others. She keeps talking about all this around me and keeps hitting on me when she gets the chance. But because of this i am scared to ask her out not only because i dont want to get rejected but i dont want to upset her. Or make her feel cornerd by so many people liking her as she already does.And she seems to like me because she hits on me alot, teases me, touches me ever chance she gets, tickles me now that she has discoverd that my waist it ticklish, and seems to really trust me with things she wouldnt trust many with. And i really want to ask her out and not look back and be like dam why didnt i ask her out.I almost asked her out tonight but because of somethings that happend i didnt feel it right to bring that up at that time. And i rarely seem to get the chance to ask her out, because i can never seem to be able to get her alone. I dont know what to do now. Is it ok to ask her out at all,is it ok to ask over myspace or aim if it is ok to ask her out. I would really appreciate any help. Thanks, I hope i get a response soon.
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (21 March 2008):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well i went to ask her out the day after i got answers on here and well i was sitting in class with her and having a conversation, and my luck the day im going to ask her she is going out with someone already, I was a bit agrivated and depressed at that moment. But now ive picked another target problem is according to a friend who was in the class where i asked her out she doesnt like me anymore and doesnt want to hurt me and cant say no to my face. UGH i hate my luck with girls....So should i listen to my friend or wait for an answer from her.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (28 February 2008):
It rarely happens that you are the only one asking a girl out and sometimes you may have to steal her from someone.It's like writing an exam in a hall.You may be a thousand but concetrate on your work and never make a mistake of comparing yourself with others.Just da same try your luck and imagine you were the only one asking her out.Face to face is the ultimate style,just be composed and don't go with any memorised lines they never work.
Good Luck.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Hi again,
boy, university days are different from when I was there!
Maybe its an American thing, but it would have taken years to find a virgin at my college! :)
Anyhoo, enough of that, I know what its like. You get the sweaty palms, the heart racing, trying to figure out what the hell to say, thinking "oh my god why did I say that"!, but you know what , you just gotta do it. Don't wait for this or wait for that, take the plunge now dude, just do it!
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (28 February 2008):
Moviefan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow this seemed really straight forward now and im amazed Collaroy remembered my previous post, thats something i would of probably personally never rememberd. But just to get that out of the way while on the subject, she has said on several occasions she will not have sex until she is married or ingaged and she is still a virgin so she has stuck to it so far. So no worries there.And im not that terriefied of rejection, yeah im nervous about it and its there but it doesnt hinder me most of the time, but it has at times. My shyness at times can be a problem also because it becomes VERY EVIDENT when im nervous. And I have heard mixed things about asking out someone online but in the past i have refrained from doing it anyways. But its a little irritating that i rarely can get her alone, so ill wait until the next time i can find her and get the chance.And even tonight i almost did it over the net because after an hour of Guitar Hero 3 and taking a nice shower my confidence and mind set were perfect to do something like that face to face or otherwise, but i decided to get on her and check my question. And luckily, i didnt do it online and i hope these mindset hold outs till tommorow or friday.But i hope everything works out for the better, i can be confident but sometimes that goes straight out the window when im nervous especially when asking someone out.Thanks everyone ill try to message you all if you care to know how things work out.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Say something sweet to her or give her a praise before you ask her out.If she says no, tell her maybe next time when she is free .
You need to act confident and and take any answer in your stride.If you are rejected, don't feel bad about it. Just act normal.
Don't worry about the other guys or be concerned about them. You are a special and unique person.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): I love Gothgirl's answer! Short and to the point. lol And I totally agree with her. Ask her out and do it face to face. Show her you have some self-respect,integrity and the balls to do it the right way. And so what if she says 'no'. This is the life of a guy in the dating world. You need to learn that rejection is not the end of the world. If it happens, accept it graciously and carry on. Rejection just opens the door for you to finding someone much more suited to you.. It takes you on a new life path but the longer you pine away for this girl and not do anything, the more you hinder your progression to actually dating her. Dating is fun but it's risky. Learn that. There is always a chance you'll get turned down. Dating prepares you for life and know if she says no, she will definitely not be the last female you will date.. There will be others and with each girl you date, you will learn more about the complicated facets of relationships. You sound like an incredibly nice person...a caring , good, compassionate person and an awesome friend to her. I think she sees that too. But you need to do this because if you don't jump on the bandwagon here and allow your fears to drag you down...you won't be dating anyone, anytime soon. You'll be left in the dust, hun. Take a chance--a risk ...ask her out.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (28 February 2008):
Hi,
whatever you do, don't ask her out over myspace it's just too impersonal.
Ask her face to face, by the sounds of it she is pretty keen anyway. Now I know it can be pretty intimidating when a girl has a lot of guys chasing after her. But you will always be wondering why you didn't ask her out if she eventually hooks up with someone else. The fact that she has got all these guys chasing her means she will never in a million years ask you out. So it's time to take the bull by the horns and ask her. A good way is to make it something that is relatively harmless, like a movie during the day or going or a day trip somewhere ( something that is fun and will only be the two of you ). In other words something that takes you two out of your usual environment with where nobody can interrupt.
Take the plunge buddy, it can be nerveracking but that's what life is all about. You will regret it if you don't.
p.s. now I may be wrong but were you not the guy who said you were worried that potential girlfriends would only be interested in you because of your large appendage? If you are worried in this case just spend a lot of time with her before you have sex. But whatever you do don't ask her is that why she is interested as it would be like a girl saying to you are you interested in me only because I have large boobs.
Good luck dude.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Ask her out.
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