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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey, I've been seeing this girl for 3 and a half years now and I think i'm losing interest in her. I've had the same feeling before, when she told me she thought she liked someone else. I've been thinking about someone else recently and was wondering if that's why i feel like i do. You know, like, bored because we don't live in the same towns, so we don't get to see each other much. So flirting with this new girl makes me feel wanted and happy.What should I do? I don't wanna end it and go running back again, but I dont wanna be in a relationship that confuses me and limits her. Because she is a beautiful girl and has always got guys texting her, guys wanting to go out drinking with her, and I hate it! It's killing me!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): There is little in your post to indicate that your relationship was rewarding beyond the initial stage. If you've been bored for a while (especially if you've been bored most of your 3.5 yrs together), split up.
I've been in your gf's shoes, and I wished my bf had fessed up to being bored the way you do, so I could move on w/ my life. The 2 situations may be different in ways I don't see. You're the best judge of whether you're holding her back or not.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 If you cannot take the pressure, there is no point holding on to this relationship.She is not your type. Let her go.
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reader, gretchen  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 You need to ask her whether she is interested THAT WAY in anybody else, and you also need to tell her that you've become interested THAT WAY in someone other than her. Let your conversation from this point flow. You both need to be honest with each other.
Talk about what it is that you like and dislike about your relationship, and let her do the same. Ask yourselves why isn't it going the way you hoped after 3 years? Are there some unresolved issues here? It sounds like there are.
If your conversation ends with a breakup, be glad that it was a mutual breakup and that you both agreed on it by talking about it.
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