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I'm too scared to snog!

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Question - (5 April 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 5 April 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

hi

i have this boyfriend, but im to scared to snog him

everyone is telling me to and i dont no what to do

but the thing is i have never snogged someone before.

please help, and write back to me

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A female reader, RebeccaMae United States +, writes (5 April 2010):

Hey--- if you're not ready to kiss him yet, the simple answer is don't. If he really likes you, he'll wait. (and that goes for more than kissing down the line as well.) Don't let ANYONE pressure or convince you to do something you're not sure about.

If you aren't doing it just because you think you'll be bad at it--don't even worry about that. There really isn't a wrong way at this point. Plus, you'll both be so nervous that it's not going to be like the movies anyway. Focus on why you *want* to kiss him. What do you like about him? Trust me, think about those things, and the entire thing will go smoothly.

p.s.... don't worry. It's a bit awkward for everyone their first time kissing. :) Even your boyfriend.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (5 April 2010):

Laura1318 agony auntIt comes naturally when you are ready. Don't bow to peer pressure. What you and him do is your own business and none of their concerns.

Don't worry or stress over it.

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (5 April 2010):

Tisha-1 agony auntHi there! How old are you? Are you really 18-21?

If you're feeling too scared to snog, then I think you're not really ready. So don't feel pressured to do it, okay? Friends who dare you to do things you don't want or need to do aren't very nice. Ignore the comments, bring up another subject or walk away. Just get to know him better and maybe it won't be so scary when you're a bit older.

Take care.

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A female reader, paintmynails United Kingdom +, writes (5 April 2010):

Firstly you need to take anyone else out of the equation but you and your boyfriend. No one can decide what you are and aren't ready for but you.

And even what they have said they might have done... could well be a lie!

Trust your own instincts before you trust anyone else.

Take things slowly, if you don't feel comfortable kissing your boyfriend intimately, you don't have to. But it is something enjoyable for a couple to do :) and practice definitely makes perfect!

If you feel comfortable talking to your boyfriend about this, maybe explain that you're feeling nervous, he might even feel the same way! Nerves are natural and show you care. If he isn't sensitive about the situation, he isn't worth it.

Good luck, hope this helps!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010):

honestly, ive been in your position before(from a guys pov)...i wanted to kiss my girl so bad but i was worried i would be a bad kisser or something...but then finally i just screwed it and got it over with-after, i couldnt believe i'd ever waited! i understand what you mean tho...you get all uptight..but you should just do it....if he's your bf..and you love him....nothing can go wrong! trust me...you wont regret it.

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A female reader, chaos girl United Kingdom +, writes (5 April 2010):

don't listen to what everyone else is telling u o do. go at ur own pace and when the time comes and it happens it'll all come naturally

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